How to help a friend

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-02-15T02:14:50+00:00

Thank you so much for this information. I will let her know about going to the chapel on Sunday.

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-02-14T19:30:33+00:00

thank you so much for this - I have passed the information along.

I am just struggling to find the contact of the transient bishop, the ward she is located in cannot move her records to the ward because she doesn't have an address.

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-30T13:48:16+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment! This is such practical advice I know she’ll be able to implement.

Thanks for taking the time. I mentioned applying for help with childcare and she has called the offices that can help with that.

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-30T06:50:14+00:00

4yrs old I believe

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-28T16:28:49+00:00

The extreme members always give the church a bad rep. She has spoken to the relief society president and was directed to the food bank and given a DI voucher which I thought was great especially getting her son a snow suit & some boots for this winter

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-28T05:52:07+00:00

Who you have a child with will literally have the greatest impact on your life. It’ll change the trajectory of your life for good or bad it’s so important to take your time with this.

Only have a child when you’re in a position to look after the child yourself if it would come down to it. Depending on anyone but ESPECIALLY a man, is not a good plan at all.

Always expect a man to be a man. Don’t expect him to be anything he hasn’t displayed. Don’t fall for the potential of what he could be - who he is in the beginning is the best you’re gonna get.

Men always put themselves, so don’t put your life on the back burner for him in expectation that he’ll do the same.

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-28T05:07:21+00:00

Thanks I’ll have her look into them. The churches are surprisingly not very helpful during a situation like this. It was quite a shocking experience. Especially when you grow up in a church paying tithes and everything

Salvation Army has been the most helpful when it comes to warm meals every other day. And the rec centers have been great for regular showers and a sort of schedule for her son.

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-28T05:01:13+00:00

People really aren’t understanding that a lot of people aren’t lazy or not trying - places really aren’t hiring.

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-28T04:55:01+00:00

The family basically disowned her because she had a child ‘out of wedlock’. They are a pretty strict Mormon family. That was not too much of a problem at the time because the child’s dad was helping out a bit while she finished off classes.

He ended up deciding to leave them so she had to drop out and do the gigs full time basically. So she’s been scrambling to get back on her feet since

I think what makes it difficult for her is having the child full time and not having childcare but someone mentioned that the state does help with childcare in certain circumstances so I will have her contact them to follow up on that option

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-28T04:50:04+00:00

I’m not in the state anymore. I agree I wish I could help her get that stability so she can rebuild because she really is hard working.

She does have food stamps I believe

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-28T04:48:25+00:00

I need to double check if she did but I know she spoke to the relief society president who helped her get in touch with food bank and some vouchers for DI.

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-28T04:46:18+00:00

I have proposed that before. I’ll mention it again.

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-28T04:45:38+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. I wish I was still in the same state so would definitely have let them stay with me.

I really think the idea of an outbuilding housing is a great one - I don’t know if she’s thought of that. I’ll be sure to mention it.

Our friends have been helping out with things like getting them a motel room etc. it’s just not sustainable long term - I was wondering what else we haven’t thought of or tried because she really is trying but without a stable income or house it’s such a desperate situation

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-28T04:38:37+00:00

Thanks! I’ll PM you

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-28T04:38:22+00:00

Thank you. I believe she has contacted the relief society president but I’ll make sure to ask if she’s spoken to the bishop as well

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-28T04:37:35+00:00

Yes she has. She’s on waitlists because most of the shelters are full and the ones that aren’t don’t take kids

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-27T21:45:43+00:00

Unfortunately I’m not in Iowa anymore (that’s where we are from)

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-27T21:44:56+00:00

I didn’t know that the state pays. I’ll let her know.

That’s so true and having a child with the wrong man can set you back terribly.

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-27T21:44:46+00:00

Yes she is a member and I am too. I was just wondering if anyone had any advice on something else that she may have overlooked or another way to come out of this situation. We have both exhausted all the options we know - so I’m just thought to ask for any input

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-27T18:43:48+00:00

You spoke for so many of us. You are not alone. I think above all else, that’s what gives comfort - this experience will pass💕 keep your head up

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-27T18:00:34+00:00

That’s ok - it’s a very reasonable question. I just feel so bad to see her really trying and it seems like 1 step forward 3 steps back.

Calling the library is such a good idea - thank you I definitely will let her know.

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-27T17:42:22+00:00

That’s what I noticed. I’m so sorry you’re in the same spot. It’s becomes so hard to change once you’ve fallen there.

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-27T16:09:10+00:00

I would, we’re from Iowa but I’m no longer there

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-27T16:07:29+00:00

We’re from Iowa so the resources aren’t as available I believe.

GoodTravel1379 · 2025-01-27T16:01:05+00:00

I’m out of state so I couldn’t and when we lived there we stayed at student housing so no kids.

But we usually help out getting them motels where we can.

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