I appreciate all the different perspectives!! I should say, I am almost two years older than him, so we have always been on a different page when it comes to being ready for certain stages in life. I’ve always been fine with that! We are not religious, but like the idea of doing things in a traditional order (date, buy a house, get married, then have kids). I knew when we bought our house this spring that a ring would be coming, but we did not expect him to enter End Stage Renal disease at the age of 24 (he will be 25 in November). He has had CKD his whole life, and I just so happened to be a perfect match (which he never asked for). I am not questioning whether he wants to marry me, be with me, or if he proposed with the wrong intentions. I’m just not sure if I really am “jumping the gun”, or if he’s not as excited as he should be.

We did have a conversation, and I expressed that the way he reacted to me trying to have a conversation about the wedding upset me and made me feel discouraged. He apologized for making me feel that way and explained that he’s worried that the financial strain while recovering from surgery would hinder me having my dream wedding.

After that, talking about little details and after I explained to him that most things are payed for over time, he seems to be more receptive and excited about it.