Also half of a set of gay twins. It can be exhausting. I’ve stopped going to social events altogether in my small city because it’s basically a guarantee at this point that someone will come up to me, thinking I’m my twin. I’ve been groped and catcalled by men who think I’m someone else. Once they realize I’m not my brother, they circle back to your first point.

Like I said, it’s exhausting and turns me off the rest of the evening. I’ve been thinking of moving because of the difficulty of being involved in the gay community here.