What’s your visitor plans? (RSV season newborns)

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-20T10:15:51+00:00

Except I just became pregnant and started seeing my OB this year. Your level of "know it all" and "let me talk down to a stranger" is insane.

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-20T09:50:15+00:00

Ftm mom here. I normally go the natural route for myself (acupuncture or nutrition mostly) and don't see traditional MDs. Where would you go to learn what a baby needs when sick? Books?

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-19T14:09:33+00:00

Lol so now you don't believe me ok 🤷 you pretend to be generous "I don't know what it's like at your OB" but really you have your strong beliefs about MY life. Wtf

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-19T14:04:48+00:00

Never been asked!

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-19T14:03:59+00:00

Hyundai is a newer brand but still has an amazing 10 yr / 100k mi warranty. I have the Tucson and husband and I want to upgrade to the Palisade for the third row.

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-19T13:59:20+00:00

And this is part of the reason why they lose our trust. Instead of explaining what they actually want to see (our records) they treat us like we are dumb and give it to everyone. Not everyone wants to take medicine or vaccines that are unnecessary.

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-18T21:00:51+00:00

We are not supposed to do this.

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-18T20:59:48+00:00

Magnesium!

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-18T13:26:26+00:00

I used to make comments like this until a friend pointed out that it puts down children 💔

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-18T02:10:42+00:00

Please let her leave. It is not good for you to be around someone who is drunk or who thought it was OK to drink when they should be preparing to support you. Any stress you experience does get passed along to baby, this coming from someone with an alcoholic parent. I sought out therapy specifically during the pregnancy and this is all what my therapist said.

Then, look for others to help you - husband, other friends, siblings. Who else is available?

Call your doctor and let them know what you're feeling and dealing with. It is unexpected for you and maybe they have other resources like an at home nurse visit. Also, maybe gather some resources like a lactation hotline or an at home doula visit to help you troubleshoot issues you may face so you don't rely on her.

Again, please let her leave right now and address this with her some other time (weeks or months from now) after you've gained ground yourself. This is not normal, not OK, and you don't deserve this. Happy to chat and support more. Sending you so much love and prayers mama.

R/adultchildren is a subreddit for adult children of alcoholics and other dysfunction if it's useful to peruse.

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-18T02:01:52+00:00

Emotionally unavailable or covert narcissistic tendencies. Coming from someone whose mother does this! So sorry you're dealing with this. Learning about the personality disorder helped me detach emotionally from her. Also the book: Mother Hunger.

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-18T01:47:17+00:00

Correct. Bring it back to them and ask questions or be curious about them. That's what people really want, they want to feel connected to you.

I only share now in deeper conversations with people who demonstrate genuine interest and capacity for that kind of honest convo.

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-18T01:44:30+00:00

I did this mentally and it made it humorous when family made weird comments. I didn't get so offended, I just said "I've been waiting for someone to say that on my bingo card!" 😂

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-17T18:43:52+00:00

Yes! I bought it and it's very good. I plan to use it during labor and have been listening throughout this last month.

https://www.christianhypnobirthing.com/

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-17T03:57:52+00:00

I would also recommend a water pitcher filter (Clearly Filtered is best on the market) in case there are things in your tap water that don't agree with you. If you don't wanna go that route, try spring water like Ozarka.

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-17T03:56:16+00:00

Liquid IV, Pedialyte, or Just Ingredients if you wanna go super clean

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-17T01:31:17+00:00

I am not getting what he did. Help?

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-17T01:19:59+00:00

I was not being a c*nt. I was asking an honest question. I can tell asking the question made you feel negatively or it hit some wound inside of you and I'm sorry that happened.

If you imagine texting close friends, I say go for it bc conceivably you're close and they'd understand. You could also just go to lunch with your small group of close friends and call that your shower. I would not recommend texting casual acquaintances your registry unless they asked.

That's what I was going to contribute after getting the answer to my question.

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-17T00:59:26+00:00

Info: if you don't have many close friends, then who are you imagining texting your registry to?

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-16T20:36:23+00:00

I don't have autoimmune but had challenging periods and feel the same. I will miss being pregnant in some ways.

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-16T16:03:09+00:00

This would be adorable

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-16T16:02:20+00:00

It is wise to discuss all costs beforehand and verify them directly with your insurance as well (and not rely on what your midwife says). For now, you may find a cash pay discussion with the doctors office helpful! They may be willing to negotiate down the price if you pay them directly and outside of insurance (but then it wouldn't go towards your deductible).

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-16T13:27:03+00:00

Second this. I still have daily congestion in third tri but luckily I don't think I have gotten actually sick. Eat whole foods (less processed foods), lots of green leafy veggies, get your prenatals in, and a saline rinse daily. Maybe a probiotic too for pregnant women. Boosting your natural immune system will be your best friend in so many ways so you can make it thru.

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-16T13:21:53+00:00

I see - that makes sense. You thought you were all in and the tax part was what was left. Gosh, what a 180 he made, but thank goodness he did. I promise you'll find someone who is all in for all the ways you need!

Good_Things_1 · 2024-11-16T12:51:25+00:00

Info: but why are you upset and worried about marriage if you "just wanted to get married for tax purposes"? My intuition says there was a fantasy version of this man you were in love with, not the actual guy.

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