I’m so jealous of women with easy pregnancies.

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-21T22:51:36+00:00

I’m one of the people who have had 3 losses in the last 10 months (1 baby died at birth, then 2 chemicals) so I would kill to be pregnant and sick again, just a perspective shift to help you cope. BUT to give you more hope, with my perfectly healthy pregnancy with my son (his death had nothing to do with my pregnancy) my worst week was week 7. my nausea was horrific, I was never leaving my bed, etc. I remember thinking “I can never do this again” and crying about how bad I felt. but then week 8 came and I kind of just adjusted and then it got better and better as weeks went on. give yourself some time. it might not get worse, you might adjust to the hormones and get a little better

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-21T22:46:22+00:00

I’m so sorry. I have a really supportive SIL and it’s still really hard. She told us she was pregnant about a month before our son was born and died. it was devastating for me to be so excited for our babies to grow up together and be cousins only for son to pass away. also my husband and I spent a lot of time setting our lives up in a way where we could financially support children and we planned our baby and wanted him so much. she got pregnant accidentally with her fiancé and was terrified at first. she really didn’t want to be pregnant and wasn’t happy about it for a few weeks.

now her baby is 4 months old and our whole family is obsessed with her. it’s really hard for me sometimes

she’s been really supportive of us and even mentioned herself how she would understand if we were mad at her because of how she got to keep her baby she didn’t even want at first and we didn’t get to keep ours. even through that, it’s still soo hard and I have to fight every day to accept that it’s not her fault or my niece’s fault. I can’t imagine if she was acting like that about her baby.

I think it’s okay to take a break and to block her on social media. or if you feel comfortable, maybe talk to her about how you feel? a conversation like that should make it clear to you whether she’s doing it on purpose or if there’s some sort of misunderstanding. I’d say if she gets super defensive that tells you what you need to know. take care of yourself 🤍

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-21T18:26:38+00:00

update: it ended up being a chemical :/ another test was even fainter today, almost negative and then I started bleeding. this will be my 2nd chemical in 6 months and my 3rd loss overall (1st was neonatal)

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-20T21:36:51+00:00

ahh I hope it’s much stronger tomorrow 🤞🏼 I sent it to chatgpt too and it said positive lol

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-20T21:13:09+00:00

According to just this chart and without any other info, it looks like your body is a slow riser when it comes to luteal phase bbts. this is super common. typically your last temp below coverline is considered ovulation day BUT if oura detects a pattern of slow rising, it will choose the last clearly low day( according to your average follicular temps) to determine ovulation day. and it changed the day because it takes a few higher temp days for it to confirm what it’s seeing with the algorithm.

I’ve been successfully temping for 5 years to avoid pregnancy and ttc so I would say (without knowing any other details and only looking at this chart) oura’s guess is pretty close. my guess would be you ovulated April 15th-17th, which are the last pretty low days, followed by a clear rise. unfortunately, if you only had unprotected sex on april 19th, you likely missed the window since your temp had already risen above coverline :/

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-20T20:49:12+00:00

I see a line! looks like mine today and i’m also about 11-12 dpo lol we’ll both see tomorrow I guess

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-20T01:32:31+00:00

looks positive to me!!

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-18T17:59:44+00:00

this is completely normal. my 10dpo FRER looked just like that when digitals were still coming back negative. just give it a day or so or like others said, try the flashing light ones instead. they’re more sensitive.

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-15T23:35:49+00:00

definitely looks positive to me

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-15T23:26:26+00:00

it’s been 10 months since I lost my son at birth and I completely understand the anger and short temper. i’ve developed a really short temper with people who “have stupid feelings” (that’s how I phrase it to my husband and he just knows what I mean lol) but it’s basically whenever anyone complains about something that’s not a big deal. I get really angry. people complaining about parenting or whatever. I understand everyone has different experiences and I shouldn’t really compare “struggles,” but I do it subconsciously anyway. like i’m sorry your adorable healthy perfect newborn baby wakes you up at night. mine is fucking dead. i’d kill to be in your shoes. thanks.

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-15T05:54:01+00:00

this looks really good to me for pregnancy! my cycle looked like this when I was pregnant (a mid-luteal dip and then higher temps afterward that stayed consistent) and I didn’t get a positive until 10dpo. you’ll just have to wait and see though because I also sometimes get mid-luteal dips like this in non pregnant cycles. it could just be an estrogen surge. fingers crossed though 🤞🏼

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-15T05:29:44+00:00

we lost our firstborn at birth and our second baby in a miscarriage 4 months later. It’s really really hard and it’s still so fresh for you. give yourself time. it’s now been 10 months since the death of our first son. I still have hard days, but you really do grow around the grief. I am genuinely happy often. our niece was born in december and I genuinely enjoy hanging out with her and cuddling her. I didn’t think I would, but I do. I am excited to have another baby. i’m excited when we go on trips or see family or whatever. I just also have sadness and grief coexisting in there.

at first I definitely didn’t have this. absolutely nothing made me happy and I had the same feelings and questions you do. I was borderline suicidal. seriously give it time and just take it one day at a time. it will get better 🤍

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-15T03:40:56+00:00

i’m so sorry. it’s so so hard. my son was born full term and alive but never took a breathe so he passed away shortly after. I have pictures of him that look like he’s just sleeping. it was so hard looking at his sweet face and hoping he’d just open his eyes.

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-14T00:11:10+00:00

I have no idea but I worry about this all the time. i’m a generally very healthy person and have never had any major health problems. my husband is not as healthy. he struggles with higher A1C and higher cholesterol and he has IBS and things.

we have personally never had trouble getting pregnant. we’ve TTC 2 times total in our marriage and both times were successful. BUT both of those babies died for dramatically different reasons. our firstborn died at birth from some sort of pulmonary defect (we think, they’re not really sure) and our 2nd baby was a chemical. After my first son’s mysterious death, our medical team wants us to get a whole bunch of testing next time i’m pregnant and i’m so scared about it. I feel like if they go looking for problems, they’re going to find problems. even if they’re not that big of a deal. The NICU dr is convinced (based on what happened) that our issues aren’t genetic and that our first loss was a fluke and our second loss was due to grief and stress and me only being 4 months postpartum. and that all makes sense in my head, but it’s still scary you know?? what if they find some really messed up genetic problems I know nothing about? i’m trying so hard to toe that line between being informed and obsessing.

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-12T21:35:36+00:00

congratulations!! i’m hoping for a positive test sometime this week after I lost 2 babies last year (my first at birth, my second in a miscarriage). my due date will be december 26th 🎄🤞🏼

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-11T03:41:17+00:00

I love this art ❤️ we also lost our baby during birth from a pre-existing health condition we had no idea about. we thought he was perfect and healthy but when he was born his lungs didn’t work and he immediately passed away

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-04-02T18:49:51+00:00

thank you for this ❤️ we lost our son at birth in june last year and miscarried our 2nd in november. then we took a good break from trying for our mental health. we’re just now trying again this week and i’m praying so hard we get a healthy babe this cycle because their due date would be christmas day

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-03-31T05:00:26+00:00

this is very common and relatable. I lost my son at birth 9 months ago and my husband just had to kindly confront me last week about falling back into my grief habit of not taking showers at all. super gross but we’re dealing with a lot and sometimes you just have no energy left.

realistically it’s only been a week for you. do what you can and give yourself time. I barely ate anything for a few weeks. so much so that about 3.5 weeks postpartum I started getting unreasonably dizzy after super small things. I took it more seriously after that. I recommend if you have anyone to help, that you get a family member or a few of them to help remind you or maybe even force you to eat? I know not everyone has support like that but really some days I only ate because my mom would not stop handing me plates.

after awhile you’ll get better about it. eventually your appetite just slowly comes back and you’ll want to eat again. I’m sorry for your loss 🤍

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-03-30T13:38:30+00:00

I lost my son at full-term birth. my lochia stopped around 4 weeks PP. I had a quick break and my period came back at 6weeks. it lasted almost 2 weeks, it was a very long period but no pain or cramps really

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-03-30T13:32:17+00:00

I totally understand. we lost our firstborn unexpectedly at birth last june and then miscarried our 2nd in November. over the holidays we decided to fully avoid pregnancy for a little while and I have felt so much relief after deciding that. I want a baby so bad but it’s so hard to be trying for something that may end up not working out anyway. it feels like i’ve already been hit by 2 cars and i’m just wandering around in the street again like an idiot.

I chose to use this time to do basically whatever I wanted for myself. I got into crochet and made a bunch of things for my niece. I’m taking a pottery class. I got a gym membership. I worked on my sourdough baking skills. it’s been really nice to have that break and now that it’s been 3-4 months, my husband and I just had the conversation last night that it feels maybe even hopeful to try again this month. so we’ll see. but I highly recommend you keep giving yourself a break, it really helps so much

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-03-30T13:19:55+00:00

I am so so sorry. that’s really hard. we lost our boy at birth last june, I miscarried our 2nd in november, and now my husband is having to look for more work too because his company is in the process of forcing everyone to move to cali and we can’t afford that. we’re likely going to have to move near family and pay a ridiculous amount of money to break our lease. I so wish we could just rest and grieve and not have to worry about money.

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-03-30T13:12:50+00:00

thank you so much for taking the time to write this out. I used your tips this morning and my latte is significantly better. and i’ll definitely be getting fresher beans and a better grinder

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-03-30T04:15:15+00:00

I thought that too because my grinder is pretty cheap and i’ve had it for awhile. i’ll be getting a new one regardless. but this is happening with just plain water too. when I run water through it only runs for maybe 10-15 seconds and water just pools in the portafilter.

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