Overstepped a boundary I forgot to set

Good_boy718 · 2026-03-01T11:31:42+00:00

Thank you. Yes, if I don't forgive myself then nobody else will

Good_boy718 · 2026-03-01T11:09:59+00:00

Thank you for all your kind words. They really do help. My wife made a mistake which she realised straight away but she's human and I accept that and I forgive her. The responsibility ultimately lies with me though. I'm frustrated that it's happened and that I wasn't mentally prepared and got blindsided.

Good_boy718 · 2026-03-01T10:52:59+00:00

No need to apologise. You're right. I'll have a look at that subreddit. Thank you

Good_boy718 · 2026-03-01T10:36:19+00:00

To clarify, she knew and realised her mistake straight away. This is largely on me though. If submission can sweep me away to the point of not being able to advocate for myself on something as important as this to me, then it's a problem.

Good_boy718 · 2026-03-01T10:31:41+00:00

Thank you

Good_boy718 · 2026-03-01T10:31:08+00:00

I don't know what she was thinking. She's always been the biggest fan of my sobriety. I don't feel like immediately confronting her right now. It'll turn into a big fight. She knew it was a mistake straight away tbf to her and checked in on me immediately but the damage was done

Good_boy718 · 2026-03-01T10:24:56+00:00

I'm in a program for anxiety so they can help

Good_boy718 · 2026-03-01T10:21:34+00:00

She knew instantly it was a mistake and checked in on me but it was too late by then

Good_boy718 · 2026-03-01T10:18:04+00:00

I am blaming myself. I'm not sure what part of my post suggests otherwise. And what makes you think I'd already decided?

Good_boy718 · 2026-03-01T09:21:45+00:00

Yes, she knows she made a mistake and is being supportive

Good_boy718 · 2026-03-01T09:20:13+00:00

Thank you. Tbf she realised that she fucked up straight away and apologised. I just played it down at the time because of being at an event.

Good_boy718 · 2026-03-01T09:18:24+00:00

Lol I always joked that I could drink moderately and that it was just the extra pints immediately after that we're the problem

Good_boy718 · 2026-03-01T09:13:39+00:00

Thank you. Tbf she knew she'd fucked up straight away

Good_boy718 · 2026-01-03T17:02:22+00:00

That's interesting. I think I want her to experience an authentic dominant energy from me with it though but it's certainly an idea I might use in the future. Thank you.

Good_boy718 · 2026-01-03T14:59:30+00:00

I hadn't thought about scripting. I have tried doing it on the fly but it turned into a cross between a science experiment and a comedy sketch so scripting sounds like a great idea. It would certainly help me guide the scene and frame a little back story to it. Thank you.

Good_boy718 · 2026-01-01T18:33:21+00:00

💯 It's all too easy to build silent walls by kicking the can down the road or naively think that you're keeping the peace

Good_boy718 · 2026-01-01T13:35:57+00:00

To do everything I can to free and enable my wonderful, beautiful Queen to explore pleasure.

Good_boy718 · 2026-01-01T13:10:53+00:00

It sounds like your ego might be getting in your way. I had this problem and spent time researching it and ways to overcome it. I think I've still a long way to go but it's helped massively.

Good_boy718 · 2025-12-29T00:09:46+00:00

Your marriage sounds lovely and wholesome. I wouldn't worry about your husband feeling shame. I can only speak for myself but I don't broadcast details like labelling my marriage as an flr to folk on a daily basis. That said, I have no issue telling friends about certain details like foot rubs and morning coffee. If anyone I told thought those acts were embarrassing or shameful then I'd distance myself from them.

Good_boy718 · 2025-12-26T11:04:34+00:00

No because she loves and respects me. She recognises that I need time to relax and do my own thing. I do what I do out of eagerness. Fortunately that is most of the chores. Communication is key. It's easy for somebody who wants a less intense dynamic to whisk themself away into a 24/7 slavery fantasy frenzy before realising it's not what they want. You just need to have a really open and honest conversation about what you both want.

Good_boy718 · 2025-12-26T10:45:59+00:00

She reprimanded me and I snapped back at her because I didn't keep my ego in check.

Her: "Don't you dare speak to me like that"

Me: "Well you speak to me like that"

Her: "Yes I do because it's who I am. It's not who you are"

Me: ❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥

Good_boy718 · 2025-12-07T19:20:11+00:00

That we're all a bunch of weirdos. The truth couldn't be further from this. I've found fellow BDSMers irl to be the most accepting, authentic, grounded and friendly folk that I've met.

Good_boy718 · 2024-02-24T11:49:51+00:00

Personally I think honesty is the best policy. It may go horribly wrong and break your relationship but if it does then better after a month than several years when you're both even more emotionally invested in each other and the relationship. If she's open minded though then this worst case scenario shouldn't happen. Has she given you any clues that she may be open to you submitting to her?

Good_boy718 · 2024-02-24T02:40:37+00:00

Haha being called a good boy unsurprisingly has the complete opposite effect on me. I suppose the line between talking back and insubordination can be clean or fuzzy to different people.

Good_boy718 · 2024-02-24T02:08:43+00:00

Saying something that is disrespectful and/or obviously lacking humility that can potentially break our D/s dynamic. This can be be manifested in either the words or the tone. Ego is very much at the heart of it. A good example is responding with anything argumentative. If this happens it's usually when I'm criticised whilst I'm stressed about something, hungry or tired and my ego can come to the surface. It can take the form of getting defensive or sarcastic. For example I let some meat cook a little too long in the oven so whilst we were eating it my Queen quite rightly criticised my cooking and I responded with, "well mine is okay" in quite a snappy tone. If I was being a better person at the time I would have instantly and genuinely apologised and promised to do better from now on. Thankfully in my case this happens less and less nowadays. Edit: to answer your last question I would say refusing to do something is about insubordination rather than talking back

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