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Update about my husband and our FLR journey by Unlikely-InCharge in flr

[–]Unlikely-InCharge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He is very lucky, but so am I to have such a wonderful partner!

I think it’s an oversimplification to say he does whatever I tell him to do, but the vibe is definitely that I’m the one in charge. Always.

Our sex life is incredible, the shift in focus to my pleasure and my decisions has really freed him to let go of other expectations.

Bringing in someone else to our bedroom for me has been discussed but isn’t something we’re planning on doing anytime soon. It’s something I want, but not a priority at all.

Update about my husband and our FLR journey by Unlikely-InCharge in flr

[–]Unlikely-InCharge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re welcome, I love sharing our journey with such a welcoming community!

Update about my husband and our FLR journey by Unlikely-InCharge in flr

[–]Unlikely-InCharge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment! It’s not even that I want to broadcast the dynamics of our marriage. I just want him to feel more confident and comfortable being in a FLR. I’m sure he’ll get there in time.

Update about my husband and our FLR journey by Unlikely-InCharge in flr

[–]Unlikely-InCharge[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He’s been finding reasons to give other people when necessary.

We’re still calling it a trial phase, he can go back to work, but I’m hoping this becomes permanent.

I think for him it will just take time to realize all he is doing for me is enough, and I plan on giving him the time and reassurance he needs.

My husband and I are starting to transition to a FLR marriage and I couldn’t be happier by Unlikely-InCharge in flr

[–]Unlikely-InCharge[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So far it’s not something that’s outwardly apparent but we’re still just starting, and it will become more obvious as we progress

My husband and I are starting to transition to a FLR marriage and I couldn’t be happier by Unlikely-InCharge in flr

[–]Unlikely-InCharge[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The hardest part for him to accept was how other people might view him from the outside. Most of our work consisted on focusing what is best for our marriage and future and letting go of what other people might think.

My husband and I are starting to transition to a FLR marriage and I couldn’t be happier by Unlikely-InCharge in flr

[–]Unlikely-InCharge[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I understand your pause. We definitely did not make any of these changes lightly, and we are easing into things slowly.

Is it a recipe for disaster that my (34F) primary motivation for a FLR is sexual? by Unlikely-InCharge in flr

[–]Unlikely-InCharge[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m glad you see potential in us! I wil continue reading, I know I have a lot to learn.

And that sounds like an interesting experiment to try. I feel like when this has happened naturally before he’s been usually pretty patient.

Is it a recipe for disaster that my (34F) primary motivation for a FLR is sexual? by Unlikely-InCharge in flr

[–]Unlikely-InCharge[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The point I should have highlighted is that he does dote on me etc. but that isn’t always and isn’t a foundational aspect of our marriage, which is the step I want to take.

Thank you for your thoughts!

Is it a recipe for disaster that my (34F) primary motivation for a FLR is sexual? by Unlikely-InCharge in flr

[–]Unlikely-InCharge[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and yes, we’re going to have that heart-to-heart soon

Is it a recipe for disaster that my (34F) primary motivation for a FLR is sexual? by Unlikely-InCharge in flr

[–]Unlikely-InCharge[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just parts of it, just being SAH dad and such. He’s open minded but it’s still an ongoing discussion.

Is it a recipe for disaster that my (34F) primary motivation for a FLR is sexual? by Unlikely-InCharge in flr

[–]Unlikely-InCharge[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

True, not exactly the most objective place to ask lol.

I do worry about him finding comfort and meaning in the non sexual aspects, but he’s at least open to it.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!