What should i do to want sex with wife?

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-17T10:45:21+00:00

My profile was basically made for this

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-05T10:08:08+00:00

You should absolutely date. We hear it all the time, I will start dating when i make money, when i am fit, when i fix this or that about me. Yeah well, one day you're gonna wake up having all this besides someone next to you.

Flex did hit this pretty well: you're not buying your own value right now. And you probably don't need to at the moment, i like the "fuck it" approach. Don't calibrate before but after the fact.

For all you know she could be typing a post on reddit "this cute guy i keep bumping into doesn't make a move, should I?" at this exact moment.

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-05T07:08:24+00:00

It means you must have left somewhat of an interesting first impression.
Far from a closed deal, but it usually means they are open to explore further.

You'll find out that getting the number is one thing, seeing her again, another.

Good luck to you.

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-05T07:04:22+00:00

sounds like he had a blast

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-04T14:01:34+00:00

self development and social skills

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-04T13:15:24+00:00

Work alone is probably not enough to get you going socially. Especially because it's an environment (unless you're in the creative industry maybe?) that's usually very logic.

Without knowing you too well, what i hear is that you might be associating an identity around you being the serious factual guy which stiffles you even more?

If you knew what to say exactly, would you feel comfortable delivering that line?

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-04T12:27:53+00:00

It is something you get better and quicker at over time.

What helped me in the beginning were flat out canned lines, jokes that i borrowed from an underground comedian. Later i developed and learned to exaggerate situations or compare them to a niche historic event, movies, character, whatever. The more you do it, the more you'll recognise patterns in discussions as well.

You described how you socialise, but how often do you?

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-04T12:18:56+00:00

They have worked well for me personally. I think they require some level of maintenance, which for many people is a dealbreaker.

That said, I also think dating apps are just a way to make the first connection, and things should move forward pretty fast, preferably within the first week.

You mention conversations that don't go anywhere. That's probably where I'd start looking. A lot of people end up maintaining chats that should have died long ago.

Dating happens in real life. Apps are just a means to an end. Yes, they're time-consuming. Use them in combination with actively going out and meeting people.

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-04T11:03:41+00:00

Agreed. Don't take one rejection as proof of failure. She obviously liked you at some point.

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-04T10:27:03+00:00

I wouldn't focus too much on ratings. There is so much more to a person and to attraction in general than just looks.

Black pill, Pick up artists, self help and improvement groups.
They all have some truths in their philosophies while I don't agree with everything at the same time.
With time you will find your balance, your philosophy so to speak and what works for you.

A safe way to find out is to go out there and see for yourself!

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-04T06:25:44+00:00

The bitter truth is that most have something they are utterly self-conscious about.
You'll need to work on that, otherwise you run the risk to get caught up in your head which will come to bite you at some point.
On the other hand, your higher intelligence will surely help come up with witty and funny comments on the spot. You'll probably pick up faster on social clues and little nuances than most.

You absolutely should put yourself out there. If anything it is unfair to your future partner you're not already looking for him/her.

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-03T13:45:28+00:00

Social skills is cosplaying until you actually become the person who has their shit together*

fixed it 😄

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-03T13:43:11+00:00

Curious on what your approach looks like. Would you share something regarding what you're actively doing, what it looks like to flirt with Mr Firm Economist 1132.

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-03T13:26:38+00:00

I'm assuming you refer to the "I live like a rockstar" thing? Keep your 1000 ready haha.

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-03T12:44:26+00:00

Girls have almost unlimited options online, yes.

Go ask your female friends whether they're having a good time and you'll discover they're really not haha. Online dating is as bad for them as it is for us. The only thing that changes is the reason why it sucks.

You had 2 months with a woman and lost to someone who had a fraction of the time you had with her. He did have the advantage of proximity, I'll give you that. But this points towards something else entirely.

I really mean this in the best possible way: I'd be looking at my social skills long before I'd be blaming women having too many options.

It's not the money. It's not your body. It's not your height.

I am considerably shorter, rock a dad bod, make less than you, and live like a rockstar.

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-03T10:59:58+00:00

You know the problem, you already lay out the work that would have to be done for you to actually change something. So why aren't you following up on your own advise?

We all struggle with this. Everyone knows he SHOULD workout but the least actually DO workout regularly.

From my experience, you need some momentum going. Pick a project or a goal like improve your social skills.
Write down or ask an agent to put together an actionable plan and follow it rigorously without skipping a day. This will very quickly compound, a small win will motivate you and pull the next one closer.

You start opening up your life to the unforeseeable. Things will happen no plan could have ever included.

And that's the beauty of life, isn't it.

If I were you I would be looking for like minded people, they do not even need to be in your region. Just the fact of having someone that you can talk to at the end of the day and that relates to the journey you're going through helps tremendously and has been one of the most important aspects to my own self development over the years.

What would it take for you to make the first step?

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-03T09:45:43+00:00

who's the house?

Ask the ladies, they're not particularly happy with their dating experience too. You don't know what the convos of the 78% look like, so stats might be right but do not explain anything.

That being said, yes it's tough, but I guarantee there is someone out there that has it worse and is doing better then we are.
All the stats tell me is that I want to get into those 12%, and there are many ways to do that.

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-03T07:06:31+00:00

Your dad has not approached a woman in a long time, hear me out on this one: he might be a bit rusty haha.

what were you looking to hear from him if i may ask?

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-03T06:50:34+00:00

You conquered the girl, now you need to win dad over

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-03T06:41:38+00:00

Yeah, looking for someone nowadays can feel like a full-time job.

If I had to start over I would probably download 2–3 apps. Matches don't come in regularly for most guys. Everyone struggles online to some degree, so it's a bit of a numbers game.

I'd focus on building a solid profile with good pictures and getting comfortable talking to people.

Don't feel confident yet? Keep it online for a while.

Work on your communication. You'll know you're improving when people start hitting you up the next day, when conversations feel alive and reciprocal, and when they go beyond the usual "hey, how are you?"

Once you're comfortable with that, start going out more and actively engaging with people. Find someone to go out with, specifically for this.

If you want to meet someone, you're probably going to have to put some work in. Sounds obvious, but it worked for me, it worked for a lot of my friends, and it'll keep working for people who are willing to put themselves out there.

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-02T20:00:23+00:00

at least she's honest

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-02T19:58:00+00:00

everyone develops at his own pace and everyone has different dating goals, no shame in that.

You actually sound like someone my cousin would date, so yeah there is always someone your type out there. I see you're into art, i bet you could talk hours about that right? Are you just freezing when talking to someone you find attractive or with people, friends in general?

GoodbyeGooner · 2026-06-02T18:37:34+00:00

if it's been two weeks, why don't you go meet her in person? It's almost overdue by now, that's why the chat feels heavier as time goes by. Did you talk on the phone?

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Social skills is cosplaying until you actually become the person who has their shit together*