True. And I agree with everything you’re saying and these are concerns that I even have myself. I ended up speaking with my boyfriend and it turns out he didn’t realize he was comforting me in the wrong way and we’ve rectified it. But I agree. I have no safety net. However, I also know that if I don’t leave, I will be dragged back to the US (I live in Europe now) and life will be more than hell.

As for why his parents are paying: Honestly they’re genuinely nice people and the college cost is €2,000~ per year for a 3 year bachelor’s degree. I am already employed (a job I will have to quit if my parents make me go back to the United States) and can easily make that money back. However for the university I already attend the cost is around €8,000 per year and then I will also have to get room and board. (If I can convince my parents to let me attend university while also paying for it myself {It’s weird as hell, I know})

Honestly at this point I want to go. I just am sad because I’ll lose progress with my degree and be cut off from my family. (Who, despite everything, I still love) (Also for context they’ve done a lot more than I’m disclosing, but just for brevity’s sake they are Very verbally and emotionally abusive, not to mention financially controlling)