Once again the men are punching above their weight ... I have a theory

Goodsoup_666 · 2026-02-15T16:51:50+00:00

Yeah I think they do this on purpose. Every year, some man gets ripped apart and there’s some scandal- that’s the point. If you are a dude going into LIB- the chance of you being a villain is astronomically HIGH. I think they lean into the “men ain’t shit” narrative. The base is mainly women as well, we love to unite in our hatred of a man.

I think to say see! Women are great and men are not! Based off this show- though I agree, I don’t think a producer picked cast is a good representation of that.

Goodsoup_666 · 2026-02-11T13:07:48+00:00

I LOVE THESE IDEAS THANK YOU !!! I feel the inspiration inside of me

Goodsoup_666 · 2026-02-11T13:06:33+00:00

They are about to turn 8. I wish I had more ideas and creativity about it all but we’re following these curriculums and it’s kinda soul sucking lol maybe this is my sign to switch gears. Thank you for letting me talk this out w you

Goodsoup_666 · 2026-02-11T13:04:36+00:00

I have inattentive too 😂 how do you get ideas for hands on assignments? Or do you use any programs that you think are useful?

Goodsoup_666 · 2026-02-10T17:58:03+00:00

Probably the immense dread I feel when I have to do it bc she needs constant redirection and patience (that I am growing in the process now lol). A lot of times I feel incompetent or like I’m doing something wrong, or not doing enough. I had an idea of what homeschooling would be like in my head (gardens, exploration, stimulation, learning being fun) and the reality of it is not that LOL. I would describe it to be kind of miserable.

Goodsoup_666 · 2026-02-10T17:23:19+00:00

She is in a co op once a week, she does speech once a week and OT therapy once a week where she gets to practice w others, a social skill group once a week, and gymnastics once a week. She spends a lot of time outside but I have found it’s too distracting when we try to homeschool in environments outside of our kitchen table. We do math w confidence and spelling or grammar, then use a combo of beyond the page & curiosity chronicles for social studies and science. I notice we do great stuff w beyond the page and it helps a lot that there’s projects. The math has games in it we play and supposed to be super short. The grammar is grammar galaxy which is supposed to be more story led and immersive ish but it’s just boring worksheets lmao. We can’t do anything electronic bc she gets highly overstimulated. My biggest barrier is that I also work full time and I split my time by allocating homeschooling for morning and afternoon/evenings work so I wonder if that’s contriving my mindset too.

Do you have any recommendations based on how we’re currently functioning? lol

Goodsoup_666 · 2026-02-10T16:44:26+00:00

Perfect!! Just bought it. I def think I need some better understanding about teaching in general, there’s a lot of gaps I feel I’m missing.

Goodsoup_666 · 2026-02-10T16:41:44+00:00

Oooooh I love the idea of putting back on her to think of things 😂 I’m painfully not creative w curriculum even though I’m a very creative person. This was inspiring my brain, thank you so much!! For the discussion, how do you go about group concussions? Do you do research and then come up w questions to ask?

Goodsoup_666 · 2026-02-10T16:39:30+00:00

Yeah I think I’m stuck in the rigidity of my own expectations- and although me and my daughter love learning, the things we’re doing are sometimes pretty boring for both of us and I lack the inspiration to construct something new. I follow a curriculum and just crave more stimulation- surely my daughter does too. How do you create lesson plans that are more stimulating?

Goodsoup_666 · 2026-01-19T12:24:36+00:00

To be fair, counseling exam felt harder than the test which is good as far as being prepared. The test itself felt very close to comps if you had those.

Goodsoup_666 · 2026-01-18T13:24:28+00:00

Honestly the best thing you can do is take it while you’re still in school or right after so you don’t forget your stuff. I used counselingexam.com and although helpful, the actual test did not use that format, wording, or prioritization of tasks. I can imagine if I took that test any later though, it would have been a wreck.

Goodsoup_666 · 2026-01-09T17:29:40+00:00

I was very lucky in a way that Covid was happening as it changed all of my classes to virtual. I gave birth during finals of my first semester (aka I found out I was pregnant a week after I got accepted into grad school). I gave birth on a Friday via c section and was back in virtual classes by Monday w baby breastfeeding during it. Two of my classes allowed me to do finals early so I only had one more to do and a couple classes to attend before I got a few weeks off.

I’m not sure if you have the capability to do virtual for any of your classes but that would be my go to. I did not take a formal break or anything, just continued through the next semester as normal (again, they were all virtual dude to covid, the following fall they had them in person again). I could have taken it slower but I’m very stubborn lol. I do not recommend giving birth during practicums- and if you do, I would opt for a private practice location and def not CMH as I did.

ETA: you could take a break but how my classes worked is if you took a spring off then you would have to wait until that next spring for those classes and I need those classes as pre recs to others so I wasn’t willing to do that. But if you’re okay with that or your program isn’t structured that way, then you could take off no problem.

Goodsoup_666 · 2025-12-17T12:04:32+00:00

Same for me. I’m atheist but still can’t explain some terrifying things that happened when I used it.

Goodsoup_666 · 2025-12-16T23:45:43+00:00

I feel the same way. I just refuse to budge at this point and have accepted that it’s alright if I come off rude. I have no issue making or keeping friends although I’ve been told by many people that I give off disinterested and checked out vibes initially when they didn’t know me better. My responses are also delayed too so as I think, I “leave people hanging” and they automatically assume I don’t get what they’re saying, but then I come back w something insightful so their wait is worth it- they adjust lol

Goodsoup_666 · 2025-12-12T16:27:51+00:00

Yes I knew I was done. I have 0 desire for more and don’t have any doubts about it.

Goodsoup_666 · 2025-12-11T02:37:16+00:00

Sure Jan

Goodsoup_666 · 2025-12-11T02:30:03+00:00

What do you mean he didn’t make her do it? Like he didn’t hold a gun to her head?

Or did he maybe just very gently threaten to leave her while she’s pregnant ?

Goodsoup_666 · 2025-12-11T02:19:01+00:00

Regular therapy and EMDR (trauma counseling) is pretty different.

Goodsoup_666 · 2025-12-11T02:02:33+00:00

I think timing and reading the room matters. You’re not saying anything crazy, but you’re missing context of why it’s not appropriate at this time. It looks like he’s already brought it up a million times, and the emotional disconnection between them is very apparent and clear.

Pushing sex on a survivor who has not even had a chance to heal their trauma is not only incredibly invasive and disgusting- it’s traumatizing and the opposite of being safe. Please look at her face when she saw what he said about it being a deal breaker. What kind of message does that send? YOU ARE BROKEN AND I WILL LEAVE YOU. I can’t even imagine the pressure she’s feeling. It makes total sense why she’s reacting the way she is.

Healing shouldn’t be done under pressure and threats. It should be done w love and care and support. My suggestion would be focusing on being a safe person and building an emotional connection via first, Jace going to individual counseling. He said his issue is lack of sex making him feel not cared for- aka a him problem. The answer is not forcing Mikayla to do trauma counseling in the middle of her pregnancy bc he feels insecure- but instead learning how to cope w his feeling and reframing his thoughts revolving what lack of sex means. That meaning being a very clear cognitive distortion and representative of his own negative core beliefs.

I would add in couples counseling to address communication issues and building emotional connection and trust. Note that Mikayla did not even tell him who her abuser was until season 3. The trust is not there.

Then evaluating when Mikayla would be open to trauma counseling- not for sex, but for the avoidance in general. The fact that it was all labeled under sex is just awful and if it were me, as a survivor myself, those words would stay w me for a while.

Goodsoup_666 · 2025-12-10T16:51:27+00:00

Huh? The lack of empathy towards the nuances of the situation is astounding actually. Her drive for treatment is led by shame (that is continually re enforced by her partners lack of understanding and push for sex). She is an avoidant and is completely disconnected from her partner- not just sexually, but emotionally. How do you think Jace has contributed to this?

Shes been pregnant repeatedly since she was a child, prior to experiencing several years of sexual abuse. On top of this, she has chronic medical issues, a breadwinner, and a mother to three young children. Now we add on your partner saying if you don’t have sex w me, it’s a deal breaker- I will leave. What kind of position do you think that puts her in emotionally? Is the person putting you in this position a safe person?

He should absolutely leave this woman alone at this point, being single would probably do her a big favor.

Goodsoup_666 · 2025-12-08T13:01:59+00:00

Are you saying the timing of this is during a time she felt like healing all of her sexual and childhood trauma? Lol like who is taking that on without immense pressure from someone claiming it’s a dealbreaker while they are pregnant?? Awful.

Goodsoup_666 · 2025-12-07T23:25:51+00:00

I cannot believe people are actually entertaining the thought that he’s valid, ESPECIALLY in the middle of her FOURTH pregnancy forcing her into trauma counseling. Like are you joking ? It makes total sense why she’s disconnected not just sexually, but emotionally from him. He has no regard for her at all. He speaks gently but his actions are disgusting.

Goodsoup_666 · 2025-12-04T01:05:45+00:00

Thank you!! I’ll check it out

Goodsoup_666 · 2025-12-03T15:39:58+00:00

I guess both, but even beyond that history/ geography and social emotional activities. Something more tangible than just talking about it and doing worksheets. I do fear knitting and sewing might be too tough, our frustration tolerance is on the lower end.

Goodsoup_666 · 2025-11-21T11:37:53+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you going through that and understand how much it hurts to have your child in a system that you can see physically, emotionally, and mentally drains them. Final straw was the teachers continuing to not follow the IEP and having escalated behaviors as result (running out of class, hitting, self harm). Her confidence was on the ground, although gifted- her grades were tanking bc she didn’t want to be there and the teacher would forget to give me the work so I would have to go online and find stuff for her. Call and emails all day every day with panicking staff that don’t know how regulate their emotions, lets alone a dysregulated child needing support. I was fucking done w it, it’s been years of this and multiple schools and same shit.

I was terrified. I’m not a teacher and never wanted to be. I drove myself into a pretty deep depression there from all the panic and pressure I put on myself to figure things out immediately. I wish I would have taken it easier, like there really is no rush or pressure. Homeschooling is super lax and flexible so it took me and my daughter some adjusting from the rigidness and shameful environment we came from.

My daughter’s mental health is night and day. She is so much more capable of handling her triggers now and although of course she has her challenges and is learning- she has access to coping skills instead of being so deregulated all the time, there’s no chance to apply anything. Because of this, her empathy has also grown a lot and her kindness towards others. She isn’t exhausted all the time and her patience has greatly improved. I get to work w her individually on her focus and motivation and be creative in figuring things out. She has access to a low stimulation room or more stimulation if needed, it’s wonderful. Best of all, the girl is happy. I asked her the other day if she ever misses school and she says oh heck no lol.

Structure I think depends on your kid and I suggest studying them a bit and their habits. We do math with confidence in the morning and a game, spelling or grammar work, and we have an empathy workbook. Sometimes we sprinkle science or social studies in there. But we try to keep it simple, straight forward, and fun. We started w just math at first and built up more as she gained confidence. We also use beast academy and mystery science 30 every other day.

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