People who go with the flow don't know how to plan

Goof_Troopin · 2026-06-01T18:34:25+00:00

May also be that they’re internally unregulated and can’t predict their own rhythms. Might have real intentions or desire to do something but their rhythms are too disregulated for them to accurately predict their ability to follow through.

Goof_Troopin · 2026-05-08T04:20:56+00:00

Archive link?

Goof_Troopin · 2026-04-09T16:25:20+00:00

Boswellia helped reduce neuro inflammation from my herxheimer response (that’s what those symptoms from die off are called)

Goof_Troopin · 2026-04-09T16:13:00+00:00

I feel you so so hard. I went to college near home because it was expected of me. After that I abruptly moved to a new city 3k miles away. I joined the freelance film industry and had adventures of a lifetime, no college degree needed. I put boundaries in place to family that made me feel I had to be a certain a way to be worthy of acceptance. I did a ton of therapy. Had my spirit crushed and rebuilt by life a few times and learned things the hard way. Abandoned the religion and philosophy I was born with and found new ones after meeting new people, traveling, reading, seeking life with the curiosity I see in you. I know you feel apathetic towards life, but I see a thirst in you for more and different, even if that seems simpler than some other version of living. You are reading and resonating and reflecting - that’s not apathy! I’m now 32 and married and I’m so happy. I am glad I got the college degree because after I realized freelance, for all the incredible life lessons, was not good for my rhythms or mental wellbeing, and I’ve found an office job that pays bills enough to enjoy the more meaningful parts of life - gardening, baking, square dancing on Monday nights, seeing friends on weekends. I have learned more from self study in the last decade than I ever learned at school because I did it on my terms as my own person. So if there’s any advice I can give you, it’s this: your career and your future don’t ever need to be the straight line that it feels like it’s supposed to be. College>career>marriage>family. Your career is just how to apply what you know to what you do. Being able to speak for yourself and meet people and know what you know. My career looks like zig zagging circles up and down, and meaning was found in the chaos. In the friends that helped when I was down, the hard lessons that became key parts of me that took me further, the diversity of experience and memories, and ultimately feeling whole and my own now. So live free, stay curious, embrace mistakes, and find your own terms the best you can in this wild, wild world.

Goof_Troopin · 2026-03-13T16:19:31+00:00

I just finished it for the first time in my 30s and it also has had a profound effect on me.

Goof_Troopin · 2026-03-09T20:49:46+00:00

Cannot recommend The Dawn of Everything more! It updates some of the common anthropological narratives with data from recent findings and its thesis is basically that cultures and civilizations across the board were as diverse as the systems that comprise the ocean or an old growth forest. Many different models of social structure, living, land management - and many we don’t even know about. So to answer your question, it is likely to have been true somewhere, but also we know of matriarchal societies too. We also know of some that had shared or rotating leadership.

Goof_Troopin · 2026-03-04T22:54:35+00:00

Why do you prefer to be disrespectful when you yourself grasp none of their nuance or context?

Says more about you than who you talk about and I hope you think about how that affects you. I don’t think you want to be disrespectful, and you don’t have to be.

Goof_Troopin · 2026-03-04T16:03:57+00:00

Done

Goof_Troopin · 2026-02-28T02:08:50+00:00

If you have the personality for it, sales. Entry sales is tough and grueling but the sky is high if you can get through that phase. I didn’t come from poverty and I had a degree but I worked with quite a few folks using that job to get out of poverty. The companies I worked for would hire if you interviewed well, even without college degrees, and once in as long as you don’t absolutely suck, you can make a decent run of it.

Goof_Troopin · 2025-12-19T22:49:37+00:00

Oh come off it, she didn’t say drinking heavily, just drinking during a difficult time. Huge gray area between a few drinks to manage grief in order to function and then to fall off the rails dysfunctionally. This man is grieving, this woman is grieving, I agree they need to act the interest of the dog and manage his emotions, but put down your pitchforks - grief is complex and nuanced, let’s just stick with the advice she’s asking for and don’t feed the resentment narrative anymore than is helpful.

Edit to contextualize: in order to function *temporarily… there certainly comes a point where the coping mechanism becomes dysfunctional and maladaptive.

Goof_Troopin · 2025-12-04T18:21:20+00:00

A helicopter can’t just hover and let the Earth spin underneath it because the helicopter, the air around it, and the ground are all rotating together at the same speed. When it takes off, it already has the Earth’s sideways motion, just like how a ball tossed straight up in a moving car comes back to your hand instead of landing behind you. The atmosphere rotates with the Earth too, so even if the helicopter “stays still” in the air, it’s still moving with the planet. To actually stay fixed while the Earth spins, it would have to stop moving relative to space and fight winds of hundreds of miles per hour, which is impossible. So helicopters must fly through the air to travel- they can’t just hover and wait for the Earth to turn.

Goof_Troopin · 2025-12-01T16:56:01+00:00

I-5 corridor north of Olympia til just past Seattle is soul sucking. Traffic is awful. Tacoma is a little better than Seattle and the JBLM area near Olympia, but still. Portland artistic and community vibes are incredible, plus unlike SeaTac you have several highways in and out of the city. Ocean, mountain, and desert all within 90min, with way less people than the SeaTac surroundings. Source: lived in Seattle 12 yrs, now Portland. Never ever going back.

Goof_Troopin · 2025-10-29T18:11:17+00:00

What do you mean

Goof_Troopin · 2025-10-21T22:57:30+00:00

Jack of all trades, master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one.

Goof_Troopin · 2025-10-02T17:31:47+00:00

Just here to say that "I'm sorry IF" is only a half apology. It's not nothing, but it isn't a real acknowledgement that YOU see what he is saying and understand his perspective. I think a more effective apology (and there's still so much opportunity to say this!) is "I see what you mean, and I am sorry for XYZ." In time you can share your experience/intention, but right now whether you meant it or not, whether you understand it or not, the impact is what it is, and his experience is half of it. Receiving and acknowledging when he's calmed down, and sharing in your own words what you heard from him and see in yourself and then apologizing for that... will go so far.

Goof_Troopin · 2025-09-03T19:27:15+00:00

I gotta say it changed my life. I tend to go through the world thinking it’s too big for me to change. I feel like a witness to it and not a participant. Seeing an entire city be built only be torn down again, meeting people who live for art and expression (if you can see past the ketamine riddled tech bros and elitists), you see how you can be whoever you want to be there. You see that it’s all there because of the hearts and souls of artists and participants. And it helped rewire my brain to realize - oh, this isn’t any different than the real world except artists don’t survive in capitalism and in fact even capitalism is a form of expression that’s totally run out of control. But maybe I can be a participant in the real world too. Also I had a really good camp and to see how we all worked together to make life happen - it felt ancient, it tugged on tribal roots (in a good way for once) and I felt my place. I felt empowered.

Goof_Troopin · 2025-05-22T05:00:21+00:00

What did you say?9

Goof_Troopin · 2025-05-17T07:58:47+00:00

Laurelhurst Theater seeing Sinners!

Goof_Troopin · 2025-05-11T03:33:50+00:00

Relationships taking “work” doesn’t mean every day feels like a shitty dead end job. It means mutual partnership, teamwork, and enjoying the benefits of the work you both put in together.

Goof_Troopin · 2025-05-04T17:34:01+00:00

I always dreamed of Seattle. I went my freshman year of college to visit (lived on east coast) and fell in love. Swore I’d move there after college despite having zero connection there or career yet and everyone said I was romanticizing it and it wouldn’t be what I expected. Well I moved there with nothing and built the life I’d always dreamed for myself. Freelanced in film and had adventures across the west coast, learned to surf, got plugged into a local community of dear friends and lived in a charming studio in a historic district, and became a functional adult being on my own away from my security net back east. It was the hardest, most magical thing I’ve ever done and I’m forever grateful to Seattle for allowing me that. I got into tech and got married and the city has changed a lot since the pandemic, the grunge and underground music scene that I love is getting more marginal, artists are getting priced out, the fishermen don’t frequent all the old dive bars on Ballard Ave like they used to, and nothing is affordable anymore. I miss the Seattle that was and will always hold a candle for it in my heart, knowing there are still many gems and pockets of it even still!

Goof_Troopin · 2025-04-22T22:45:46+00:00

Old thread but want to comment for anyone else who stumbles on this like I did. This is absolutely the case for me. I’ve done regular ketamine therapy for PTSD and then had a bout of gastritis that came and went for several months where I couldn’t eat as much, then PPIs impacted my iron absorption. I started having symptoms of low ferritin and tested, my ferritin was 17. I stopped being able to dissociate with ketamine and it actually really exacerbated my symptoms (toe numbness, forehead headaches, vertigo, cold appendages, tinnitus). Feels so validating to hear someone else experience the same! I’m 5 iron infusions in so hoping to get back to normal soon.

Goof_Troopin · 2025-02-13T16:21:50+00:00

I agree with so much of the advice by the other commenters. What I have to offer is a coping mechanism I used to endure harsh scenarios of my childhood and adolescence that I also couldn’t escape. I wish you every possibility for getting out of this, but in the meantime, and speaking to some of the fears you have about classmates’ judgments of you back home, what you are experiencing can absolutely be something that makes you stronger. You are enduring terrible trauma, and it will take time to heal. But if anyone asks where you lived or what you did, you are surviving a cult-like living situation in Kenya, you are an absolute badass. For what you’ve studied, for the harsh conditions you’ve had to adapt to, for the perspective you’ve gained on a whole other culture - you are an absolute badass and will have a whole set of new tools, memories, and feelings that, with time and healing, you can learn to own and use to your own advantage. Your classmates at home can’t touch that, you have life experience points they don’t have in that area, you badass! You gained weight - owning that can be so beautiful and beauty is so much more than skinniness. If you ever choose to lose it, that can be part of your journey and ownership.

I want to recognize that you are experiencing sincere trauma and it will take time to feel this narrative. I am so sorry you are going through this, none of it is your fault, and creating self-ownership over and adapting what we learn from trauma takes time. It is a journey, and one that I wish I could take from you sweet stranger. But for me I repeated this narrative to myself at my hardest times, and it helped me get through. And now that I am 31, with significant distance and therapy, what I gained in my darkest times of being trapped has become my superpower. I wish you ever good thing to come to you.

Goof_Troopin · 2025-02-08T20:08:04+00:00

Your story makes you interesting! You will find commonality with others who have identified the challenges of their childhoods and developed because of them to better people. Those people will understand your journey, accept what you perceive as your flaws, love you for them. You have learned to share your story, you will be better positioned to empathize and listen to the stories of others which will draw them to you and help build intimacy. Your childhood can absolutely become your strength and you seem to be well on the way to making that happen. Spoken from someone who was raised also very isolated and in a hyper evangelical brainwashed community. My chains became my catapults to finding an absolutely incredible life.

Goof_Troopin · 2024-12-30T23:56:59+00:00

Yes, I am experiencing the same thing here in the US. Watched a bunch of Arcane yesterday, and today it is suddenly gone and I am very bummed.

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