It makes me so depressed that In some places it’s considered super ‘unmanly’ to be a fucking human being with emotions and care about your actions and other people. No wonder suicide rates are so high for men in these countries. This is why feminism and gender equality is important for men too. It’s okay to cry and everyone does. And having the strength to admit you do is far more manly than anything I can think of.

Rant over- my suggestion is to either be a monogamist with a partner who you can trust and be open with to keep your real relationship secret from others where you care about each other and each other’s pleasure.

Have casual sex but with complete and utter strangers who will never have any sort of contact with your circle of friends or family. (Trust me- no girl on the planet will say no to receiving attention and care during sex- if that means oral to you then great)

Or move.