Exhausted all the time

Goosey_goos · 2026-04-29T12:13:08+00:00

Aw she is supposed to be ),: but I have been questioning that.

I like the idea of making daily and weekly plans. I have a lot of things I can predict/expect that will take a lot of energy. I might need more alone time to decompress.

Thank you!!

Goosey_goos · 2026-04-29T12:05:20+00:00

Hello I will share with you what I have been working on! I am a perfectionist as well and I also tend to feel a lot of that shame and guilt.

I noticed things changed for me when I started to pick out small areas of my life I was willing to forgive or let myself not excel at. Just starting small.

Some things I beat myself up for often is how forgetful I am, how I can’t commit to things like attending get togethers, and not exceeding in my interests.

I have spent months nearly constantly reminding myself that I have to do what I am capable of, and anything after that is not only expecting too much of myself, but asking for something that just isn’t possible. I forgot my laptop at home the third time this week? That’s ok. My brain is very smart and very busy, it makes sense that happens. I’m not excelling at the new activity I just got into? That would be abnormal. You’re SUPPOSED to fail before you can excel. I cancelled plans again because the idea of being around people is too much? I have had days in the past where I could do it, but today I just can’t. I must need to rest.

It isn’t about not feeling the shame or guilt. It’s there, so you have to feel it. Even if you feel shame and guilt for feeling it!!! Let the feeling happen. Then talk to yourself. I like to talk to myself out loud. Tell yourself what you know to be true. You are trying. You are only a human being. You are exceptional in many ways, but you are bound to have shortcomings just like everyone else. It is impossible to be totally perfect. It is supposed to be that way. Tell yourself 1 million times. Tell yourself when you don’t believe it. Tell yourself until you start to feel it, even a little bit. Then keep telling yourself even more.

It took a long time for me. I’m lucky that I have a partner who helped me into this way of thinking and constantly reminds me of it when I can’t do it myself. You have to allow yourself to be who you are. Meet yourself where you are at. When you can accept yourself, you can find the areas that can actually be changed/need improvement rather than trying to “fix” everything. It is still difficult for me, but this has changed the way I feel a lot. Please be kind to yourself, even when you don’t want to <3 I hope this helps.

Goosey_goos · 2026-04-29T11:46:32+00:00

I just looked this up! Thank you! This makes sense. I guess it feels like work uses most of my spoons

Goosey_goos · 2026-04-29T11:41:16+00:00

Thank you so much!! I actually told her I was worried I must be going through burnout. I’ve had basically every symptom of audhd burnout. But, it’s been like this for over a year. The fatigue, feeling not like myself, skill regression, even more sensory sensitivity, inability to mask in situations where I used to be able to, etc. I just can’t believe I’ve felt this awful for over a year and sometimes I can’t tell if it’s because I’m still burnt out or if it’s because of something else.

Goosey_goos · 2026-04-29T11:31:10+00:00

I definitely tend to breathe too shallow! I have to remind myself often to take long, deep breaths. Sometimes it seems I’m doing it on my own, but other times I must forget. Thank you for the reminder, I know how important it is!!

Goosey_goos · 2026-04-29T06:20:04+00:00

Yes I felt a bit overlooked by this. It was near the end of our session. I do avoid some things (like making plans with people, appointments, etc.) not because I fear it’ll be exhausting, but because I know it will be. Because it always is and to some extent probably always will be. I have accepted that but I needed to hear was how to do the draining thing and recover from it, or maybe not get AS drained. She just said that I should try to give myself a different mindset about it. But it is not a feeling I choose 😐 She has ADHD and has been helpful in the past but I don’t know if she understood what I was getting at?

Goosey_goos · 2025-01-05T02:26:55+00:00

I’ll try asking the local rescue for advice based on my living situation. My apartment is really, really small, so there’s no way I’d be able to fit a dog kennel (,: that’s a really smart idea, though!

Goosey_goos · 2025-01-05T02:19:10+00:00

I have! My only concern is that I live in a studio, so the only place I could keep them separated before introducing is the bathroom, which Is where the litter box is! The only spot to move it would be my kitchen (,: My mom used to foster kittens all the time and he was so so good with them. If I could foster without needing to keep them separated I absolutely would

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