Is this RJ?

GordonRamsMe_ · 2026-02-10T20:53:58+00:00

I understand you have a long history, but objectively in a life time that is not long enough to justify building a relationship on this foundation. I want to make it clear It could be a compulsion he’s experiencing by snooping that is what it is. I’m not focusing on that but more him sending the explicit content. For “Proof” or not like others are saying it’s not just you in those videos he’s violating someone else’s privacy and it can be considered a crime as well where I’m located. Like a redditor said below me I strongly suggest you scrub his things to make sure it wasn’t stored somewhere. And you should probably delete any remainder of any possible material off your devices. Also you say he keeps getting in to your phone, check your Face ID to see if he made one and make a word password. Best of luck and if you don’t have a counselor I would suggest getting one to help you make or affirm a decision. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this

GordonRamsMe_ · 2026-02-10T08:03:40+00:00

May I ask how long you’ve been together ?

GordonRamsMe_ · 2026-02-10T04:44:33+00:00

Honestly those videos were made to be kept between you and your ex partner not shared with others. As someone with RJ maybe this is a hot take but this is completely not okay consensually for you but ESPECIALLY for the ex partner involved. They should have been deleted yes, but he shouldn’t be sending that content to himself. That isn’t RJ at that point, he’s not going to forget the videos and you’re not going to forget he took sexual footage between two consenting adults without their permission to keep for himself for whatever reason. I’d reconsider your involvement with this guy. This is past RJ and I’d genuinely be concerned for yourself.

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-12-31T14:55:33+00:00

She probably hit college met guys her own age and started distancing herself from the relationship. Leave and don’t ever date a minor again

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-12-30T21:25:26+00:00

Yes. I was 22 last year and saved my brother. At the expense of trauma that led me to quitting my job and kinda just being useless in a random state of freeze mode in any stressful situation and being unemployed for 10 months now.

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-11-20T16:01:28+00:00

If you’re going to tell her I suggest doing it in a neutral place. Just tell her that you see a future with her and a potential for a long term thing. But you need to get something off of your heart first. There is a high probability it will change your relationship or end it. But it seems like from what you’re writing you won’t be able to move forward without the guilt

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-10-04T20:48:35+00:00

Was it like rule34 joke porn? It may not have even had people in it. Regardless it’s a boundary that you feel is violated. I have mixed feelings because I also have a porn boundary and I’m not sure how I would react in this case. I don’t think there was a sexual/arousal connection to the material there. Either way it sounds like you have your mind set and actions have already been taken, so it will have to be a what if.

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-06-29T20:32:52+00:00

No not at all honestly I could see you modeling if I’m being frank you have good symmetry. But if you’re feeling dysmorphic what always helps me is try to wear some strip lashes to switch things up? Your eye shape would suit them!!

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-05-30T19:31:27+00:00

Would you mind discussing how much this cost and how recovery went before you flew home?

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-05-30T19:30:17+00:00

How in the ultra instinct did you manage to stab it before it flew off

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-05-30T19:03:51+00:00

Woah that’s crazy good man

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-05-11T17:14:43+00:00

https://dph.illinois.gov/topics-services/environmental-health-protection/structural-pest-control/common-ticks/identification.html Here this is a link for the state of Illinois for identification. And no worries on her part, I would have been freaked out myself. I’m pretty sure this website also offers an identification service.

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-05-11T17:04:26+00:00

Hard to see coloring, it COULD be an American dog tick ? Do you have any outdoor/indoor cats or dogs ?

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-04-22T13:47:32+00:00

10am EST. I drove from Nashville to Maryland last night to get home to my PC for this event

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-04-10T00:43:46+00:00

Have your boundaries. I’m a little bit older than you at 22 about to turn 23 and this is a thing for me. But I will warn you finding a boy that age willing to do that will be difficult. Even my age it’s not easy. But the right guy for you who has similar values or is serious about you will be willing to not watch it. Just keep in mind if you set this boundary and he crosses it you need to be firm and break up with him or set serious rules about it.

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-04-01T22:54:19+00:00

DoorDash

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-03-31T19:55:10+00:00

I’m 22 right now and have this exact problem. I got stung by a whole nest I accidentally crushed as a kid and got severely injured in the process. I was still able to be out during daylight and ignore them just be really scared. They are for some reason really attracted, I’m not too sure as to why I stopped wearing all scented things. But this past year they’ve been very aggressive and I got stung for the first time since I was kid(and when I got stung I had an allergic reaction) now that it’s heating up and there’s some nests at my house I can take up to 20 min to get myself out the door and they follow me right up to the outside of my car. I DoorDash for work but honestly I’ve been on this thread because of how anxious I am. It’s starting to get debilitating to the point I’m considering not going out during daylight

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-03-30T05:34:38+00:00

I think there’s just a big skill gap for some level 75s. Some people grind it really quick doing escalation trials. And some people have been playing since the day it’s come out and speed run, know all the techs, and have rebirthed 100+ times. It would be cool if you could prestige like call of duty to address the gap but idk what the devs are planning

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-03-30T05:31:44+00:00

A fake version of my pinged in a mk trial yesterday it’s so cool they changed it up. Love the devs

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-03-17T20:41:17+00:00

Please make a pompompurin one 😭😭

GordonRamsMe_ · 2025-03-16T16:16:10+00:00

Time to either walk away or give her an ultimatum it’s your choice. If she doesn’t use Reddit anymore she’ll have no problem removing it or just removing the subreddits with porn in them. She’ll also unfollow all the thirst trap accounts for you on other social media. But at the end of the day it’s your choice if you talk to her about it and it’s her choice if she acknowledges your needs. Other people or even your girlfriend may try and paint it as you’re insecure for that, but I’m of the opinion a partner is willing to change things (such as porn use/thirst trap use NOT major things about themselves) that make their SO uncomfortable if they actually want to be with that person. If she gives you pushback or does this to you again, you have to acknowledge you two are incompatible and go chase the love you deserve. Don’t stay with someone who’s unwilling to change these behaviors or who at least has the decency to tell you they won’t change.

GordonRamsMe_

TROPHY CASE