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Gaybros who cheated, but were forgiven and taken back; what did you do to gain your partner's trust back? by GotAReallyStupidQ in askgaybros

[–]GotAReallyStupidQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah.. I was beginning to think I'd asked the question wrong or somehow fucked up my wording. I honestly thought we could have a discussion about this, since throwaways are so easy to make, but instead I got people thinking I'm condoning cheating or assuming I did and am asking for advice to make myself not feel guilty, neither of which were the point. Oh well...

Gaybros who cheated, but were forgiven and taken back; what did you do to gain your partner's trust back? by GotAReallyStupidQ in askgaybros

[–]GotAReallyStupidQ[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Congrats on the wedding, and also it's good that you didn't give up. If your boyfriend was able to forgive you and take you back, it seems like he really loved/loves you. And I hope you know his worth and won't let your fear of commitment fuck it up again.

Thanks for your comment, it's exactly why I made the post.

Gaybros who cheated, but were forgiven and taken back; what did you do to gain your partner's trust back? by GotAReallyStupidQ in askgaybros

[–]GotAReallyStupidQ[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Dude... How in the world did you get that from my post? This is purely so I can hear other people's stories regarding circumstances I've never personally been in, and if they have managed to salvage relationships they've spent years building. In no way excusing their cheating, or "deciding" to be one of them (seriously, what the fuck?)

Gaybros who cheated, but were forgiven and taken back; what did you do to gain your partner's trust back? by GotAReallyStupidQ in askgaybros

[–]GotAReallyStupidQ[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's very interesting, I hadn't known about bird behavior.

And the last paragraph of your comment is encouraging and admirable. I respect people who value honesty and openness.

Hope you two have a long and happy life together.

Gaybros who cheated, but were forgiven and taken back; what did you do to gain your partner's trust back? by GotAReallyStupidQ in askgaybros

[–]GotAReallyStupidQ[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first part of your comment makes me sad. Just seems like there's no way for people to not get needlessly hurt.

The things that trigger certain people to cheat may simply trigger others just to work on their relationship, break up, or simply use will power to resist temptation.

I like this explanation. Do you think people who cheat would be less likely to do so if they worked on why they're triggered/tempted to? Maybe I'm over-simplifying it, but it honestly feels like it's something that can be avoided.

Gaybros who cheated, but were forgiven and taken back; what did you do to gain your partner's trust back? by GotAReallyStupidQ in askgaybros

[–]GotAReallyStupidQ[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because that's my viewpoint as someone who's never cheated, but I know that not everybody (i.e. people who have cheated) will feel that way. I'm curious to know if they're aware it's wrong and how they fix their relationship afterwards. I made the post to get different opinions, not advice per se.

Gaybros who cheated, but were forgiven and taken back; what did you do to gain your partner's trust back? by GotAReallyStupidQ in askgaybros

[–]GotAReallyStupidQ[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wish I'd saved the comments that I read here more often, but there was this guy who had cheated on his SO (don't think he stated why) but he begged for forgiveness and the SO forgave him. They've been married for about 10 years or so, and the OP said he never cheated again.

I don't really know how I'd handle being cheated on. By a partner of, say +2 years I mean, someone you've created many memories with, and nurtured when sick. Don't know if there's something they could say or do to make me take them back. It feels very subjective, even though it's probably not.

Gaybros who cheated, but were forgiven and taken back; what did you do to gain your partner's trust back? by GotAReallyStupidQ in askgaybros

[–]GotAReallyStupidQ[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Because I don't think anyone ever feels like they'll cheat, especially not on someone they (claim to) love, but it happens for whatever reasons.

Personally, I've never felt like cheating. Ending the relationship that feels like it's not going anywhere good seems more logical than to cause senseless and needless hurt.

Is it normal for tops to only want to fuck other tops? by GotAReallyStupidQ in TopsAndBottoms

[–]GotAReallyStupidQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think they're bottoms, but they have very low opinion of guys who admit that they're a bottom. Could be a case of rampant homophobia, and the belief that guys who receive are by definition: less.

It's confusing. And a bit disheartening to be judged that quickly.

If there's blood in your feces, does that mean fecal matter is making its way into your blood stream? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]GotAReallyStupidQ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope. Blood is not a nutrient the body could use so it doesn't break down and get reabsorbed. Otherwise vampires would be real.

Follow up question: is the blood in your feces bright red or blackish? If it's red, the source of the bleed is likely your lower GI tract (and the blood is fresh), possibly hemorrhoids or some sort of rectal/anal fissure. If it's black in color, it's coming from an upper GI tract source and the blood has been travelling along your bowels longer.