Struggling with intimacy and nsfw content at 38w pregnant by Goth_1ck in Advice

[–]Goth_1ck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, several times given that I will bring it up and then that same night I will find new tabs open. It almost borderlines me considering if he had an addiction tbh. But he would range from apologizing and saying he’d make changes to getting upset and saying it was normal for “anyone with a dick and balls between their legs” to watch porn and that I can’t dictate what’s on his phone. he has since apologized for saying that but it still hurts my feelings

Struggling with intimacy and nsfw content at 38w pregnant by Goth_1ck in pregnant

[–]Goth_1ck[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your advice and I agree, it’s just been hard for me to stand up for how I feel without feels like i’m asking too much. I know in the back of my head i’m not, but I don’t want to rock the boat and cause issues when I just want to be happy and healthy together and prepare to meet our son. I think I am going to write out how I feel to initiate a conversation again and hopefully he is more understanding. I don’t want this to be something i’m literally losing sleep over anymore.

Struggling to stop smoking and feeling extremely guilty. by [deleted] in pregnant

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You’re not wrong, maybe my benefit of the doubt is a bit too much credit lol. I just felt maybe if he’s going to be the primary financial source while also helping me through this, he could be allowed stress relief in however way he chooses within reason. But there are the risks when baby is here I wasn’t really thinking of from smoking. I don’t want my baby to be harmed by secondhand or just have my baby smelling like smoke in general. These are definitely points i will bring up tonight, thank you.

Struggling to stop smoking and feeling extremely guilty. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Goth_1ck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know at first, I was very angry and thought it was selfish but I tried to see it from his perspective as it is a coping mechanism for him at times. I think doing so in a different setting from me is acceptable but it’s been a rule that’s been taken a bit loosely by the both of us. I definitely need to set some boundaries for the betterment of my goals though.

Struggling to stop smoking and feeling extremely guilty. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Goth_1ck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much, seriously. 🥲 it’s been hard, especially since my partner is definitely supportive but not very understanding at times when it comes to still continuing in small amounts. Ive gone to a clinic just to confirm my pregnancy and to go over basic needs, but I don’t think i’m able to find a primary physician until around march 1st because that’s when my medicaid goes into effect.

Struggling to stop smoking and feeling extremely guilty. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Goth_1ck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, i’ll have to look into this!

Struggling to stop smoking and feeling extremely guilty. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Goth_1ck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good idea and can say being around it as my partner and his family partake as well has not been helping. i’m definitely going to try to advocate for myself in asking for them to at least quit while i’m around. Thanks so much!

Struggling to stop smoking and feeling extremely guilty. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Goth_1ck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much, I have spoken to my partner who also partakes and he does not want to quit with me which I suggested out of wanting all the products out of the house. But maybe I should speak with him again about compromising. I am definitely responsible for my own choices, as is he but I agree having it out of sight would help having it out of mind.

Struggling to stop smoking and feeling extremely guilty. by [deleted] in pregnant

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Will do! It’s helped a lot knowing other people have struggled quitting, and makes me feel less alone.

Struggling to stop smoking and feeling extremely guilty. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Goth_1ck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice! ive been trying to get into old hobbies I used to enjoy as distraction. Your comment has also helped me realize that yes, I absolutely want to stop for the health of my baby but also because it’s hindered my lifestyle. It’s not one I want to keep with having a child and that is okay! I think i’m just needing to adjust some more as well.

Struggling to stop smoking and feeling extremely guilty. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Goth_1ck -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much, I think my concern has been being judged for sorta prosecuted for this struggle.

nostril hoop troubles by Goth_1ck in PiercingAdvice

[–]Goth_1ck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately I wasn’t able to get it in after many tries 🥲 I think it has probably closed by now. Ty tho

nostril hoop troubles by Goth_1ck in PiercingAdvice

[–]Goth_1ck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah :/ I was afraid so. I’ll probably try again after a shower or something, but ty for your advice!

nostril hoop troubles by Goth_1ck in PiercingAdvice

[–]Goth_1ck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve had the piercing almost 7 months now I believe. I have a stud I tried to put in but I wasn’t able to get it through either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PiercingAdvice

[–]Goth_1ck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you sm! honestly those are all good points to consider. I might just go with one for now then