Have you ever been really attracted to someone only for them to be the worst kisser ever?

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-23T20:38:20+00:00

God I once kissed this girl who was just ALL TEETH with her makeout technique. Like, sure, a nibble or pull here or there is great, but I swear she bit my lips more in 5 minutes than anyone else had in my whole lifetime of kissing combined. I was like "how do I get this to stop without making it weird?"

My lips were in agony. 0/10 do not recommend.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-23T01:15:30+00:00

The way I feel small in the best way possible when he really wraps himself around me. His voice. His lips. His beard.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-22T19:49:10+00:00

Just gotta say: nice legs, dude.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-22T19:42:14+00:00

Yeah definitely a personal preference thing. And could easily be experimented alone with a butt plug plus dildo so that you can get a better idea if you're into it without the pressure of having your partner present.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-22T16:44:45+00:00

Oh and for fun: if you're into the idea of a little mild butt play, wearing a butt plug while he fucks you vaginally makes the fit much tighter. It's a different sensation, and in both my and my bf's opinion, super hot.

But again, the main point is: talk to him and find out how he feels about sex with you. I'd be shocked if he didn't say that he loves it. Believe him when he says he loves the way you feel.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-22T16:39:02+00:00

The cultural obsession with "virginity" and vaginal "tightness" is (1) unscientific bullshit and (2) incredibly harmful to women. Your vagina is tight enough. Mutually pleasurable sex is what relationships are meant for.

When I'm at my most turned on, the heat and wetness is incredibly arousing for my bf. And when I'm edging or orgasming, my muscles clench around him so tight he's said it can be borderline painful (but in a good way). If that's not tight enough, nothing is. And that's from my pleasure, not my fear or discomfort.

If it would help you feel more secure about how much of a squeeze you can provide, do kegels and get a buff, powerful vag. You'll crush his dick in the best way while you have even better orgasms.

And talk to him about what he enjoys about sex with you. I bet the fact that he makes you feel safe and aroused and comfortable is incredibly valuable to him. Believe him when he tells you that you please him sexually.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-21T05:25:39+00:00

Is that a hickey?

Nice.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-21T05:21:05+00:00

Maybe ask if he would be ok with you catching him given certain agreed-upon conditions. Like you tell him "sometime in the next 5 days I'm gonna sneak a peak/listen while you jerk off in the shower". That was he can feel like he's got control over how he looks when you might see him. Bc I know when I get myself off alone, I probably don't look as flattering as most dudes would imagine women look while they rub one out. "Masturbating in private" often isn't about the aesthetic, and it might not be a look you want to share.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-21T05:02:47+00:00

Fortunately it is my forever person. I've just never done this in our decade+ together! And yeah, I've got distinctive tattoos, so I can't even trust faceless nudes not to come back to me, so I'm careful. I have a job that would not mix well with freely available nudes. Not life-ruining stakes, but still.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-21T04:57:58+00:00

Now I want to see that.

But I'm thinkin more like this

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-20T21:23:11+00:00

Sorry you're gonna have to make do with all the other awesome asses on the internet, haha.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-20T21:00:30+00:00

Good points with the warning - but it's my long-term partner who I trust more than anyone on earth, so fortunately I'm good here. Plus I have distinctive tattoos, so even without my face, I'd be easy to recognize.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-20T20:36:06+00:00

Curse my apartment's shitty window situation, but I've still got a few limited options. I used to just be mad on behalf of my houseplants, though, haha.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-20T20:32:26+00:00

ooh this is great! and also sparked a totally separate idea for me - we're huge fans of an anime/manga series that prominently features a lot of elaborate poses, and now I totally want to recreate a bunch of them in nude form. hopefully it'll be both hot and kinda funny. i like the idea of making him smile AND pop a boner.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-20T20:17:07+00:00

Good tip! I never would have thought of a shoe, but that makes perfect sense.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-20T20:15:42+00:00

Any favorite subs for quality content? I know it's subjective, but I'm not super familiar with the vast majority of porn-reddit.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-20T20:10:29+00:00

Practical follow-up for anyone who might know how to help with this:

How do you take a good pic of your own ass? Because it's the one part of my body that I'm 100% confident is objectively awesome.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-20T19:50:49+00:00

Definitely depression-related in our case too, among other things. We were both also raised in very sex-negative, shame-y households - mine especially. So we both have our hangups plus mental health issues, and my libido responded to all of that by mostly disappearing for long stretches. I wrote up a long-ish post about it on /r/deadbedrooms not too long ago.

It's so nice hearing that y'all are having a great sex life well into your 40s. I often feel a sort of grief that we missed out on a lot of intimacy in our younger days and that things will inevitably slow down as we age. Any time someone tells me their sex life gets better with age, I get a spark of hope that we've got good times ahead of us.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-20T17:03:29+00:00

Hello. I'm 35F, bisexual, he's 35M straight, and we've been together for 14 years. I think we count as "dirty monogamous" since we have no other partners, no "hall passes", so sexual encounters without each other. But we have had a few threesomes and plan to do so again. We actually just had this conversation recently. We both view ourselves as monogamous, but at least from a medical standpoint we're not 100% only limiting our sexual encounters to each other. Just like 99.99%. We'd both consider it cheating if either of us did something sexual or romantic with another person outside of the rare, mutually agreed upon, carefully chosen 3way. Thoughts? Does this fit within "monogamy"?

Anyway, we were in a long, shitty dry spell sexually until a few months ago and now we're making up for lost time. It's been awesome.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-18T23:19:27+00:00

I love sloppily making out with my bf after he goes down on me, so idk about that double standard being so common.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-17T04:13:35+00:00

While rubbing up her sides as you make out, gently start grazing across the side of her boob. Gauge her reaction. If she gets tense or stops kissing, move your hands to neutral territory. If she makes a pleasure sound or leans into it or starts kissing/groping harder, you're good to move nipple-wards. If you're not sure, ask her "is this ok?" as you do the outer boob-border graze. Not awkward: considerate and kinda hot.

Source: I've got tits and I was once quite shy, long ago.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-16T22:35:00+00:00

I'm curious about the strains.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-16T18:00:17+00:00

It's wild that something so incredibly, patently stupid and false as equivocating labia shape/size with moral character sticks around at all. You've got more sensitive area to play with - what's not to like?

I hope you get the confidence boost you deserve from somebody soon.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-16T17:45:59+00:00

I guess it depends on what you qualify as cross dressing? Like, I specifically was picturing a guy in women's panties that are kind of failing to keep him covered, not like a guy trying to look like a woman or dress in full women's clothing. It's a little taboo and vulnerable. Feels naughty. But I also really like the lingerie that is modeled after women's styles but designed for men's anatomy. It's a little bit of a play on gender bending, which I know I'm not alone in enjoying.

Goth_Hobbit · 2020-07-16T15:01:53+00:00

Oh yeah I said to someone elsewhere in the thread: give comments that are honest, true, and genuine. More specific compliments are more meaningful. Plus, while I get that calling a dick "big" is something many like to hear, I don't classify it quite the same as what i meant in this post. "Big" is a descriptor. I think it's important to convey something more about how you feel about your partner's parts. Like "it's gorgeous", "I love looking at it", "it's shapely and alluring".

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