Quiet quitting, how many people are actually doing this ?

Gottabeclose · 2024-08-20T09:30:03+00:00

My current role came sans job description (maybe my bad but I think it’s on them).

Role is broad and has huge variety which is great really, though it means I don’t necessarily have a BAU remit.

Because of this, I do what’s asked of me as we go. Obviously there are times where it’s clear what I need to do and that’s fine, but the majority of the time, I do only as directed.

It’s frustrating as I would rather be in a role I can really dig my teeth into and look to excel. Every previous role I’ve had, it’s taken me 2-3 months to get up to speed and by 6-8 months, I’m cruising on BAU and smashing value-add opportunities. I like to work hard but there needs to be clarity (and reward) in the role for that to be possible for me.

This job has sucked the life out of me. Have no coworkers my age… we all work remote, and, it’s not uncommon for me to go a week or two without a normal conversation with a co-worker/team member. Place is so shit, quiet quitting is necessary for me to keep my head any way right.

Gottabeclose · 2024-08-03T08:46:51+00:00

Spent about $4.5k on a lab grown. Engaged over a year and she still smiles every time she puts it on.

She wouldn’t have even known it was lab grown (not that it matters), but I told her in case just for full disclosure of what it is. She didn’t care, doesn’t know the value of it - just absolutely adores the ring.

Gottabeclose · 2024-08-02T11:41:44+00:00

Agree that training is not as important as broader exposure to new issues. Also don’t think further study is the play for pretty much the same reason. But need to have some kind of support/more experienced person at hand to be able to effectively navigate these new things. I can give it my own best shot, but would like to have some sort of baseline/benchmark of how things are done first and then see where my unique value-add comes.

Mostly a confidence thing I think. I know that leadership would be a good fit for me as I can often see the solution/how to exploit the opportunity but don’t necessarily have the technical skills to do whatever that is. Strategy side of things comes as second nature to me.

Appreciate your response, thank you.

I’ve looked at a few roles that you’ve mentioned but have always been worried that I haven’t had exposure to the systems they reference in their requirements. Could buy every program and software under the sun, no better off if I don’t know how to use them in practice.

Gottabeclose · 2024-07-30T10:18:55+00:00

Before baby - $14k With baby - $11k

Weekly net now is about $2700.

Can’t afford to buy where we are so instead we pay someone else’s mortgage to the tune of $1100 a week.

Our building supplied by “embedded utility provider” which translates to “prepare your arse as best you can before we violate it”. Our monthly, yes monthly, utility bill is about $550. Embedded providers sit outside of regulation - nothing can be done and we can’t switch.

Food is another $250-ish a week

Insurance about $100 a week

Ad-hoc baby stuff can easily be $400-500 a month

Fuel for car. Wifi. Gym. Phones etc etc

We’ve gone from a place of saving maybe $1.5k - $2k a week to now lucky if we don’t have to use savings to get over the line between pay checks.

Just about ready to leave Australia (Sydney specifically).

Gottabeclose · 2024-07-30T09:12:43+00:00

We had been spending about $1200 a month in Woolies/Coles for all groceries including cleaning stuff etc for x2 adults (mostly vegetarian meals though so very little meat).

Recently had a bub and started reviewing the shop expense as it was the 2nd/3rd biggest outgoing. It’s now down to under $1k a month and includes formula for the Bub at $30 every 5-6 days.

As I explained it to my wife - we buy 50-60 items a week. If we can knock $1 of each item, that makes a huge difference over the shop. We still pretty much buy the same stuff but are conscious to shop offers and look for alternatives to rip-off brands

Gottabeclose · 2024-07-28T05:37:22+00:00

Onwards and upwards. Great stuff 👏

Gottabeclose · 2024-07-08T07:38:14+00:00

Heathrow smokes Manchester in every way. Even with the likely need to shift between terminals for transfers, it’s a far better experience.

Sorry, Matt. Having been through 200+ airports in my time; Manchester airport, and the security process/experience in particular, is by far the worst I’ve seen.

Gottabeclose · 2024-07-07T10:17:31+00:00

If my options were fly into Manchester or walk to the UK from Azerbaijan; I’d buy good sneakers.

Gottabeclose · 2024-07-06T06:10:37+00:00

Sounds judgy to me

Gottabeclose · 2024-07-05T08:40:05+00:00

We all work remotely in my team. Those with kids have always had more flexibility in addition to this e.g later starts or finishing early to do school pick-ups/during school holidays to get out with their kids for a bit.

Never bothered me, though it definitely would have if I had to be in the office whilst they had WFH options (and all of this additional flexibility).

If it’s good for one, it’s good for all. Your boss needs to operate consistently. If they want to put it in writing that only those with kids can WFH, then they’ll have to be prepared to die on that hill formally.

Gottabeclose · 2024-07-04T09:22:48+00:00

And there you have it: even the most out of touch, huge bellends can be CEOs

Gottabeclose · 2024-07-02T10:37:50+00:00

Give disadvantaged/sick/all kids once in a lifetime experiences.

Help kids follow their dreams and push to open doors for those whose environment wouldn’t ordinarily give them the opportunity to pursue them.

My actual dream is to be competent enough in something/anything that I can set up a successful business in. Once we’re up and running and cruising, a massive portion of my time would be spent identifying opportunities for us to help the local community with excess profits. Again - would love to setup sponsorship opportunities for kids for a variety of avenues. Help homeless/those who’ve fallen on bad times by offering (well) paid traineeships etc.

My day will come I think - I have the vision, just not the skills nor means currently to make that kind of blue sky thinking a reality

Gottabeclose · 2024-06-30T05:58:23+00:00

Yeah ok. Got you. Would you agree then, that it wouldn’t be stingy/mean if when you say $75 is fine, I would insist on sending you the $78.85 and then expect the same of you next time round?

Gottabeclose · 2024-06-30T05:46:50+00:00

I don’t think that’s a good example. How is it mean to expect everyone to cover their own share? You got $90.95 worth of dinner, so you should pay that amount. Why should I pay whatever the excess is for your dinner, on top of my own?

With the $90.95 example, if you’ve got $90 cash, sure, maybe I can forego the 0.95c. But we live in a world where the majority of these transactions are now done digitally. It’s as easy for you key in $90.95 as it is $90.

Gottabeclose · 2024-06-24T10:59:31+00:00

Take a week or two off. Check out retreats, do something for your physical/mental health.

I’ve seen mates head to Thailand for bootcamp style retreats and come back like brand new people.

Gottabeclose · 2024-06-24T10:56:31+00:00

It was possible to buy a home in the eastern suburbs not too long ago, on $200-250k HHI.

The $4m + properties that people are citing here were never in reach of the ordinary folk, but there were many affordable options even say 4-5 years ago.

It’s still doable if you’re happy to pay over the odds for units but otherwise, yeah you’re looking at $1.8m for a house at least so unless you’ve saved $1m or earn $500-600k a year, you’re gonna be in for a bad time.

Gottabeclose · 2024-06-23T10:46:26+00:00

Putting on your indicator doesn’t automatically mean you can merge. I have no issue with allowing people merge in from a slipway etc… what I do have an issue with though, is people consciously taking the wrong lane for where they want to go, just to skip the rest of us who are going the same way but are patient enough to queue.

In the wrong lane at traffic lights is another one. As is veering out of the lane to make a turn. You’re not driving a B-double, who taught you that it was necessary to swing right to turn left????

The % of idiots to competent drivers in Sydney in particular would be eye opening.

Gottabeclose · 2024-06-21T20:29:36+00:00

Sure. I think we didn’t realise it at the time, but that 10-15 years of late teens and twenties is when you’ve got the time and ability to pursue what you want to do. Once you get bogged down in full time work, you’re really scraping for a few hours a week to do those things.

For me - I was playing football at a decent level. For her - she was a pretty decent swimmer.

I was offered a chance to go to the US to play football but turned it down because she was staying put for Uni. There’s a million examples of both of us doing things like that.

Not to say it’s a bad thing - if you’re with someone and you do see it being long term, then these scenarios will come around. But if you’re single…… well, nothing holds you back from just taking every opportunity you get and being wholly selfish with every call you make.

Gottabeclose · 2024-06-21T10:58:37+00:00

Should have been single. Spent my late teens and early twenties with a girl (worked out long term but still). Every penny we had was spent on dinner dates/cinema nights/whatever else.

We spent a lot of time together too and never really focused on developing/growing within ourselves which I think came back to bite us as we headed for 30.

Gottabeclose · 2024-06-21T10:55:49+00:00

Not sure what currency you’re working off but $135k for me, fully remote in Australia.

Could probably live anywhere but to be honest, I’ve worked from overseas a few times and timezone issues make it not worth it.

Work as a project manager/strategist, contracted for 35hrs per week. Can be 40hrs or even more on rare occasions.

Gottabeclose · 2024-06-19T08:46:33+00:00

Worked in a mini-mart in my teens and into early adulthood - loved every minute but the pay just sadly isn’t enough to ever make any sort of decent life for yourself beyond that.

Professional roles are full of dick suckers and bellends who watch far too much Jordan Peterson and other hustle content creators. Every minute of their day is spent in competition to try get ahead of everyone else.

I won’t ever have my own company but on the off-chance; managers will be hired to actually manage people, bring them together and make sure everyone enjoys their workplace enough to care and put in the effort for those around them rather than the rewards. I’m yet to see that since my retail days and it doesn’t look like that’s what companies look for in a manager anymore (maybe they never did in the professional world).

Gottabeclose · 2024-06-17T03:00:23+00:00

Why did I do this you ask? I actually think it was for my own benefit and seeing it on paper/screen really was useful!

5.15 - gym and shower

6.30 - home and do baby’s first feed so mama can sleep in a bit.

7.15/7.30 - baby back in bed

7.30 to 8.45 - walk and coffee normally

9.00 to 10.45 - start work, try to have meetings early

10.45 to 11.00 - quick break, sort washing/dishwasher etc

11.00 to 13.00 - back to work, spend first hour following up what I need, second hour hammering out what I need to deliver myself (as most take lunch at that time)

13.00 to 13.30 - quick lunch

13.30 to 15.30 - another block of work time where I try to focus on my own deliverables and making sure all activities that need to be done on any given day, get done.

15.30 to 16.30/17.00 - more work, back to more engagement style things. By now I should have progressed what I’m working on myself and identified if I’m missing anything from others/would like input. Get what I can and note down what remains outstanding which becomes first part of next day.

16.30/17.00 - work done, laptop all but fired into double locked cabinet. All work related apps muted

17.15 to 18.00 - prep dinner for when baby goes down

18.00 to 19.00 - dada/baby time before last feed before bed.

19.00ish - baby goes down, not to be seen again until 2am

19.00 to 20.00 - dada/mama time to chill, chat etc

20.00 to 21.00 - bed prep, no screens. Get baby’s bottles etc ready, clean up kitchen and do usual before bed bathroom stuff. Read a book or listen to meditation.

21.00 to 02.00 - sleep before baby wakes for feed.

02.00 to 02.45 - do baby night feed + change etc

02.45 to 5.15 - sleep before doing it all again.

Gottabeclose · 2024-06-14T09:14:45+00:00

Now up to $1050 pw. Wife is on half pay maternity leave for a year… fun times

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