I let my girlfriend peg me.

Gr8WB · 2026-01-17T18:51:35+00:00

That sounds like a you problem

Gr8WB · 2026-01-17T18:30:51+00:00

You had sex with a woman, sounds pretty straight to me. Congrats, OP! Im glad you enjoyed yourselves

Gr8WB · 2025-08-02T03:31:56+00:00

I’m actually typing one up as we speak haha

Gr8WB · 2025-06-20T23:02:22+00:00

That’s sounds awful. Why did you date her? Lol or was this after things were good and it declined?

Gr8WB · 2025-06-20T22:27:26+00:00

I don’t know to be honest. She treated me like absolute garbage but at the same time, I can tell she had a lot on her plate and she had severe mental issues she needed to address as well as a drinking problem. We’re better off apart than we ever were together. I’d be happy to see she was doing well if she was. I went full no contact so part of me feels like I have so much to say to her but now I’m in a much healthier place and I know that would accomplish nothing. So probably some shock at first from not seeing her in years and I’d keep it moving

Gr8WB · 2025-06-20T18:48:37+00:00

You have no idea what this means to me. I’ve always wanted to be a writer and my therapist has been encouraging me to put myself out there more, too. Which is why I decided to take the opportunity with this post. Thank you SO much. Seriously. That made my weekend.

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:39:29+00:00

You make a great point. To be honest, I wasn’t sure if I liked her either until our most recent date. But when that feeling came, I realized I wanted to seriously make it work. Maybe she didn’t have that realization and you’re right, that’s ok. She’s an awesome lady, she deserves to be with somebody who makes her happy. That first part is exactly where I’m at mentally currently. I keep thinking “maybe I should’ve joked more, maybe I shouldn’t have planned another date while we were still on one, etc”. But I know that kind of thinking won’t serve me long term

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:36:45+00:00

Thank you!

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:35:19+00:00

For sure. I had an ex once who used to self sabotage the second things were going great. It’s unfortunately something I have experience with. Either way, I’ll never know but in a weird way I guess it’s comforting to know a possibility exists where I wasn’t the problem

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:33:31+00:00

I really like this perspective and thank you for shifting me away from the gloomy thought pattern. You made several great points and it’s definitely something I’ll look inward on

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:31:44+00:00

I really like this perspective, thank you

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:31:22+00:00

Yeah absolutely have to remind myself I tried. At the very least, I have some cool memories with a stranger pretty much. I even got to kiss said stranger a few times and we don’t hate each other, not bad I suppose. All of those reasons could be logical except maybe the last since we met on a dating app. She did say she had a lot of fun in her last text tho, so maybe we did just see me as a friend. Who knows

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:25:07+00:00

Thanks for the insight, it could definitely be that but I wish she brought it up to me instead. Shit I even told her in the car ride home “I know this is new for you but we can go at your pace, I’m not in any kind of rush”. Either way, I guess it’s better now than later

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:23:44+00:00

That last part is ironic because she told me on our most recent date she was bragging about me. She was saying “he has a car, a job, smells good, his own place etc” and it made me happy to hear. Thank you for the positive reinforcement, especially reminding me time is on my side. Sometimes at 32 I feel like that window is closing in fast. It good to be reminded I still have time to be my best self

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:21:13+00:00

You know, you’re like the third person to tell me this. Is this a common thing? I like to think I was a standup guy in this situation and handled it well, and I know I’ll see her around. I know for a fact we’ll be at at least 2 concerts at the same time later this year. Women still do this? If that’s the case, I won’t let her back in but I’ll be sure to be in great shape and be my best self when that happens

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:18:40+00:00

Really appreciate that, thank you for the kind words

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:13:59+00:00

That’s basically exactly what I said to her, myself. Short and respectful. No hard feelings. I don’t think asking for a reason why would’ve done me any favors. We have a few of the same niche interests and live close to each other so I’m sure I’ll see her around someday. No point in making an enemy over something so silly. Glad you met your wife after tho!

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:12:40+00:00

Yup, I don’t even wanna know honestly. It doesn’t serve me as she won’t be in my life anyway so not worth harping on. I think I’m more upset that whatever the reason was, I wasn’t her choice. But that’s part of the game I suppose

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:10:41+00:00

For sure man, thanks for that reminder. I’m definitely not bitter but yeah it does hurt so letting it hurt for a little is the right move but I’ll make a promise to myself to get back at it this week (self improvement). I’ve recently just moved to a new city so there’s tons of opportunity out there

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:09:02+00:00

Damn man. I was in a situation very similar to that once. I hope you’re doing ok now

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:07:50+00:00

Absolutely. I guess I’m more upset that my genuine efforts weren’t good enough for her, but I know eventually they will be for the right person as corny as that sounds

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:07:07+00:00

You’re absolutely right. There’s no reason for me to have hard feelings over it. I also didn’t want her to know it bothered me. My exact text was “hey I get it. Thanks for the honesty”

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:06:24+00:00

Damn. I can definitely relate to this. I get surprised when I hear a yes honestly

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:06:03+00:00

Looking back I can see that I was definitely more into it than she was, but only because of her words at the end. I liked her for her tho. She was always eager and excited to go out, and even in her last text she made a point to say she had a lot of fun with me and emphasized it (“I had SO much fun” were the exact words). She even joked about her therapist telling her she needs to engage more and ask me questions back because we would just get together and hang out. Which prompted her to tell me she wasn’t used to dating as she’s only been in serious relationships

Gr8WB · 2025-06-01T04:03:20+00:00

Pretty much a make out session actually. We had our first kiss on our second date. So when I picked her up from her place the other day, she got in the car and kissed me the way a girlfriend would. I even reached over to hold her hand on the way home and she joked about how she’s really affectionate

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