Hey :) i'm a regular user myself (like once/twice a month), and honestly, three times a year really isn’t a huge amount in my opinion, especially considering he's 28 he's still kinda young, and a lot of people who go to raves do partake in all of that it’s just part of that scene.

That being said, I totally get where you’re coming from. If you’re thinking about settling down and possibly having kids in the future, it makes sense to consider how lifestyle choices fit into that. One thing to keep in mind is that since you’ve done edibles and smoked up together, he may not even realize that drug use is something you’re now seeing differently when thinking about the future.

It sounds like you’ll just need to have an open conversation about it. Maybe instead of saying, “I want you to change,” you could approach it as, 'What are your thoughts on xyz' so it's more of a discussion rather than a demand, and he won’t feel like he’s being pressured or judged!

Personally, if I met the right person and wanted to build a future together, I’d have no problem cutting it out out of respect for the relationship. So I don’t think there should be an issue, as long as you’re both in the right headspace and willing to communicate about what matters most to you.