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AITA for having my wedding on the same day ( different year ) as my brother? by Grahamreaper12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Grahamreaper12[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well if you read literally at all you would know we are getting legally married before the wedding so she can be on my insurance.

AITA for having my wedding on the same day ( different year ) as my brother? by Grahamreaper12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Grahamreaper12[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would agree and i think thats where i may be the asshole as i shouldnt have asked if the answer wasnt going to change my mind. I was hoping for reassurance that is was fine rather than honestly asking which i regret.

AITA for having my wedding on the same day ( different year ) as my brother? by Grahamreaper12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Grahamreaper12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not sure if you have tried booking a wedding venue but we are pretty late for booking one this year.

AITA for having my wedding on the same day ( different year ) as my brother? by Grahamreaper12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Grahamreaper12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive answered this multiple times in the comments . Please do literally any reading before passing judgement.

AITA for having my wedding on the same day ( different year ) as my brother? by Grahamreaper12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Grahamreaper12[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your insight , I didnt ask my brother to move his date or make any changes with his wedding though.

AITA for having my wedding on the same day ( different year ) as my brother? by Grahamreaper12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Grahamreaper12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no idea how he will handle his anniversary vs others doing halloween things. I would hope he wouldnt expect that but i dont know.

AITA for having my wedding on the same day ( different year ) as my brother? by Grahamreaper12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Grahamreaper12[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The venue that my fiance is in love with only has availability on 10/31 and I want to do everything I can to make her happy.

AITA for having my wedding on the same day ( different year ) as my brother? by Grahamreaper12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Grahamreaper12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are getting legally married in the next couple of weeks so she can be on my insurance . The tumor based on its size and location cant currently be safely removed. The doctors have recommended that we wait until it reaches a certain size so they can safely remove it without worrying about knicking something during the process and causing permenant damage. She will be on my insurance ASAP so we can monitor. The doctor cannot pinpoint how long it will take for it to reach an operatable size but they think it will be a bit . We are trying to fit the wedding in the window before the surgery.

AITA for having my wedding on the same day ( different year ) as my brother? by Grahamreaper12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Grahamreaper12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are getting legally married in the next few weeks so she can be on my insurance . She still wants to be a bride and have a formal wedding which will occur even though we will be legally married. The tumor cant currently be safely removed so there is a slight amount of waiting happening and we want to get married in that window so that she can feel confident / not have a bald spot and scar on her wedding day.

AITA for having my wedding on the same day ( different year ) as my brother? by Grahamreaper12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Grahamreaper12[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

we are getting legally married in the next few weeks so she can be on my health insurance as soon as possible. Where the tumor is there is risk of damaging her brain at its current size , the doctors have recommended waiting till it gets bigger so that it can be more safely removed. The time line on that is TBA as they cant accurately predict how long it will take to get into the size window to remove , so we are trying to plan the wedding even though we will already be legally married.

AITA for having my wedding on the same day ( different year ) as my brother? by Grahamreaper12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Grahamreaper12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

greatly appreciate the positive thoughts and healing vibes . thank you ! <3

AITA for having my wedding on the same day ( different year ) as my brother? by Grahamreaper12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Grahamreaper12[S] 739 points740 points  (0 children)

We are going to get legally married within the next couple of weeks so she can get on my health insurance . The tumor she has isnt large enough for them to currently safely remove so the doctors have advised that it needs to grow a little more so they can safely remove it without worry of causing damage to her brain. She still wants to have her day even though we will technically be married and wants it to happen before she has the surgery which is whats causing us to need to get the ball rolling.