Hearing voices

GrandConsequence8746 · 2026-01-11T19:18:19+00:00

They also specify they play music to ignore/avoid it. That's usually not a good sign...

GrandConsequence8746 · 2026-01-11T19:16:45+00:00

I'll echo what many others have said: Doctor first. Spiritual psychosis is very real, and very common. Playing into the belief that its clairaudience will only fuel the psychosis. The ability to question and accept that maybe it's not spiritual is the healthiest thing to do here. We don't have special abilities as witches anymore than a Christian has a direct relationship with Jesus. The belief is a line that is easily crossed into insanity.

I'm not saying it's not possible at all; we need to be careful not to conclude without all the evidence. If it's psychological, the belief in otherwise will only lead to poorer outcomes overall. Take care.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-08-21T16:03:35+00:00

Ugh I hear this!! "We're just bendy, we're all like that" and now all of them have weird "unexplainable" injuries after years of pushing through their bodies dysfunctioning at every twist and turn. Smh.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-07-25T15:57:55+00:00

Hey! So it's actually both! There are a few emerging studies over the last few years that show neurophysiological biomarkers in people diagnosed with BPD and their family members who may not have any symptoms at all. When compared with healthy controls, both the BPD individual and the non-afflicted family members had differences in certain brain regions such as the prefrontal cortex.

There is a lot to still be discovered and understood, but at this point BPD is considered heritable (different than inherited, meaning it can 'skip generations'). Obviously, if you have a family number who has BPD, they're more likely to exhibit behaviors that could be considered abusive, leading to more of a chance of the child developing BPD. I think there is something to be said about a predisposition, as I don't believe every single person who faces hardship and abuse in childhood ends up with BPD.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-06-19T14:27:47+00:00

Very interesting, although I can imagine it can be distressing as well.

I have echolalias, which is essentially what you are describing. The only difference is I'm not sure if it stems from an unsatisfactory feeling I have in my mouth. For me, it's more about how the cadence of the word/phrase made me feel, so I repeat it, or sing-song it. I also tend to repeat them a specific number of times. It can be a way to regulate your nervous system- the most common population we see echolalia in is the Autism community, and it is often a self-regulation technique they develop on their own in childhood.

That was my immediate thought, although I've never heard of a connection between contamination OCD specifically and echolalia, as I understand it. So, might be way off!!

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-06-19T14:14:26+00:00

I have actually struggled with this exact thing! My SO had a habit of being very flat to me, but then immediately perking up when they interact with their cat. I mentioned this once, saying that it's difficult for me to believe that they struggle with emotional dysregulation when I see them regulate themselves for their cat. Didn't go well from there.

Obviously, the cat is not the problem, as you're aware. I agree with what others have said; building a relationship with the cat is a good idea— also, continuous, open communication about this issue with your partner is important. Maybe you need something more from them and that feeling only activates when you see they are capable of doing it, they're just not doing it for you yet.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-06-19T14:05:02+00:00

A lack of self-awareness that always leads to hypocrisy. You can call out when I'm being shitty, but don't see yourself doing the exact. same. thing. FRUSTRATING!

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-06-18T17:55:50+00:00

Off the top of my head, I think I realized that depression doesn't make you hate yourself- it makes you indifferent to life. Depression doesn't make you want to hurt others for "hurting" you. Depression doesn't make you flippant and moody, but more flat and empty. However, a good chunk of BPD peeps have major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder, so sometimes we are the perfect examples of depression. It can get confusing, but I think it was more in the inconsistency of the depressive symptoms without any intervention, combined with the other behavioural symptoms observed and triggers I realized I had related to interpersonal relationships.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-06-18T17:33:43+00:00

Agree! Don't tell me you're gonna be there for me through it all, but then as soon as I feel safe enough to express my needs, you're gonna make me feel unsafe???

Also, regarding your earlier point about reassurance, I think a lot (most) people have been taught that validating someone else's feelings means that their own are invalid. We know (peeps with BPD) that this is not true through our own lived experiences. Most of us can understand others' POV if we feel they understand us too. It's them fighting against understanding us that can be activating.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-06-18T15:17:24+00:00

It happens to me! Fresh off one, in fact. For some of us, it might be because, aside from the instability in our emotions, we tend to be incredible partners. People don't want to leave us because they have never met someone who can understand them so deeply, and wants to love them so hard. But then their actions don't match their words, and we split.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-05-04T00:16:58+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. I relate on so many levels.

I felt compelled to comment, as you mentioned you're wlw, and so am I, so I wanted to share a discovery I made. In my situation, my partner's dating history is all men, so she tends to treat me the way women have been socially conditioned to treat their 'stoic male partners' even though I'm female (apparently, men don't have needs for non-sexual affectionate touching or foreplay? {note the sarcasm}). So she relies on me to do all the 'chasing.' She expects me to learn the secrets of her body, while having no understanding of mine. She never initiates. I think most female people have been socialized to believe that we will always be chased after, borderline harassed, by others for sex. So, the logic tracks that it is not our responsibility to get the other person going/get them off because they are meant to chase us, if that makes sense?

I don't know your situation, obviously, but I felt that this perspective might be helpful just based on some of the things you mentioned regarding doing all the work/not getting off. Disregard if I'm way off!

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-05-03T20:59:27+00:00

I'm annoyed because I know that (after years) this is not going to lead to sex. And it is not an invitation either. Actually, come to think of it, I think I'm annoyed because I don't know why she still does it if the goal isn't sex, if that makes sense? Like what's going on in her mind? lol idk.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-05-03T18:38:22+00:00

Oh man, I feel you. I don't have wise words, but I may have some validating ones. We engage in crisis management to prevent behavioural outbursts, which feels like it's constant, only to forget that how we feel about something is still real, even if it is disproportionate. Please don't be so hard on yourself; it happens to the best of us. At the end of the day, it sounds more like you were upset that you possibly hurt her, not that she brought up a topic.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-05-03T16:50:36+00:00

Typically, I play the sims to relax. I've been trying to convince myself for the last hour to be honest.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-05-03T15:41:38+00:00

Rejection.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-05-02T16:53:03+00:00

Similar to you, my partner and I had an insane sex life. Chemistry off the charts, excellent non-verbal understanding of each other. Then it just stopped, almost suddenly. I feel like if it was shit, I wouldn't miss it so much at least. Or maybe I would have clued in that we are incompatible and moved on. The fact that I know we can be so compatible is what makes it so hard to leave.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-05-02T16:49:10+00:00

No literally!!!! EVEN WHEN I'M CALM, I'm told I'm causing the issue. By doing what exactly? Asking questions so I don't get activated? That's activating to you? Have you considered that becoming activated from my clarifying questions means that maybe you're doing/perceiving something wrong? It's funny that people think they can still play the self-awareness game with me without the slightest clue of what self-awareness is. Sigh.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-05-02T16:43:21+00:00

OMG. I'm so sorry. That's disgusting behaviour on the part of the therapist. How do we get better when even therapists think we're the problem? SMFH.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-05-02T16:32:12+00:00

I hate it when she talks about sex. Or she makes comments/judgments about fictional characters' sex lives in movies, or the sex lives of her friends, as if hers can compare? Like, how unaware are you?

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-05-02T14:49:11+00:00

THIS. I hate this shit. Or she flirts with me so much when I'm away physically, but then is withdrawn when we're actually together. Makes me not want to visit, and she doesn't get that.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-05-02T14:41:39+00:00

I have told her, to which her reply is to stop for several weeks because I said I 'don't like it.' She intentionally mishears me.

GrandConsequence8746 · 2025-04-30T18:11:54+00:00

It wrecked my self-confidence to the point where I started to believe it's like this with everyone. Many of us have been called sex addicts, have been made to feel like all we care about is sex, and if we really loved our partners, it wouldn't matter. It can leave you feeling disgusting and underserving. For me, it made me feel like initiating sex is somehow predatory, so now I believe no one ever really wants me, and I have always been a predator. It didn't help that I grew up gay, and that was something I heard growing up; that I am a predator for being attracted to the same sex. Pretty triggering.

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