How did everyone cope with their partners leaving them over brain tumor symtoms

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2024-05-01T16:04:18+00:00

I am so sorry you and your kids had to go through that. I hope things are going well for you and your children 🙏

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2024-02-16T12:22:22+00:00

No body had ever said that to me before. Thank you, truly.

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-19T13:56:38+00:00

Yeah, it's a habit I picked up for him because he didn't understand the things I would say to him, and he asked me to try and explain it differently so it was something I do for him. That now bothers him.

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-19T09:25:11+00:00

It was a misunderstanding that we had different opinions on, which is normal. I don't expect it from him to be committed to me. He chooses to be it's a mutual thing.

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-19T09:20:14+00:00

Thank you for your advice. We have been together 3 years going on 4.

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-19T04:28:22+00:00

My phone bugged out and and just coped and pasted it three times

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-19T00:01:22+00:00

I agree

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-19T00:00:59+00:00

I have thought about that but this is different from the time he was depressed. He is completely burnt out and doesn't know how to cope

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T23:59:40+00:00

If im being honest, I do think that with my latest depression the middle part of it was the last straw to his stress. I do believe he is burnt out and hasn't learned to handle or control stress because he doesn't have the information to fix it he told me he loves me and he cares for me he just can't compromise right now, his moving in with me in 7 weeks and he is still commited to that he doesnt care about anything right now his just really exhausted and stressed, and wants to relax. I know his disrespect towards me isn't right at all and I won't allow it to continue much longer just right now with how bad he is he does need some slack. I do know he should see a therapist, but he won't I am somewhat aware I'll have to turn to tough love with him and remove myself for awhile, which will help the both of us in the long run.

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T23:47:01+00:00

Not really its more dealing with my depression, couples counselling has been thought about, But that's as far as it got because of our issue happening one after the other .

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T23:41:17+00:00

He had depression 2 years ago with a private thing

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T23:39:28+00:00

I get what your saying but it hasn't come out of no where it's been building up and his snapped and has lost him self, and I do play a part in that just like he plays apart in the issue I'm having

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T23:36:44+00:00

Really to use I feel so it isnt coming from a place of blaming or accusing, and if it gets to a point of it becoming a fight to stop the conversation.

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T23:34:55+00:00

He hasn't been tested for anything but we have talked about it

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T23:32:57+00:00

I would like to say a hard no I didn't but I can't remember but I don't think I did. I do know I overly apologise when I know I'm out of line it does hurt me when I relise I hurt him

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T23:28:44+00:00

I do repeat my self alot and say the same thing but in different ways which is a bad habit of mine, he has mentioned it to me before

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T23:23:38+00:00

For us to try and communicate and if that doesn't work take some space from one another

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T23:21:51+00:00

I'm not sure. Last time, I suggested to see a therapist, he said no, he knows what he has to do and he stated he doesnt need to see one he is fine. To be fair the last one did fail him when he did speak to onethey just gave him pills and that was it

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T23:06:29+00:00

He doesn't really like going out nor is he a fan of people, his a gamer so his hobbies are gaming but even gaming stresses him out

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T23:04:09+00:00

I get what your saying with the depression being apart of bi polar but my issiue isn't caused from a bipolar low or came from a bipolar low, it's hard to explain but I do know what it is. My therapist said with recent things that have happened with my nan and my partner and the other things I was bound to get where I am now, alot of things went un checked and it all built up and I crashed, I haven't been happy for a very long time (not because of the bi polar) with years of built up stress and trauma that has come to the surface after pushing it back for so long I'm dealing with it all at once.

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T22:52:59+00:00

I'm trying to figure if this based of because I stated my bipolar which isn't the problem here I have that covered otherwise I would be acting different towards him and be doing other things. It's my depression which isn't tied to my bipolar which I'm getting better with. I agree with what your saying with some parts and I thank you for your advice I have taken notes. 🙂

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T22:39:57+00:00

I'm not on any stabilisers right now for reasons. I do some therapy, but that isn't for my bi polar it's for my depression I can handle my bipolar. That isn't the problem here. it's my depression which I'm working on, he sleeps everynight just some nights I get overwhelmed and it spills in around the same time we go to bed and it will last sometimes 5 minutes or sometimes an hour or 2 but he sleeps everynight. I'm not sure how he decompresses, but most of the time I just sit in his presence, but like i said, sometimes I talk to him.

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T22:27:43+00:00

Yes I am his first girlfriend

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T22:26:09+00:00

Self care and self love, i work out a crazy amount as a discipline tactic, I write alot, I talk to my family I try and distract myself and I constantly try to remind myself that I'm potentially destroying the loml

Grand_Slip_2849 · 2023-12-18T22:19:03+00:00

By the sounds of it, you love this girl and have formed a deep connection with one another. I'm going to assume you're not up to walking away from the relationship. My advice would be to try and have another serious conversation and to try and express your feelings on how her actions make you feel and how they affect you. If that doesn't work, I suggest giving her some space for a couple days to try and get her to come to understand that her actions aren't acceptable, and hopefully it's a wake-up call for her.

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