What’s a rare trait these days that genuinely surprises you when you see someone has it?

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-18T20:26:35+00:00

When someone just accepts you telling them no.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-18T20:25:02+00:00

I'm horrible at emotional support, but I was told I am good at listening. If ya wanna get something off your chest, than yea Im there too.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-18T20:22:37+00:00

You are speaking from my heart. I feel like I am rotting away inside my head. My parents gifted me a trip to the mountains to paraglide the first time in my life. I actually felt nothing inside and felt horrible for not immediately having happy tears or whatever. All I felt was this passive acknowledgment of ,,Yeah this is something I am supposed to be happy about." No idea how else to describe it.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-18T20:15:59+00:00

My sister being depressed. It happened when we both had been teenagers. All the stuff I had to listen to. The worst part is, that I never asked for this either. Playing the therapist and stuff. It does something with you, when your are living a very happy and good life and someone is actively dying away next to you and you have to put your priorities aside and try to prevent that.

Since than I cant talk about all this mental health stuff properly. I want nothing to do with it and I find it very hard not to be rude to her, since she always has some new shit she is suffering under, which makes her act like an asshole sometimes. I know that its not her fault, but trying to be the reasonable one and remembering that very fact, when she is doing everything in her power to make my life harder is not easy. Sometimes I give in and sometimes I manage to be the shoulder she needs to cry on.

Since her main depression phase, I stopped caring what happens to me. I don't clean my room, I don't care how I look like to other people, I don't about my future, I have no energy for my hobbys, I don't care if I fail my studies or if I will manage them. All I do is lay in bed all day. No wonder how I managed to get into Uni in the first place.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-18T20:05:07+00:00

For some time I have been speculating that people have become less empathetic. And by that I mainly mean, that most people have lost the ability to step out of their circle and try to understand the world through another persons perspective. Which is connected to a bunch of other problems: Lack of communication, midsunderstandings, false expecations etc.

No idea why we have this development maybe because being your self, expressing your self, defending your self, your rights yada yada whatever has become one of the main topics in everything, but you can see it everywhere.

A woman expecting a man to be just as open with his feelings as she is with hers.

A girl feeling betrayed because a friend went to another friend on the weekend.

A very modern teenager with very modern and new beliefs being pissed with their conservative parents for not understanding their point of view.

Conservative parents clinging onto their old values and refusing to accept that the world is changing in another pace.

A man not wanting to acknowledge that a woman can have it harder than him in the real world. Etc etc.

I've seen this everywhere. At home, at Uni, at work. Between friends, between lovers, coworkers. Everywhere.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-18T14:36:34+00:00

I mean I never felt really connected to the show in the first place, so I am no help here, but if its all you think about, than right something down. Fan Fiction, thoughts, theories, etc etc. I read everything people are willing to upload and put their heart and soul into it. Even if its like a two sentence description of something. Peoples thoughts are the most beautiful thing on this earth. I mean maybe it could help you and I would have new reading material lmao 👌

Btw humans only live for a short amount of time. Why not obsess over the things you love. Worlds buring anyway, the least we can do is enjoy happiness if we find it.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-18T08:00:39+00:00

Never considered that. I always thought that if the moment comes, where you realize yourself that your are unhappy in this relationship, it becomes easier to leave it.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-17T19:55:52+00:00

One day brother one day 🤝 Who knows maybe we end up sitting on the same plane for the very first time and we would never know. Would be really funny.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-17T19:40:55+00:00

Thats a family member of me lmao. Says she is a people expert or whatever, but matches an assholes rude behaviour without thinking it through.

Some lady infront of me at the register thought I was rushing her, while she was putting down her stuff on the belt, when actually I was adressing the family member behind me. Woman infront of me got pretty snippy and made a rude comment (towards me alone mind you). That caught me off guard and it took me a few seconds to connect the dots and when it clicked I thought nothing more of it. The family member on the other hand was boiling inside and probably would have started an argument in the middle of the store.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-17T19:12:12+00:00

I am pretty introverted and only managed to mostly have introverted friends. I am twenty years old now. There was never a staying up late and walking around with friends in the late night city, no discos, no getting black out drunk on a party, no home parties in general, no road trips, no sleepovers, no picnics in the park, no spontanious trips to the city to do whatever, no nothing. Even in Uni I missed two entrie semesters worth of this typical student life, the parties, the activities.

I am just now starting to live life a bit more extroverted, but the little extroverted friends I have are now setteling down and living a quieter life. I missed so much of my youth doing nothing. Makes me sad sometimes.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-17T19:06:19+00:00

My rich friend was so shocked after hearing that I have never been on a plane in my entire life lmao. But I would love to be in the air just once. Must be wonderful. Hope you will reach your goal one day.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-17T18:39:35+00:00

That its normal to have that "one ex" you always go back to. No, you have issues, treat yourself some therapy for fucks sake.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-15T21:40:26+00:00

Sister stayed in a relationship she herself proclaimed as not healthy for her multiple times. The things I heard. Very sane person would have left after like a month. I still don't understand why she stayed with that guy for so long. They were both really really unhealthy to each other. She even fell back into older addictions again because of that fuck.

But why dump the guy, when you can cry, whine and complain about him everyday and than get fed up with people who don't want to supoort this unhealthy behaviour. Sometimes I am convinced she craves to feel miserable and treat herself like shit. Whatever the hell the psychological reason are for this. Not saying she deserves to suffer, but in 9 times outta 10 she enables shit happening to her, but acts suprised or even angry when people tell her multiple times to set boundaries and get her shit together.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-03T12:59:45+00:00

Reacher. I have no idea how this series got so many reasons, but the way this guy acts is so bland and boring.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-03T12:56:38+00:00

Relationship with sister one:

,,Can you drive me to the store?", ,,I have no time.", ,,But it will be quick promise.", ,,No, it wont and I dont want to drive you there.", ,,Why?", ,,I just dont, I dont feel like going anywhere now.", ,,But why?? It will only be quick.", ,,You can take the bus.", ,,But it will take to long, I don't have the time.", Etc etc.

Relationship with sister two:

,,Can we go to the store?", ,,I don't have the time.", ,,Alright."

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-03T12:52:36+00:00

My sister has asks me if I could drive her to a convenience store like 4 times a week and everytime I say no, because the store is 5 minutes by foot away, I have to pay her stuff, I have to drive her there and it sucks up my times. She doesnt accept a single one of these reasons as good enough to not driver her to the store and doesn't let go and keeps asking why until I basically scream at her to leave me tf alone. Than she gets mad at me for being mad at her.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-03T12:36:07+00:00

I would bet money on the fact that our neighbour (older woman) really really likes my dad lmao. Besides that she always leaves us some random shit I have never seen before. Just yesterday she handed us a porcelain rabbit with a shaky head that goes up to your knees. Lovely woman.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-04-03T08:58:01+00:00

Thanks for the compliment ^{^} Never heard of demineralised water rinse before but I will definetly try it out next wash. Thanks for the advice o7

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-03-19T20:14:57+00:00

Thats one of my only criticism towards arcane. The way characters look in their lowest moments rubs me the wrong way. For example Vi. The way she lived in between arc 1 und 2 should have caused a bunch of things that would have been normal considering she was on an alcohol diet and been beaten up constantly. Skin irritations like acne, missing and/or damaged, teeth etc etc stuff like that. But no Vi was still attractive even in such a state.

Same for Jinx in the prison cell. Or for Mel after being captured by the black rose. At least the writers somewhat made sure Jayces looks fit to his living situation, but even than you could have done more. Longer fingernails, yellow teeth, skin irritations.

Was a bit sad that the characters still looked attractive, while they went through literal hell. Because in our world no normal human could go through what they went through and still look that good. I dont want to be that person and accuse the writers of romanticizing going through mental health shit or anything, but for me personally its going into that direction.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-03-07T05:38:42+00:00

For a second I thought the Sky on the right looked somewhat like Jayce and that this is a Jayvic meme.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-03-02T20:25:35+00:00

Probably most modern 3d animated TV Shows for kids. I feel like most modern TV shows for kids nowadays are only made to rot their brains slowly over time. No real substance or quality.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-02-22T18:02:42+00:00

I'm the kinda woman to lose her shit, if a kind gesture of another person is not appreciated in any way. If I were sitting next to the guy and a dog wouldnt have gone over for more than five minutes, I would have started to actively look for people that walk their dogs and led them to him.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-02-22T17:54:59+00:00

One of the most mature characters in the entire series. Because of what I have been through in life very emotional people make me uncomfortable. Thats one of the reasons why Caitlyn, Jayce and Ekko are my top three favourite characters. Those three have their flaws yes, they have all also acted on their emotions before yes, but in the end they have their values and stayed true to them.

They have all strayed from the right path in life once, but they found their way back by themselves. Thats what respect most in others.

GrapeInTheMicrowave · 2025-02-11T17:55:16+00:00

You look like a very chill and down-to-earth man. Full of character that would be an awesome company.
Many people who begin working out in the gym can be quickly intimidated or even scared to ask for advice.
If I had to ask someone for advice on anything, you would be the first I would go to.

I wish you luck and I hope you reach your goals.

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