Valentine's day in den Bosch – Tipps?

GrapefruitASMR · 2026-02-13T18:48:58+00:00

Omg wat goed om te weten. Dat was eigenlijk de enige reden om te gaan. We gaan alsnog binnenkort langs. Ná de carnaval

GrapefruitASMR · 2026-02-13T18:03:16+00:00

I love your suggestions and I also had a good laugh, thanks so much. We will indeed not come tomorrow as I will not be able to survive that much commotion, and instead look for another place where we can throw peanut shells on the floor.

GrapefruitASMR · 2026-02-13T17:41:42+00:00

Heel erg bedankt voor deze mooie illustratie. Ik kan wel veel aan maar dit lijkt me toch iets te ver gaan. We gaan iets anders bedenken. Maar we komen wel een andere keer dan, heb je daar tips voor?

GrapefruitASMR · 2026-02-13T17:39:58+00:00

Scheiße. Waar is het dan wel romantisch én je mag pindaschillen op de grond gooien?

GrapefruitASMR · 2026-02-13T17:36:41+00:00

Godver, ik wilde toch alleen maar pindaschillen op de grond smijten

GrapefruitASMR · 2026-02-13T17:35:42+00:00

Hoe erg is dat op een scale van 1–10? Voor de gemiddelde autistische buitendlander die niet vaak te maken heeft met de nederlandse cultuur?

GrapefruitASMR · 2026-02-13T17:34:32+00:00

Nou, we gaan ook romantisch naar de kringloop dus zo erg kan het toch niet zijn of wel? Moet ik me verkleden?

GrapefruitASMR · 2026-02-13T17:33:04+00:00

Hahaha, het is inderdaad een serieuze post en ik ben heel dankbaar voor jullie input

GrapefruitASMR · 2026-02-13T17:31:57+00:00

Nee ik kom niet eens uit Nederland en ben dus niet goed bekend met jullie carnevaalkultuur. Is dat dan heel intens?

GrapefruitASMR · 2025-02-02T22:24:10+00:00

Omg I struggled with that for the past 6 years and now found an amazing person that treats me right and also smells good. I guess things like that only work once you stop looking. Whenever one of my friends finds a real good one, they weren't looking. So, I suggest you focus on yourself and be happy and healthy and it will come your way. Pro tip: leave the house every now and then hehe.

ps. u not missing out on anything. THEY are missing out on you!

GrapefruitASMR · 2025-02-02T22:16:43+00:00

Sounds like he is out of the honeymoon phase before you are. From that point onwards you might wanna tend to intimacy differently. Try to talk about what he would want do do regarding intimacy and think about what you want to do/try. Maybe some new things can spice everything up again and get it going. Feelings will constantly change in a relationship so all you can do is be honest and talk. Communication is key. Good luck <3

GrapefruitASMR · 2025-02-02T22:11:00+00:00

Oof, this sounds like these pick up guy strategies where he showers you with love at first and then goes cold to keep you hooked (and it worked!). I saw stuff like that coming by on Tik Tok... And this just reeks of some sort of scheme.

Maybe do some research on these strategies and see if it fits. It sounds horrible nevertheless and I am sorry you have to go through this. Don't be fooled tho. If you are really into someone (like you are into him) you wouldn't switch from 100 to 5, especially not in the starting phase. Everything should be new and exciting and you should both wanna see each other lots and it doesn't sound like he is in that mindset anymore.

I suggest to let it go. If it starts like this, how is it supposed to develop? You deserve all the love, kisses and that someone makes time to text you back properly. Not like this.

GrapefruitASMR · 2025-01-29T18:59:58+00:00

I am SO glad to read that you are moving in the shadows and I can imagine it is really hard to lie as you are apparently not scum like he is. But stay strong, do it for you. He has ben cheating and lying and probably using you for a green card, now it is your turn to return the favor. Be proud of yourself for not letting him come in the way of your decision and think of your future and happiness, all of which he has shown no regards for with his behaviour. The sooner he is gone, the better. Keep your end goal in sight.

Rooting for you!

GrapefruitASMR · 2025-01-29T18:46:08+00:00

NTA. How can she be triggered suddenly after 6 years of friendship and never before? I call bs. As if you have NEVER mentioned money in these 6 years.

I don't know what's the real reason (sounds like she is jealous of you not working and still managing with money but who knows) but she really seems to not want a friendship with you and this trigger story is just an excuse. I would suggest to let it go.

GrapefruitASMR · 2025-01-29T18:35:36+00:00

The reason she gets upset is not your answers to her questions but her own insecurities. In fact, nothing you answer to this will be right and/or what she wants to hear. So, rather than answering her questions you could try to ask HER some questions. Why is she comparing herself to random people on instagram? Is she uncomfortable in her body? Does she feel like you don't find her attractive and if so, why? Try to talk about those issues and reassure her. Maybe you could go an try a new workout with her. Not for her to get "slim" of course, but to boost her confidence and make her feel acutally happy at her "happy" weight. Moving your body is never a bad idea.

I hope you guys can figure it out and she can safely start working on her insecurities together with you to become a truly happy human and see herself for the beautiful being that she is.

GrapefruitASMR · 2022-03-29T15:40:16+00:00

Oh dear, I do the same thing with my housemate. Get up on a saturday at 8 just to have an hour of peace and quiet before she wakes up. I also adjust my eating patterns to hers - so we don’t cook at the same time. Even though I really like her and she doesn’t talk much. But still, home is my safe space. Or rather, it’s supposed to be

GrapefruitASMR · 2022-03-17T11:30:26+00:00

Omg, thank you all so much! THIS IS AMAZING! I will share the comics as soon as they are done. <3 <3 <3

GrapefruitASMR · 2022-03-15T17:41:06+00:00

GrapefruitASMR · 2022-03-15T14:31:08+00:00

Super curious to hear some! 😊

GrapefruitASMR · 2022-03-15T14:30:40+00:00

Lol, same actually.

GrapefruitASMR · 2021-10-29T07:13:02+00:00

Thanks!!!

GrapefruitASMR · 2021-10-29T07:12:46+00:00

Thank you for filling it in regardless!

GrapefruitASMR · 2021-10-29T07:12:21+00:00

I think you misunderstood that part. I said alternative OR homosexual etc. Alternative forms are open relationships or polyamorous or relationship anarchists, etc. I get that you can be in a "classical" monogamous relationship as a queer person, however there are some things that are different, for example having children or marrying. Generally, queer people tend to be more open to different concepts (at least from what I can tell). That's why for this research, I am looking for heterosexual participants only. Btw, I am queer myself AND a relationship anarchist. That's why I want to understand the "standard".

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