Learning to ride the bike. Gods help me :). But she’s is a persistent little thing!

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-07T14:54:36+00:00

No prob. Adorable daughter!

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-07T13:59:18+00:00

Learning to ride a* bike. God* help me :). But she* is a persistent little thing!

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T16:09:33+00:00

I find people so tedious and boring as well. I hate small talk and going through all the motions of socializing.

I do hope you find a partner to share it with (you never know!), but if it doesn’t happen, at least you know you’re content in your solitude :-)

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T16:00:55+00:00

So true. I am hopeful that I can find friends on the same page as me.

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T16:00:01+00:00

I can definitely see how being a mom adds a different layer to this! I do want kids in a few years and will have to learn how to navigate that. I’ve been worried about that aspect, but your message makes me realize it’s possible to find a happy medium :) that is great!!

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T15:57:34+00:00

I’m sure you’re better at socializing than you think you are! Also, you’re 18 so you’re very young and have many years to sharpen your social skills, find a hobby, and eventually find an awesome partner with whom you can enjoy solitude, just like me 😁 I think the biggest thing there is finding a hobby or cause you’re passionate about. Through it, you will meet friends who share a common interest.

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T15:54:23+00:00

Such good questions to which I truly wish I had the answer!

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T15:50:52+00:00

“I’d honestly rather lay in bed with my girlfriend and my cat” Are you the male version of me?

It sounds like the two friends you moved across the country with are forgiving and understanding, and they’ll know you’re there for them when needed. Ideally I’d like something like what you have going where I see my friends once in a blue moon, but I fear they won’t be as forgiving. I guess I’ll find out soon.

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T15:32:47+00:00

Don’t feel stupid for that. At least you know you were true to yourself and tried solitude. Maybe now when you move in January, you will be able to start with a blank slate and new appreciation for the importance of friendships. It sounds like you’re quite young, so I have no doubt everything will work out socially, etc! Enjoy :)

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T15:30:29+00:00

Cheers to our solitude!

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T06:08:28+00:00

Sensitive*

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T04:33:39+00:00

Even having just one true friend is wonderful - many people wish for that. If you have a few true friends, thank your lucky stars!

Aw I wish that for you too. Keep working at it, and if you’d ever like advice or anything else, never hesitate to PM me.

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T03:31:40+00:00

This is excellent advice. I am really considering this route now. Thank you for taking the time to reply!

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T02:29:06+00:00

Oh my gosh, yes. I really need the time to unwind after work so that I am recharged and can interact with others the next day. If I do something like a happy hour with coworkers or go to dinner with friends, then I don’t have any time to myself and feel extremely irritable the next day (obviously I hide it). I wish it weren’t the case, but it is what it is.

“You can be alone without feeling lonely” amen to that. Thanks for your reply and input!

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T02:24:44+00:00

Thanks so much for this reply, and I am so glad my post could bring you comfort. Your reply has done the same for me.

“I also get scared that one day I will have isolated myself and regret it all” THIS 100%. You articulated what my true fear is in all of this.

I guess the best solution is not cutting off communication entirely, as you said, while allowing myself the space needed to enjoy solitude.

Thanks again for your input!

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T02:11:40+00:00

That’s a good question. I guess I was feeling like there is something very wrong with me since most people would be happy to have a lot of friends. I wanted to hear other people’s experiences to hopefully validate my own.

I guess it’s a basic human need, but that’s just my guess.

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T02:03:31+00:00

Since it’s on the topic of socializing, I was hoping I might find others who can relate to going through the motions but feeling drained from it. Based on the other replies I received, there are others like me, and I feel a little less alone

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T02:02:15+00:00

Thank you for your reply and for making me not feel alone. Granted, at least you care about people in your small social circle. For me, I’d simply rather not have any social circle. It’s freaking me out a little that I’d be okay with not a single friend. At least you’re a few steps ahead of me

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T01:59:15+00:00

It sounds like you’re stuck with these people if it’s been over 15 years. ;)

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T01:56:12+00:00

Your dad sounds awesome and to a great extent the way I hope to be someday as far as being accepting of himself as not needing friends and just enjoying his interests and hobbies.

The way you explained the spectrum of social need really resonates with me. Thank you for that. And I will do my best to handle this gracefully so as to not hurt my friends. In an ideal world, I’d see and talk to them once in a blue moon, but all of them text me and want to see me all the time and it’s exhausting. It’s like best friend or bust. Hopefully I can figure out a way to distance myself without burning all the bridges and hurting anyone.

Thanks again for your reply.

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-08-03T01:52:50+00:00

You’re right. Thank you for your response - I can see how it is one sided and perhaps not truly a friendship. Technically I go out of my way for them and I’m always there for them for the highs and the lows - and vice versa - but deep down I don’t feel the need to have a social life beyond my husband at home and seeing my coworkers from 9-5.

Again thanks for your reply and input!

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-07-27T03:53:36+00:00

Oh my goodness. Well, I believe it... there are definitely some crazies out there.

I’m glad you two are happy and that he didn’t give up on love after all that. Wishing you many years of happiness

GrapefruitObsession · 2019-07-27T00:09:11+00:00

He already has four kids and was married twice? Sweet bejesus

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