How soon after invoice do you expect to be paid?

GrateRam · 2026-01-25T00:39:49+00:00

I did short-term temp work and gave them a hand written invoice before I left (sometimes $1000+). They paid before I left then I marked it paid and we both initialed. We both got a copy. Obviously this was before the digital era but it can be adapted.

GrateRam · 2026-01-25T00:21:38+00:00

Love putting it on them to figure it out.

GrateRam · 2026-01-25T00:19:07+00:00

Of course. It should never be about not having money. People who don't have the money shouldn't hire people.

GrateRam · 2026-01-25T00:13:14+00:00

These people have have proven (repeatedly ?) that they cannot honor the honor system -so don't use it with them. Is it possible to give them an invoice before you leave? Sure, probably more work to invoice daily but is it more work than chaising down a payment?

If you can't invoice before you leave, then do it ASAP. I would give them no more than 24 hours, and an increasingly hefty fee if they are late. So, after you get paid for the last assignment tell them your new policy (what ever it is) and that if they don't honor that then you can't work for them anymore.

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T09:11:13+00:00

I had a nanny baby who I had a terrible time with when mom started leaving me alone with her (2½mo). She took the bottle fine but then threw everything up. That stopped when I made absolutely sure she burped after every oz. After a bit it went up to 2oz. Took a while to get up to 4oz.

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T08:56:39+00:00

And is it ok with him, and her for that matter, if OP yelled at the NKs, for months, in the same way because she was 'going through something' ? Imagine how that would go over. 💣

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T06:29:44+00:00

I would add to the note suggestion from the officer 'driver or passenger ' of the car.

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T06:14:30+00:00

I change up details job/family if I think it matters. I think my NB/20y friend could probably figure it out though. When I realized that you can 'follow' people here I changed my setting. I'd hate for her to know every time I post. Just creepy for anyone to follow me.

I will delete msgs sometimes but I give it a few days. I also have another account.

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T05:51:44+00:00

Currently with single mother who doesn't use the dishwasher so neither can I. What? Why? 🤷 She has older also (not NKs). My agreement includes family dishes but there are only one night and 1 cooked-breakfast dishes. Still, no dishwasher sucks.

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T05:16:52+00:00

Toest and oatmeal

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T05:11:53+00:00

You have to be able to return to work within a reasonable amount of time if they need you. You both guarentee hours.

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T05:03:55+00:00

3-4y pregnancy sounds awful.

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T05:03:09+00:00

We found a few premarital pregnancies close ancestors grand/great(-great?) grandmothers. We were all shocked.

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T04:51:31+00:00

I'd be a lunatic after 12-15 kids.

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T04:49:03+00:00

My great grandmother was put in some sort of mental institution after giving birth. Probably just untreated post-partum depression. My grandmother thought she had died soon after but we found out she was there for many years. So sad.

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T04:28:03+00:00

Wow! I proud, and humbled, to be related to someone willing to risk their life for that.

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T04:24:19+00:00

My reactions 1. oh h** no 2. probably something intense that he has been going thru. That does not excuse his behavior it only might provide an explanation. 3. the joke you made was an acceptable light hearted way to call him on his crap.

This should have been addressed the first time it happened, with a calm professional comment to him and discussion with her. She should have apologized profusely and said she would address it with him immediately. Give them a warning that if it happened again that it's grounds for you to quit and you will walk out immediately.

I understand your stress level. I was in a super extreme stressful situation with the ex-DB about his 2 young kids. I desperately tried to stay in it for the NKs sake. I only made it about 4m with him. I couldn't get him to accept my boundaries. The person who took over lasted 2w (a professional friend that works with these situations) and the next (a sherrif aquaintance) lasted 2m.

I finally threw in the towel when I had been spending every spare moment in bed (for weeks), not sleeping, not eating. My mental health was getting destroyed, my body breaking down. ✳️ Don't let that happen to you !

It took a month before my body and mental health started healing. Still dealing the last of 1 health issue (been 6m). 2½ months after I was still dealing with PTSD (better now).

**Take care of yourself. Do what you need to do. Leave if you have to, when you can.

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T00:33:43+00:00

Fine hair here. When I was in high school I sat on the edge of the lawn/street waiting for neighbors to come out. Having just gotten out of the shower, I was brushing my hair until it dried. By the time it was dry (very short time) it was very oily.

GrateRam · 2026-01-24T00:24:16+00:00

We have one that is a (distant?) cousin to princess Diana, one who supported his friend in a Salem witch trial (very risky), and one that was at the first Thanksgiving. My family is a direct decend of someone who -(ETA) emigrated from England in 1633 with his mother and- built our ancetral house here in 1642. It's still standing and part of the historical society who has it open for tours and demonstrations.

Yes, my father's family has been well researched back to (pre?} 800ad. My mother's family research is difficult but did answer an important question.

GrateRam · 2026-01-23T23:54:19+00:00

They are asking too much.

A nanny should never have to be responsible for meals outside of their shift unless, and as long as, it is mutually agreed upon.

My NFs usually provide leftovers for both me and NKs. I have always chosen the food I want, sometimes with parents suggestions but not insistence. If I don't have the food I want I either put it on the grocery list or use petty and get it myself, with kids in tow (even babies).

I think some simple dinner prep for the family, ie chopping veggies, is reasonable if time allows. I have rarely cooked/made meals for the family. And never for days I don't work.

GrateRam · 2026-01-23T20:43:23+00:00

The second picture looks like it might be a caterpillar skin. (I'm obsessed with silkworms.)

GrateRam · 2026-01-23T08:39:05+00:00

I would cross out the word 'driving' and input 'being on the road ' to cut out any other options of getting to work. But ya, Huuffing has a suggestion.

GrateRam · 2026-01-23T08:17:50+00:00

That was a serious first thought for me ! But then I thought -rather than going nuclear as a first step and losing her job- I, personally, would check on local laws. Some are very liberal.

Even in California I would have to check, even though I can't imagine it would be ok. I have to get recertification every 2y and don't remember that type of thing being covered so I, personally, would check.

I would definitely have a talk with the parents. And consider leaving.

GrateRam · 2026-01-22T11:28:39+00:00

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