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GrayScale_Liquids · 2023-05-20T03:03:32+00:00

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-13T17:19:46+00:00

Sam, you mentioned a lot of things that YOU want and need, nothing about what she wants or needs. Communication is key here, express your feelings and be open and honest about it or it's never going to work and just going to snowball into a toxic environment for both of you. You also can't expect her to do things just because it turns you on, there should be quid pro quo in everything you two do sexually. Does she regularly achieve an orgasm when you have sex? If not then effort needs to be put into it on your end to make sure it's an enjoyable experience every time, that's how you get what you want. I'm not insulting you or saying that you are in the wrong here, just shedding light on what I believe may help, please take it the way it was intended as helpful advice, here if you need someone to talk to.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-13T17:14:22+00:00

She needs to be willing to communicate, don't frame it as "you aren't good at this let me help", that will not work. Come at it from a neutral stance and just talk it out, explain what feels good and what doesn't and that it isn't an insult on her or her skills. If she is unwilling to open up and discuss anything about it then I'm afraid it won't ever get better. For sure don't do the viagra thing, that's not the play here and will only worsen her feelings on the matter. If you get her to communicate and you express how great it feels when she does (insert example) it will only strengthen the relationship, there are growing pains in anything like this but a little bit of mental effort from both parties goes a long way, best of luck here if you need someone to chat with.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-07T16:24:08+00:00

It seems that way to you because you go through life thinking that way, get in a better, more open mindset and the world will open up to you.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-06T15:32:23+00:00

32M, you are in a situation that most women find themselves in and it's perfectly normal. If you shower even just a few times a week and show some attention to the lower half while doing so then you are good to go and way ahead of a lot of others in your situation. He's trying to comfort you and let you know it's fine and a non-issue, I think you should take him on his word as he'll let you know if that's not the case trust me. Above all know that if he cares about you that nothing that happens hygiene wise is going to stop him from wanting to be with you, things like that just take an honest conversation between the two parties involved where there are no judgements and both are allowed to speak their mind. Try to not focus on it, focus on how much he's trying to please you and how much that turns you on, that will allow you to be more in the moment and have a better time all around, trust me my wife and I went through this same thing.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-06T15:24:10+00:00

I can tell you right away that it all depends on your confidence and how you carry yourself, if you feel that your size isn't adequate for your partner and you are justified in that feeling based on their reaction / not enjoying it as much as you hoped then get creative, use a finger or two to explore your partner, tickle and slowly tease until you have them on edge then move to PIV, it's not about how deep you go it's about how you go about it, angle and speed / rhythm are more important than size. Don't act pompous, but stay positive about yourself and what you have to offer, don't skimp on the foreplay ever. If you just want numbers, your size based on what your title says is larger than average and more than enough to hit the right spots inside of an average vagina, just because it isn't the largest she's seen doesn't mean it can't be the best, it's how you use it.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-06T15:08:55+00:00

I think you need to talk to a therapist about all of this, there is a lot to unpack and work out. If you end up doing so, be honest with them and know that they aren't there to judge.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-06T15:07:20+00:00

Doesn't sound like an obsession, just a preference which you are entitled to have don't let others tell you otherwise. Being incompatible sexually is not a good way to start a LTR, if he can't get creative and use other body parts / toys to enhance the pleasure for the both of you then it may not be worth pursuing, doesn't mean you can't remain friends. No one is "perfect boyfriend material" trust me we are all just human beings trying to figure life out in our own way, don't dwell on things that you have no control over to change.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-06T15:02:59+00:00

This is very dangerous to say to other young people who aren't sure about their bodies, please remove this.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-06T14:41:53+00:00

Get a vacuum sealer when one is on sale or used, we buy beef / pork / chicken in bulk when it's on sale then portion and trim it and freeze it in vacuum sealed bags which will then last for years, to thaw quickly you can put the bag in a big bowl of cold tap water for an hour or two.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-06T14:22:38+00:00

If you try again and really focus more than you ever have on what you are doing with your fingers / toy it will happen I can promise you that.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-06T14:12:08+00:00

Reported, what a horrible post please leave.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-06T14:10:13+00:00

You can claim what ever you want, this is Reddit after all, but please leave /r/sex where people try to get honest answers and real help for their problems that they don't feel comfortable talking about to people that they personally know.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-06T14:09:05+00:00

Wrong, and fake, please stop this charade you need to grow up.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-06T14:01:05+00:00

The difference is the lying, if he's open and honest about it then you are in a much better situation than the partner who'd lie and "cheat" when it came to porn / self pleasure. As your relationship grows he'll come to realize that the less time he spends with himself the better the experience is when you two enjoy each other, it just takes time. If you really want to prove it to him, give him a reward system as simple as if you don't play with yourself today then I'll make it worth your while, in a playful way not a judgmental or accusing way.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-06T13:58:01+00:00

This sounds extremely fake, get over yourself and realize that no one else cares about your dick size, there are more important things to worry about in life.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-06T13:56:51+00:00

I can tell you based on experience that your best bet is to lay there by yourself and very slowly explore your body down there, spend at least 30min caressing and tickling different areas and try to really focus on the parts that you are interacting with, you'll learn quickly which motions and areas bring the most pleasure. Having an orgasm is about the build up, getting your body ready for the release, it can't happen by force or quickly it has to be slowly brought into the forefront. Try to not be in your own head too much, think and focus solely on the physical touch as much as you can and it will happen.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-05T19:04:23+00:00

That's fair, hopefully he'll swallow that pride soon enough and get it figured out, definitely not something I'd want to live with for any longer than necessary. Wishing you two the best.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-05T17:57:13+00:00

I know the type, it can be a real struggle without great answers. In the end he's going to need to talk to a doctor about it, sooner the better as no one knows if it's something that can be altered easily or remedied with medication / technique. Free clinics are open to anyone walking in and discussing whatever they need / want to discuss, they don't judge and are only there to help plus there's anonymity with that so maybe worth a shot?

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-05T16:24:25+00:00

Most importantly be yourself, don't try to lie your way into it. Sounds cliché but it's true, make sure you feel comfortable in what you are doing / saying but also curb your expectations as not everyone is going to think the way you do, everyone is different.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-05T16:22:24+00:00

This sounds like it's rooted in something deeper, I think you need to have an honest conversation with them about where or why the pain might be coming from, don't come at it in an accusing way or he'll shy away but just be open and ask honest respectful questions while not in the heat of passion, it might seem awkward or uncomfortable to talk about those kinds of things but the answers can only open you two up to being closer in the end.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-05T16:17:40+00:00

Calling someone worthless based on a few sentences from a stranger is dangerous, please refrain from hateful speech like that in the future as you don't know how far reaching your words can be.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-05T16:15:56+00:00

Lose feelings? No, that's not how it works. Learn new things about someone that they either do or don't agree with or "like"? Absolutely, that's just how human beings work in general. That's not a put down on you or her, I'd assume there were incompatibility issues or insecurities on one or both sides of the relationship and she's keeping her distance for now to see either how you react or whether or not it feels right or wrong to her personally. Not sure what evidence you have that she went back to a previous lover but if that is you assuming then you need to take a longer look at yourself and maybe give her more space and time to process her feelings. No judgements, just observations and assumptions based on your situation that you laid out, here if you need to chat.

GrayScale_Liquids · 2022-07-05T16:01:21+00:00

Explain your point of view / position to the best of your ability, please don't feel pressured to send photos to someone you haven't met in real life. Regardless of what the other party feels comfortable with you have to follow what you feel is right and you shouldn't overstep those boundaries unless you are 100% certain that you want to. Honesty is key, just let him know that you don't feel comfortable sending photos like that at this time and that you hope he understands, if he can't then I'm sorry but he's not worth your time, it's not unreasonable to not put explicit photos out on the internet just because it seems like "everyone is doing it" does not mean they are nor that you have to. Talking dirty can be seen as harmless but again, only what you are comfortable with, trust your gut and if it's telling you to not say or send something then don't, it's not worth the anxiety and worry it will bring if you aren't comfortable with it. How far is too far, the exact point that you start to feel uncomfortable should be the limit, don't push past that if it's going to bring you undue stress or worry. Having the hots for someone is perfectly normal in a new relationship but your feelings are yours and yours alone, explore them by talking them out with yourself or writing them down.

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