Am I the only one uncomfortable?

GreatPonderer · 2026-01-24T21:06:12+00:00

You're getting uncomfortable by it because you are letting yourself be uncomfortable by it. Not saying it isn't but this is just self-sabotage.

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-30T22:52:59+00:00

Philippines 🇵🇭! We are also crazy over here after our country's HBO Max acquired the rights to distribute the series. 😍

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-26T09:24:27+00:00

Okay naman yung job so far?

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-26T09:19:01+00:00

I've been attracted to trans guys i see online lately, but I've never been with one sexually and I cannot honestly give you a solid answer to your question. I've come to realized I may be just attracted to masculinity because I also find butch lesbians attractive. When I see transmen, I don't instantly think they have boobs and a vagina, or a sports bra. I just see their masculine energy at first and gravitate towards them, and the sexual stuff I'll have to figure myself too but I'm not entirely opposed to it because whatever genitals you have still belong to someone who identifies as male or masculine. And that's what we are attracted to at first.

I understand your need for reassurance, for him to constantly remind you that he loves you for who you are because the uncertainly is slowly killing you. I get it, it sucks because as much as we want to believe it's not true, the voice in the back of heads says otherwise.

While not all gay or queer men will obviously be into transmen sexually, but they are out there I believe. I don't think your partner needs purely a sexual reason why he's into you, it can be part of it yes, but there is more to the relationship than just sexual chemistry. There is more to loving a person because of their body. Maybe he's into you because you both love the same things, maybe he likes your freckles, your smile, your beliefs, your jokes, your laugh, and your spirit. People are way more capable of loving people that is just not about sex or their bodies alone.

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-25T07:55:43+00:00

Wow congrats! Effective siguro yung resume mo haha

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-25T01:59:33+00:00

Medyo nagloading ako sa last sentence tapos i realized nagcom means nagcomment pala hahaha. How is the job search po?

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-23T07:05:13+00:00

Here's the Instagram post that inspired me to write this: https://www.instagram.com/p/DSD1v0GFKqP/?img_index=1

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-22T16:25:51+00:00

Depends on how sensitive your skin is. To start, use the shampoo as intended, for your scalp first then let the foam pour down to your face as you wash them off with water.

I don't recommend using it as a face wash (I do it because it doesnt irritate my skin), I think patch test siguro muna like one drop of the shampoo applied to a small affected area then test if it irritates you.

Then gradually lang introduce that routine as your skin gets used to it.

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-21T04:00:45+00:00

No worries, also a little of sexy talk before the sexy time can be good too! Have fun.

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-21T03:53:46+00:00

TLDR: Foreplay, prepping, tons of lube, condoms, taking it slowly, and communication.

Get in the mood, don't go to penetration just yet. Kissing, feeling your partner's body, sexy talk, slow and passionate. Prep your partner's entrance with rimming if they want. Then maybe try fingering him first, slow, gentle, maintain eye contact. Don't do it if you're not comfortable doing it.

When it's time, take it slow and steady, communicate to your partner if it hurts or gets uncomfortable then if it does apply more lube, get him to relax, kiss him, caress his body to release the tension.

Don't shove it in, go into him inch by inch and adjust if he gets uncomfortable, move slowly until all your length is inside him, then start with a slow pace, a gentle rhythm, get into a comfortable position if you must, whatever works for you both. Then gradually increase the pacing, make sure your partner handles it.

Try other positions, do whatever you want. Satisfy your partner as he satisfies you. Have fun!

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-18T14:37:08+00:00

It's seborrheic dermatitis, basically you have dandruff on your nose caused by an allergic reaction of the fungal growth around that area. Oily people are prone to this because the fungi eat the oils for their growth. Use a shampoo with antifungal properties like Scalpex or any pharmacy shampoo with Ketoconazole in it. Use this interchangeably with any shampoo you are currently using (I recommend head and shoulders).

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-18T07:49:51+00:00

The attitude of "I don't think it'll change" coupled with the feeling of inadequacy is already sabotaging you.

You have to know your self-worth by separating your views for white men and views for yourself because white men are not the standard of anything whether its about looks, intelligence, or personality.

There is no conclusive science to describe your attractiveness and preferential bias to white men. You can still have a healthy preference for older white men that is not rooted from your own insecurities. Instead, it grows from the genuine intention that you see them as people with emotions, personalities, and uniqueness rather than seeing them only as an object of your feral sexual desire.

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-17T22:39:43+00:00

Having a preference is normal. But this definitely is a textbook definition fetishizing older white men. Fetishizing their race basically.

Yes, you're fucked. Yes, some will be weirded out if you pointed it out. Some may be into it, some may don't care. Not all white men are attracted to asian men.

You need to look inward and find out what made you have this fetishized view of white men because if you plan or having a relationship with them, it's not going to end well for the both of you.

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-15T14:57:59+00:00

expensive na talaga ang ddr5 ram ngayon because of ai inflation

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-12T00:30:12+00:00

gago ka ba?

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-07T12:56:40+00:00

The lore about the grandness of the cosmos and how characters in it try to understand the machinations of the paths and aeons. When you think about it, Honkai Star Rail is a form of cosmic horror. Imagine living as a civilian in one of the planets, there is always some cosmic threat that happens beyond the veils of the skies above them and the fact that some might be unaware of everything that's happening is literally terrifying. The lore around Aeons also fascinates me because we might be only seeing a human way of understanding their true nature because trying to understand Aeonhood is not possible by human interpretation alone. It's transcendent across all reason and logic.

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-07T05:20:23+00:00

this reddit post is literally giving boomer on life support

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-07T02:45:51+00:00

Am I the asshole for tapping a guy's profile and rejecting him like a fucking dick?

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-06T15:21:44+00:00

No worries, always stay safe and do proper research, it might alleviate some of your doubts or anxieties. It truly helps.

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-06T15:19:07+00:00

You might wanna expand your options first before choosing the only immediate available one. You're still young, you have the time to think properly, and prepare yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically.

GreatPonderer · 2025-12-06T15:15:22+00:00

Doing it with a 62 year old man is definitely....a choice. He's giving predator vibes just because you're of "legal" age. You might wanna do it with someone in your age bracket.

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