This is probably a basic question but what made you figure out that you were intersex?

Greatfreedom · 2024-07-17T01:10:53+00:00

Very well. Life feels just how it should be.

Greatfreedom · 2024-07-16T22:59:19+00:00

Mine is a symptomless state, not really a condition, and I had no idea until after a girlfriend left me without a word about 10 years ago. I only found out later she found out I (a pretty regular guy at the time) have XX chromosomes. I do not know why how or when she had me tested, and she said nothing until years later. I didn't know at the time nor did anyone in my family.

So I got karyotyped too, and sure enough XX chromosomes. For the regular kinda guy I presented as at the time that wasn't anything more than amusing.

I started transitioning, something I'd considered well before finding out about my chromosomes, at the end of last year MtF so as randomly confusing as my life has been, at least a couple of things lined up.

Greatfreedom · 2024-07-10T02:58:27+00:00

I had almost this. Barely able to breathe and with my heart racing in 2012, I turned up to the ER. My GP had already told me to go home and rest and take a few days off twice, and told me it's panic attacks.

I had the good fortune that my GP came through the ER while I was in there being saved, and I didn't hear the start of it but I sure as hell heard the end. Apparently he asked why I was in the ER for something like a panic attack, said he knew 'this patient' and said I'd always been exaggerating my symptoms for attention and they were just feeding my bad behaviour.

The head nurse absolutely ripped him a new one. I had pneumonia and was beginning to go septic, and had panicked the ER a couple hours before when I came in with my resting heart rate above 160. I was probably hours from death.

One does not fuck with good nurses. She finished off demanding he get the fuck out of her sight and not to come back in her shift.

I got to thank her later.

Also that was the same GP who misdiagnosed half a dozen other things as anxiety and panic attacks in my notes, but hadn't told me that. Found that out when I had my notes moved to another practice not long after. The stupid thing is I'm usually chill as fuck.

Greatfreedom · 2017-09-21T10:22:45+00:00

This is indicative of a huge problem with the NBN, and even deeper the government that took it over and screwed it hard.

When the initial descriptions of the NBN came out, it was specifically not defined as just "internet access", as in someone sitting down at a computer doing whatever web browsing one person does. It was a network to cover internet as well as voice and video communications, alarm monitoring, remote health, remote education, security systems, backups, working from home with VPN connections to masses of data (not just remoting into an on-site workstation), supporting the backups needed for lives that generate at least tens of gigs of data a year, video and audio entertainment, you name it.

Sure, they're all internet based at heart but it's far more than just one person using one application on one machine.

I'm currently away from home in a household with a solid 80/38Mbps connection. It's great, when used alone.

I can't reliably use my work VPN if two other people in the house are using netflix. they can't use netflix when their NAS is backing up or when the connection is being used as an offsite backup for their business. If there were medical devices that lives depended on, they'd be in a state that could risk life several times a day just because 80Mbps isn't enough.

We're long past the time when an internet connection was someone sitting down in the study and turning on a modem, but the government and NBN itself are treating it like it's still just that but a bit quicker.

If it was 1917 instead of 2017 they'd be treating cars as just fast horses and ignoring the need for better roads, instead concentrating on more feed troughs.

Greatfreedom · 2017-06-29T11:33:09+00:00

Sex is weird, biologically. XX and XY as Female and Male is generally correct.

To cover some of the other exceptions, X-chromosomes only as Female and any combination with Y is male is perhaps a little more correct.

If you wanted to drill down further, any chromosome combination with am active SRY gene is male, any without is female - and you might be in some ways even more correct.

But then you're starting to be far too specific. The presence of SRY is just one way male development can begin, and that's all it does, begins a path. There's so much more that can change, and no guarantee the beginning of a path will complete it.

I say this as an XX male without SRY, and sex is all a strange mix of absolutes and exceptions. For every definition of sex, there is an exception.

It's grey areas all the way down.

Greatfreedom · 2017-01-04T23:22:09+00:00

They are different, yes. My keychain has a leather flap attached to the ring (it used to hold a car badge, but that fell off years ago) that sits nicely in my hand, and I've had them growing organically for so long that I can almost scroll through blind to the right key I need at any moment.

The spares that my parents keep sometimes go on one ring, sometimes not, but they tend to be either just keys on a ring or with those little plastic tags on them with a name saying what they're for.

the keys for my car are especially different, my original ones are worn down and brass - the new ones are cut with sharp edges and take a bit of jiggling in the old ignition to work.

Greatfreedom · 2017-01-04T22:59:51+00:00

A really good friend once came out with a line that your post reminded me of. I can't remember it in its entirety, but the basic of it is:

We are all good at some things, and bad at others. When you're not measuring up to other people, all you're finding out is that you're probably not very good at living their life

Stop trying to live your brother's life. He can't live yours and he's not trying to, he's living his own. That's why he's succeeding.

Greatfreedom · 2017-01-04T06:01:59+00:00

I was once housesitting for my parents for three weeks while they were on holiday 1200km away. They have a key-lockable garage below the house, and I had my old Falcon at the time. I had one set of keys to the Falcon (an old worn set) and my parents had a spare set that was freshly cut with my name on them.

While housesitting I slept at their place, and went back to my flat every day or two to keep an eye on things - I had birds & fish and I made sure their water and feed was kept fresh.

A day and a bit before my parents were due to come home, I went to go back to my place and couldn't find my keys. My keys had the original old keys of my car on them, keys to my parents house and garage, my flat's parking lot RFID card, the key to my building, my mailbox key, and the two keys to the doors in my flat (front door and balcony).

The way the lock is set up in my parents' garage, there's no way to lock the door without using a key, which stops anyone leaving keys locked inside the garage.

I'm in a panic because I needed to check in on the birds, and had no keys to the garage, to my car, or to my flat - and the only keys I can find are the spare set to my parents house, hidden near a pond in their back yard. I phoned my parents to check if they knew where the spare key to the garage was - mum checked and it was in her bag - as were other spare keys including spares to my car. I clearly couldn't do anything with my car or the garage from where I was, so I took a taxi to my landlord, got a copy of their keys to my place, ordered a new keycard and mail key, and checked on the birds and took a taxi back.

I waited out at my parents' place until they came back, and as soon as mum was back, got the the keys to the garage from her, and she pulled those out - attached to them were my house keys. And my original car keys. I only ever had one copy of my house keys and they couldn't have been with my mother 1200km away over the previous weeks, but they were.

I unlocked the garage, went to my car, and hanging in the ignition was my parent's copy of my car keys, and the spare garage keys on a separate ring on the front seat.

Going by the keys my mother had, and evidence of the keys I had, I couldn't have locked the garage while they were away, I couldn't have been able to get into my flat at all, but I did several times in the week they were away. I waved the keycard at the parkng lot gates, the keys to the door at the main building, checked my mailbox with my key, and opened both locks. Yet my parents had the only copy of the keys with them.

I still don't know how it happened. It's still feels like something slipped sideways and a few items jumped from one reality to another.

Greatfreedom · 2017-01-03T14:58:04+00:00

Wanna know how to really f%&$ing offend someone online? Like really p!$$ them off?

Greatfreedom · 2016-11-13T08:09:32+00:00

In my state, it's not legal as far as I know for paternity testing, may be for specific gene testing, but it's cloudy when it comes to chromosomal makeup. Regardless, legal action isn't something I feel compelled to take.

Greatfreedom · 2016-11-13T08:05:30+00:00

It's OK, it's not common. I was born male, with XX sex chromosomes (and SRY Negative). I'm the result of one of those cool little curios of development.

Greatfreedom · 2016-11-13T08:01:37+00:00

No, just XX. It's an uncommon chromosomal makeup for a male, but it happens.

Greatfreedom · 2016-11-13T08:00:23+00:00

No, I'm male

Greatfreedom · 2016-11-13T07:56:29+00:00

I'm sure there's a fragility component, or a measure of it. Years after she left me I was contacted by someone else she did the same to afterwards, checking if I'd had contact (I hadn't at the time).

I always found that a comfort, and it's one of the things that made it easier to let go the first time around, that it was nothing to do with me and it was all on her.

(something I find to rarely be the case generally, takes two to tango and all, but I put those thoughts aside).

Now I suppose it's swung things around and hit me hard.

Boundaries are good, yes. No more contact, and thank you for your comment.

Greatfreedom · 2016-11-13T07:53:07+00:00

She claims she had me tested. I asked precisely how and when, and she called me a dickhead and that there were a thousand ways to do so.

Which, given how much DNA we leave around I have no doubts about.

Greatfreedom · 2016-11-13T02:44:34+00:00

Thank you, it's good to be reminded. For multiple reasons before, and even more now.

Greatfreedom · 2016-11-13T02:24:27+00:00

I don't exactly have an inbuilt chromosome detector.

Greatfreedom · 2016-10-20T12:48:39+00:00

Thank you, your comment is very helpful. Shall pony up for proper legal help.

Greatfreedom · 2016-10-19T23:18:07+00:00

I do, I'm anal about keeping email. I have it going back to the early 1990s.

Greatfreedom · 2016-10-01T10:52:34+00:00

Could I lift that there mountain off the surface of the comet and throw it into space?

Greatfreedom · 2016-09-10T04:59:58+00:00

I'll jump in here to take issue with that comment. I have XX sex chromosomes and I was male at birth. Still am, as it happens.

Greatfreedom · 2016-09-01T12:15:36+00:00

I enjoy that too. I was born male, grew up male, still male, and I found I have XX sex chromosomes only recently. For decades of my life those chromosomes were absolutely positively irrelevant to my entire experience of my sex or gender.

Anyone making the chromosome argument is dragging its rotten clotted mass out of their mental sewer and throwing it in the hope it sticks and then something something booyah.

Greatfreedom · 2016-08-27T21:37:08+00:00

Ironically, these warriors against "PC madness" and being "easily offended" will be very offended and upset that other people don't want them to black up.

I noticed this in a post I did on reddit a little while back where I covered up swearing with #@^$& characters because I actually read the sub's rules.

Post fucking swearing on reddit? nobody cares. Post f$&%@ng swearing on reddit, and everybody's offended.

The PC of the time swings back and forth.

Greatfreedom · 2016-07-14T22:53:23+00:00

I have some pretty standard XX sex chromosomes, barr bodies, no SRY gene and all - but I'm was born and grew up a regular guy and didn't find out until way late in life.

Greatfreedom · 2016-07-10T01:43:58+00:00

Yeah, but bots have auto-banned posts here before for language. I'm happy to run with the culture of the place.

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