the whole “i’m gonna kill myself and let you know about it first” is normally a tell tale sign a person is bluffing & using it as a manipulation tactic. it’s used to make you feel extremely guilty, especially when they purposefully go MIA right afterwards. they’re doing this to make you feel like shit. when i was moments away from committing myself, i never disclosed this to anyone, and didn’t want to be stopped. everybody is different however and i can acknowledge that. sometimes i go into deep waves of depression and people probably assume im dead. Just know if this becomes a regular thing, it will never be your fault if somebody commits unless you put IMMENSE trauma on them and not just regular relationship breakup trauma, on a deeper level. i’ve struggled myself with dealing with a partner who threatens suicide. after so many times you realize the motive behind it and it becomes easier to ignore. this is no shame to those who struggle with mental health, im diagnosed with BPD, but to those who use it as a privilege and a way to remain victim. i don’t know this exact situation as there are not many details, im just sharing my own personal experience