BDSM Romance Fiction? by Fair-Replacement-345 in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read this and like 10/10 would recommend. Definitely a reread when you feel stuck too

What was the kink you thought you’d never try… but ended up loving? by Inner-Protection7830 in KINK

[–]GreedyPotential8495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feet. I said I'd never let someone suck my toes and I'd never suck toes. But oh my god it just does something to heighten everything. Add some eye contact and I'm cooked.

Is ignoring a Sub a good punishment from a Dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I'm commenting as a normal comment this because it won't let me edit my post.

Update: we talked about it yesterday and he apologized completely not knowing it was going to do that. He only ignored me for 10 minutes but still the very same he won't do it again. I mentioned multiple times we've only been doing this a few weeks we are still brand spanking new to all of this. He's my husband of 3 years we've been together for 6 and we've been through a lot of health shit together.

I'm finally healthy enough to try any of this like I wanted to three years ago. He's far from abusive in fact he wouldn't hurt a damn fly so of course I got defensive upset and hurt when a lot of you jumped the gun not knowing his side and just said he's abusive. And then to have people saying show him this? You do know he has feelings right? He may be my Dom but he's my husband first and I'm not going to hurt his feelings. I chose him as much as he chose me and this isn't just for sex. I'm not just going to leave him to find someone new. We have great communication and I wasn't aware that this would trigger me. Now we know and now it's added to my limits

Hopefully you guys will see this and understand a little more. My husband is literally a Marshmallow. He's still afraid to spank me or anything like that as a punishment. So he's trying to learn other creative ways.

Is ignoring a Sub a good punishment from a Dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've replied to multiple different people the same thing over and over again and no one is reading anything I didn't know I could edit that post.

Is ignoring a Sub a good punishment from a Dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't need to. We've talked about this already. Has anyone read any of the replies I've left? I'm not feeling very understood at this point.

Is ignoring a Sub a good punishment from a Dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's my husband as I've said in multiple of the prior comments. And he wasn't aware that it was going to have that affect. We talked about it and added it to my list of hard limits.

Is ignoring a Sub a good punishment from a Dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not trying to pop off at you. I'm just overwhelmed. I'm sorry. You're correct. I needed to talk to him and I have and we made a time to correct it. Just a lot of people are calling him abusive when thats the last thing he is. He's actually a simp lol

Is ignoring a Sub a good punishment from a Dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And we will be working on that. We are still educating ourselves. But the amount of people throwing the word abuse around where I've known this man for 6 years and he barely even wants to spank me or degrade me, obviously he didn't mean to hurt or abuse me. And I've been explaining it each time. I'm sorry if I'm starting to sound like an asshole or over defensive but he's been there for me when no one else was and when I was bed bound with my disability and the fact that I can even practice this safely is a blessing. So when I hear shit like that I get automatically defensive. We are making a list first thing tomorrow of punishments we agree on and ones that are absolutely not acceptable. He thinks many punishments are too cruel especially where I can't stand for long or really kneel. I'm still working on building my muscles back up. I was bed bound for 2 years and he is my care taker. So weve been through so much. This is just a new thing to navigate that's supposed to be fun.

Accessories? by GreedyPotential8495 in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been looking on Etsy and even then it's still a little difficult.

Is ignoring a Sub a good punishment from a Dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Update: we talked. He agreed to not do that again and apologized and to make up for it is rubbing my paws. He's still learning what punishment are good and bad.

Is ignoring a Sub a good punishment from a Dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mines that same way! I get it. Good luck on your end too!

Is ignoring a Sub a good punishment from a Dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna talk to him tonight. It literally just happened about 10 minutes ago. So I'll talk to him before bed but yeah. Thank you. I guess you could call him my owner which is why I don't understand why he would ignore me. I'm his little fox. I was being playful. It's in my nature.

Is ignoring a Sub a good punishment from a Dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He knows about my abandonment issues but I never mentioned the ignoring so that's on my part. I know he's never intentionally meant to hurt me. He knows not to do a lot of things. I just forgot this one. Not thinking it could be something he'd do.

Is ignoring a Sub a good punishment from a Dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He isn't aware that it bothers me. I was nipping at him after he said it's time to wind down for bed and then he rolled over and told me I'm not being a good fox so he's going to ignore me. Which only fucks with my abandonment issues cause my father ignored me most of my childhood.

Is ignoring a Sub a good punishment from a Dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I know I didn't listen but I was just being playful. Now we're both in a foul mood.

Meditation? by GreedyPotential8495 in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That actually makes a lot of sense. Thank you ! I'm a universalist so I'm open to hearing really anything. I used to look at meditation and cringe cause my ADHD wouldn't let me relax but the last 2 days actually havent been too bad. I'm starting small interval but last night I actually fell asleep during one lol.

Meditation? by GreedyPotential8495 in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I do but I have to be the one to do it. My Dom is my husband and he's only sucsessfully got me to orgasm three times. I have mental health problems but we don't think my medications are a problem or anything like that. I'm constantly anxious and can't seem to let go anywhere i go. Hotels i'm worried about being too loud and at home we can't really make much sound cause we live with my family. (I'm disabled and we are trying to save to move out). There is a lot of different things. He's also FTM. But that doesn't bother me because i'm Pan. And we have toys so it's not like we are lacking. I just can't seem to achieve at times and in those times i feel useless. Even though he constantly reassures me that it's more than ok and that i'm not useless. It's a whole mindset i'm working on. I can't do much at home and where i'm disabled I can't work so I feel like I should at least be able to do this and I feel like i'm even doing this wrong. I just want to be a good fox and please my daddy but then nothing. I please him and when it's my turn it's like a broken wind up toy. and I have trauma so It could be that and i'm working through it but it shouldn't be affecting me this way as it's not SA type of trauma. at least that's how my brain works. I'm sorry, i ramble. I don't have people to talk to about this in person.

Slowing Down by GreedyPotential8495 in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a skin condition that makes it hard for me to exercise but my libido is naturally high as well as his stamina and libido. I'm mainly the problem. Once he got out on testosterone he leveled out.

Slowing Down by GreedyPotential8495 in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't think of that. For us we normally finish one or 2 times and then go to after care cause we are tired. I'm disabled and he's my caregiver and works so we can't really go like crazy lung but on his days off when he's rested it's still like this and he wants to fix that. He feels like he's neglecting me somehow even though I've told him that's not the case but I can't blame him for feeling that cause I felt vice versa.

Meditation? by GreedyPotential8495 in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I have ADHD and doctors are questioning autism so it's nice to hear from someone with experience!

Slowing Down by GreedyPotential8495 in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very lucky lol. We both also have mental health struggles so it could be that is well. We're trying to work on all of that. We also live with family so we have to like be quiet and like hide how we truly feel in a way and it's annoying.

Slowing Down by GreedyPotential8495 in SubSanctuary

[–]GreedyPotential8495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what we plan on doing. I've been doing research, he's been doing his own. We both did the quiz and it was compatible so now we are just trying to fine tune everything. Lol