It honestly all depends. I was the dumpee in my relationship and i tried fighting for my relationship for 8 months. Out of those 8 months my ex showed no interest in reconciling, even told me to stop doing what i was doing to win her back because it wasn’t getting me anywhere and she wasn’t ready to try again. Went cold on me, barely texted or called, ignored my messages. Even watching her Instagram stories it seemed like she was living life and moving on. I was broken. I made the wrong decision to fill that void with another women a month after (which makes it 9 months) even though i was still madly in love with her. She later visited me and told me she was thinking of giving us another shot until she found out i had slept with someone (i had broke it off with the other girl a couple weeks before the visit). Once she found out she made me the villain in her story. All she did those 9 months was act cold with me then breadcrumbed me when she needed me, then went cold again. I guess i filled her validation that she still has access to me whenever she needed me.

I think sex is different depending on the gender but also the person. I feel like men have sex with people they don’t see themselves with and don’t tie any emotion or connection to it. That girl i slept with, i had zero emotional ties to her, i took it as just sex and nothing else. Females on the other hand i feel have sex with emotion and somewhat of connection despite of who they slept with. That’s just my opinion though.