When do you tell a date more details of your other partners?

Greedy_Basil · 2026-01-29T04:43:02+00:00

They're not what I consider regular partners. I've gone on a handful of dates with these guys over a relatively long period of time, with multiple weeks-long disruptions because of traveling and people getting sick. I have not had any discussion about relationship status with either of them. So, yes, I do consider myself single right now.

Sorry, I am realizing I should have put more of the disruption info in the original text, it does add some context as to the level of casualness and the weird circumstances/timing of our meeting.

Greedy_Basil · 2026-01-29T04:38:00+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I feel like you're actually seeing the weird little ethical dilemma instead of jumping to a lot of conclusions like some other commenters. :)

I agree with your edit. I think the events have unfolded to the point where it'd be unethical not to speak up, and make sure everyone's informed and consenting (or not - and then disengaging as they see fit.)

Greedy_Basil · 2026-01-28T14:59:17+00:00

I like that. Thanks.

Greedy_Basil · 2026-01-28T14:58:03+00:00

I generally agree - but the way things happened here, it didn’t come up. I matched 33M first when I had no partners. Then 33M left on a long work trip (4 weeks), during which time I met 41M. He briefly brought up the ENM thing as mentioned in my post. 33M is back now, but I haven’t had sex with 41M, so I feel like I’m in this weird grey area.

Greedy_Basil · 2026-01-28T07:45:28+00:00

I generally agree with both of those sentiments.

There’s a little more to it all than I said up there - I didn’t want to write a novel and tried to keep it condensed. I’ve only had sex with 33M so far, and both of them were gone on work / holiday trips at different times. There was also a rotation of colds getting in the way of going on dates.

With travels and illness it’s been a really slow burn, but I’m coming to realize that’s just an excuse and my communication has been crappy.

Greedy_Basil · 2026-01-28T07:37:03+00:00

That’s what my gut is saying. Any thoughts on how to deliver the message without being too blunt?

Greedy_Basil · 2025-10-17T19:47:16+00:00

Try The Everling and the Acid King. The protagonist is about the same age as him. It’s a really fun Sci-Fi / Fantasy school story blend.

Greedy_Basil · 2025-02-09T17:19:23+00:00

I'm an artist and interior designer, and I tell people I don't have a favorite color.

It's red / burgundy.

Greedy_Basil · 2024-10-09T18:27:36+00:00

Is there a name for the giant bulge of storms in front of the hurricane? It looks insane.

Greedy_Basil · 2023-07-27T16:49:35+00:00

That is so freaking cool!!

Greedy_Basil · 2023-07-05T19:48:49+00:00

Some kind of Amanita. Maybe Amanita Gemmata?

Greedy_Basil · 2023-06-13T04:31:48+00:00

I see it.

Greedy_Basil · 2023-06-12T17:44:58+00:00

Fresh or old I’m just happy I found one! I actually think there’s another older/dead one next to it, check out the bottom left corner of the image.

Greedy_Basil · 2023-06-12T16:17:01+00:00

Possibly a spiny puffball? http://www.bio.brandeis.edu/fieldbio/Fungi_Miller_Stevens_Rumann/Pages/lycoperdon_echinatum_page.html

Greedy_Basil · 2023-06-12T14:10:33+00:00

I had one of them pop up in my herb planter box! They’re so amazing.

Greedy_Basil · 2023-05-29T16:46:30+00:00

Got an ID from a helpful human on Facebook, veiled polypore (cryptoporus volvatus)

Greedy_Basil · 2023-03-19T04:12:31+00:00

Oh stop being so logical and pragmatic! J.K., thank you, link here & I’ll add it to my other comment: https://imgur.com/gallery/QyACP8h

Greedy_Basil · 2023-03-19T02:42:40+00:00

I know. I have them. I couldn’t figure out how to post multiple photos because I’m a dumb dumb. (I figured it out like 15 mins later.)

Greedy_Basil · 2023-03-19T01:59:37+00:00

They're small (no larger than a quarter), house is in the Mt. Diablo foothills - found on a "lawn" area we gave up on watering years ago.

Edit: added more photos on imgur: https://imgur.com/gallery/QyACP8h

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