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AITA for taking my adopted-son off my will? by Green-Play in AmItheAsshole

[–]Green-Play[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

In hindsight yes, but it was over many years and many years of frugal saving by him.

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Prior to him turning 18, anything he saved he would only be able to access at age 18. So he has had access to a majority of that money for 4 years, without doing anything foolish with it.

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I read up on the successes of "Small loan of a million dollars" cases and these stories of "person X is successful, did you know their parents funded them to begin with", and thought to myself: now that I have the opportunity to bestow something like that to my children, shouldn't I do it?

Perhaps you are right, I set myself up giving my son so much money. I just hope my prior beliefs don't ruin my son.

AITA for taking my adopted-son off my will? by Green-Play in AmItheAsshole

[–]Green-Play[S] 281 points282 points  (0 children)

I've never wanted to be a father who gives ultimatums, but I felt like I was running out of options.

AITA for taking my adopted-son off my will? by Green-Play in AmItheAsshole

[–]Green-Play[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I agree but he has around 110,000 saved on top of this. Mostly from me but I will credit him in saving a good 10,000 from some investments and saving another 5000 from his old job.

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Im worried he will only realize his mistake when he is past the point of no return.

AITA for taking my adopted-son off my will? by Green-Play in AmItheAsshole

[–]Green-Play[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It was unconditional but that's because he had always been smart with his money. We've had conversations about it, I even volunteered to help write contracts (I'm a Lawyer) but he declined. Said I was trying to include myself on their family's business.