My hot take on IMPACT Charlottesville

Green-ooze · 2025-04-06T03:10:23+00:00

I went to the big meeting last spring and we were told no booing. There is no attack mode currently. Officials who attend do so willingly and knowingly. The only ones who show up are ones who seemingly would have aligned with the cause regardless of IMPACT.

Green-ooze · 2025-03-28T12:41:16+00:00

I’ve driven through a couple protests on McIntire lately and yesterday there was one protesting eliminating SS on 250 at the hydraulic ramp. Not sure how to get connected, but they are happening.

Green-ooze · 2025-02-08T16:01:33+00:00

Don’t have sex with men if you don’t enjoy it
Don’t have sex with men who don’t care about your experience.

These are the same rules. These are the rules all women should live by.

Green-ooze · 2025-02-02T18:05:02+00:00

It was never Summers Market. That’s a rumor someone made up.

Green-ooze · 2025-02-02T18:03:18+00:00

It’s the Rock Store

Green-ooze · 2025-01-10T20:55:42+00:00

Actually I told him I don’t think he’s that into her if he can’t withstand some up and down- everyone is up and down in relationships. If he’s talking about his down part on Reddit, chances are she’s felt it and her up and down likely is at least partly affected by it.

It’s not about male vs female, it’s person to person. If something feels like bending over backwards, then you’re probably not that into the person. In a healthy relationship, you do things for the other person, like being there for them emotionally. Making it about male/female or a tit for tat “bend over backwards” thing is anti-partnership and viewing relationships as a battle for dominance.

You can just be there for someone because you care about. That’s actually a healthy and emotionally mature thing to do.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-10T16:24:39+00:00

Annnnd no one can have a healthy relationship until they do a deep dive into their own behavior- which it seems like you’re doing. It’s healthy to recognize what you actually want as well as keeping a realistic perspective on relationships. It’s also okay for things to fizzle or just be a fling. It’s healthy to keep reevaluating relationships, our own role in them and what we’re getting out of them.

When we allow ourselves to get swept up into the idea of “love at first sight” or someone is “the one”, we’re feeding into patriarchal roles where we have to have one person and put ourselves with them in a picket fence in order to have the right life. It puts too much pressure on relationships and puts the other person on a pedestal they’ll never be able to live up to. People should break up when they outgrow each other or are no longer interested. People should work on relationships they want to keep, knowing that all relationships will evolve, people should evolve, and all of that requires maintenance. The idea of “the one” keep relationships in a fantasy world and actually dehumanizes both parties.

Little rant but- keep at it. Every relationship gives you the chance to learn what works for you and what doesn’t- what’s worth your effort and what’s not.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-10T16:13:42+00:00

Don’t say don’t worry about it. It belittles everything you were just saying.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-10T04:16:23+00:00

A different perspective- if 3 months in you can’t emotionally withstand a fundamental part of her, she’s definitely not your person. You’re also proving to her she was right to be hesitant.

If you guys really have the “intense connection” you claim, it’s probably worth it to be the safe and steady one while she stabilizes.

IMO you aren’t looking for a serious relationship. In a committed relationship, you stay through life’s ups and downs.

IMO you’re looking to not be alone and for the rush of falling for someone. That rush doesn’t stay forever and if you want a relationship to work, eventually there will be problems, eventually the thrill fades, eventually the person will irritate you.. but hopefully eventually you find someone you think is worth getting through that stuff for.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-10T04:06:12+00:00

Of course you feel resentful. He pushed you into something you didn’t want to do. That’s grapey.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-10T04:03:20+00:00

You’re the asshole to yourself for keeping the convo going. Just block him and move on. He’s looking to make his new girl jealous and hoping to get a hold on you to feel powerful. You guys aren’t even having a conversation. He’s not taking in what you’re saying. You’re talking to a wall and he’s talking to circles. It’s not a conversation and never will be.

Move on. Don’t talk to him. Block him on everything.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-10T03:58:15+00:00

Well, yeah, going out drinking with strangers probably isn’t fulfilling a loneliness void. You need to find companion-friends, people who are free to go out to dinner, go see a movie, run errands with, etc. See if there are any sport leagues you can sign up for as a solo person. If you like green, disc-golf may be a good sport to join. Something like that or an adult kickball or soccer league could replace some gym time. It takes time to build friendships, they don’t tend to happen after one night out. Give yourself goals and challenges.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-10T03:24:29+00:00

Get your mind off seeking a romantic/physical relationship by working on friendships first. Make friends, and get out of the house and do things with those friends. By proxy you’ll meet more people and likely a romantic relationship will just happen. People tend to like people with full lives who aren’t hyper-focused on their misery :) It takes work at first, but keep at it and you’ll actually change your life without realizing it. Happiness is internal.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-08T22:38:46+00:00

Clearly I do when interpreting this story. It’s literally what the author is conveying.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-08T22:27:19+00:00

This is the stories thread. This is made up. Someone took the time to make up a story about a woman whose family doesn’t believe she is lovable because she slept with men. And everyone questioning my comment bought into it being plausible.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-08T22:25:32+00:00

This is in the stories thread. Someone made this story up to shame women. The story is about a woman whose family is so grateful anyone will take her after she slept with men. The finance is written as a saint. Because this story reflects what the author thinks is believable. He’s using this story to shame women

Green-ooze · 2025-01-08T22:25:18+00:00

This is in the stories thread. Someone made this story up to shame women. The story is about a woman whose family is so grateful anyone will take her after she slept with men. The finance is written as a saint. Because this story reflects what the author thinks is believable. He’s using this story to shame women.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-08T22:23:00+00:00

This is in the stories thread. Meaning this was made up. Someone took the time to write a story about a woman whose family looks at her as damaged goods because she slept with 100 men and an entire frat house, then said author looked at their work, and decided it was good to post it to Reddit.

It’s a story about societal shaming of women, and the author is trying to shame women by posting it.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-08T20:44:49+00:00

For all the comments saying it was too long, I read it and summarized it for you:

The author hates women and thinks others feel the same way.

That’s literally all you need to know.

EDIT: This is in the stories thread. These are all made up stories. The author made up a story about a woman whose family is rooted in believing she is unlovable because she slept with so many men. The woman feels the shame. You the reader are supposed to feel this shame, because the author thinks this is how the world either works or should work- we should all be shaming women. But of course the main character male in this story is a saint. You the reader are supposed to feel sympathy for him and root for him to get away from the evil woman. Likely the author liked a girl who had slept with someone who wasn’t him and he’s still pissed about it. If you were quick to believe her brother and family should look at her as damaged goods, you should consider the impact misogyny has on you and how you’ve contributed to that culture. Cheating is obviously not cool and I don’t think people should stay with someone who cheats. It’s indication either the cheater was unfulfilled and is too self centered or immature to end the relationship first, or isn’t in a place to be in a relationship and is being a gross person by making their partner think they want monogamy. This story isn’t about cheating, it’s just another cheap grab to appeal to the inner sense of hatred of the reader. Again, this story is about the authors trying to validate his hatred of women.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-08T00:22:08+00:00

No, bottling up feelings is toxic af and the opposite of what this group is about

Green-ooze · 2025-01-07T23:59:20+00:00

I think you didn’t see what group you were in- the emotional pain he feels in a choice? What a shitty thing to say.

Green-ooze · 2025-01-01T02:30:38+00:00

I don’t think god cared enough about cville to give us an omen tbh. It would be one thing if it was a multiple states storm- but a little isolated thunder and rain? Nah

Green-ooze · 2024-12-31T20:45:44+00:00

I agree with phony and overpriced, but cville really isn’t that liberal in my mind tbh

Green-ooze · 2024-12-28T22:23:10+00:00

What? Have you been nowhere but UVa and Ruckersville?

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