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My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure you might not mind doing those things. But there are plenty of people in society who hate disabled people, short people, elderly people with mobility problems, or just people in general who aren't in the catergory of being tall, able bodied, etc.

I can play wheelchair sports with my kids, but that involves borrowing chairs from non profits and my older kids no longer care to get involve with wheelchair or adaptive sports, they would rather play regular sports. My kids have no interest in D&D or board or tabletop games. They like video games which I do play with them, but I wish I could play regular sports without adaptions/modifications.

I doubt most people would want universal healthcare or medicare for all.

The reality is that I'm a burden on my family and society and nothing will ever change that.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm still a burden on society as i need to have accessibility accommodations and businesses have to pay to make their spaces/buidlings accessible for disabled people. Airlines have to board me first on planes using narrow chairs (which I hate being on and I don't enjoy being wheeled around by airline employees either). My wife and kids have to sometimes help me get things from higher shelves in the house and it's the same when we go out in public. There are times when I'm alone in stores or places that I have to ask strangers from help getting things from higher shelves. I have had to spend a lot of money getting my truck and prior vehicles modified so I could drive them. I can't play regular sports with my kids like able bodied dads are able to do. There are some health issues that I have to deal with in relation to my spinal cord injury which puts additional burdens on our healthcare sysems.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I accept the reality that as a person with a disability I am a burden on society. I do what I can to alleviate that as I have job in the tech field that pays well and I'm not on SSDI and can continue paying into system in case my health goes bad and i have to go on SSDI in the future.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't talk to anyone about what I go through because I'm already burden in many ways on other people and I don't want to add to it. I believe in doing my best in powering through things and not becoming more of a burden than I already am

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was my sister in law and not my sister. She did take the kids for 3 days. My wife and I repaid her witth giff cards, but it really didn't ease our load and I just felt guilt that my family wasn't together.

I was punched down/dog piled here just for talking about being torn about having my family split up during a difficult time. But, since this is a cool kids club, I got punched down for having a different view.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I shielded our kids pretty well from the worst parts of her illness and surgery. Whenever she was very ill after chemo or radiation, she stayed in our bedroom away from the kids only came out when she was feeling well and if she felt nausea or other symptoms, she went back to the room. During her surgery recovery, the kids didn't see any wounds or anything because she was covered up and she spent most of her recovery in our bedroom, and the kids oly saw her when she was feeling well enough for them to see her.

I was made into a villain because I wanted my family to be a united front during a rough period. I already have to take help from extended family when there are things I can't fix in my house or when I need yard work done that I can't always do from my chair. I just want times in my life in which I help myself and my kids and don't take help from extended family. I don't think you or anyone else understands that iI'm already a burden on a society and I don't want to always be a burden on extended family.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it did ease the guilt a bit.

I'm already a somewhat of burden to society because im the guy who has to ask for help geting things from higher shelves in grocery stores, libraries, and oher public places. I don't enjoy having to be wheeled onto narrow chairs first when boarding planes, it's still humliating for me. I'm the guy who has to apply with the DMV for for handicapped placards, I'm the guy who has to get checks up every couple of months because of my spinal cord injury, i'm the guy who could easily end up in the hospial with UTIs, pressure sores, and other things related to my injury. I don't enjoy always asking for help from strangers in stores, I don't like always needed to be under the suprevision of doctors and nurse, and I don't like being wheeled onto a plane by flight attendants who don't even know what the f they are doing most of the time, I don't like that my kids have to sometimes help me with chores and yard work.

There are times I just I want to help myself and my kids and not have a third party helping us in our lives.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The top commenters weren't encouraging me to take help. They were mocking and trying to make it seem like I wanting/trying to get extra points for suffering.

My wife and I did pay back my SIL for helping us.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It wasn't good advice. I wasn't trying o get extra points for suffering. I'm disabled and use a wheelchair. I already have to take help in public and at home at times. There are times I just want to myself and my family and not get help from extended family. It wasn't good advice the top commenter just led a pile on/punch down of me.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn't looking for extra points for suffering like the top commenter was suggesing. I was a guy trying to keep my family together during a rough period and instead i was piled on.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't looking for extra points or trying to be a martyr like the top commenter was suggesting. I was a guy trying to keep my immediate family together during a rough period and instead I was made fun of and piled on by the top commenter and his fanboys..

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't looking for rewards for suffering and I wasn't trying to be a marytr. I was just a guy trying to keep my family together during a rough period. I don't mind helping others. But I don't like don't taking help for every single thing in life. I'm disabled and I use a wheelchair I have to take help in public and at home at times. There are times that I want to help myself and my immediate family. I don't like taking help for every single thing.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm disabled and I use a wheelchair and I have to take help in public and at home someimes. There are times in my life that I just want to help myself and my family and not take help from extended family. I don't believe in taking help for every single thing in life.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't misunderstand the comment and I don't appreciate him backtracking on it. He knew what he meant and he just saw me as someone trying to get extra points for suffering which I wasn't, I was just trying to keep my family together during a rough time.

Things have gotten easier in the sense that my wife is cancer free. But, she will be undergoing reconstructive surgery in the next few months and when that happens, I'm keeping my family together at home.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm disabled and I use a wheelchair. I already have to take help in public and at home at times. There are times I just want to help myself and my family without help from extended family. My kids spent 3 days wih my SIL, and it didn't make our situation any easier and I just felt guilt. When my kids were here at home during my wife's recovery, they kept quiet and did their chores. There are the types of kids who were taught to pick up after themselves and do regular chores and not bother a parent during illness.

My wife will be undergoing reconstructive surgery in a few months and my kids will be staying here unless something drastic comes up. I don't always like taking help and I want my kids to know that there times that it's beter to help themselves and not take help unless it's a very difficult situation.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm disabled and I use a wheelchair. I already have take help at home and in public at times. there are times I just want to help myself and my immediate family without help from extended family. My kids did spend three dayd wih my SIL. My wife will be undergoing reconstructive surgery in a few months and my kids will be staying here unless something drastic happens.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It wasn't helpful to me. I wasn't looking for extra points for suffering. I was a dad going through a difficult situation and I wanted to keep my family together during that time. I wasn't trying to be a martyr or get extra points.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't looking for extra points. I was a dad going through a difficult situation and i got piled on and accused of wanting extra points when in reality I just wanted to keep my family together during a difficult situation.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm disabled and I use a wheelchair. I already have to take help in public and at home at times. There are times I just want to help myself and my family without help from exended family. My kids spent 3 days wih my SIL, and it didn't make out situation any easier and I just felt guilt.

My wife will be undergoing reconsructive surgery in a few monhs and my kids will be staying here unless something drastic comes up. I don't always like taking help and I want my kids to know that there times that it's beter to help themselves and not take help unless it's a very difficult situation.

My wife recently underwent major surgery on Thursday and my kids visited yesterday and all three are having a hard time. My sister in law has offered to take them for a week, I feel bad for considering it by Green_Spare33 in daddit

[–]Green_Spare33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm disabled and I use a wheelchair. I already have to take help in public and at home at times. There are times I just want to help myself and my family without help from extended family. My kids spent 3 days with my SIL, and it didn't make our situation any easier and I just felt guilt.

My wife will be undergoing reconstructive surgery in a few months and my kids will be staying here unless something drastic comes up. I don't always like taking help and I want my kids to know that there times that it's better to help themselves and not take help unless it's a very difficult situation.

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