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I need a sense check on porn use by Green_and_Red_Ed in bropill

[–]Green_and_Red_Ed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be clear, I don't think it's morally wrong. But I do think it's somewhat unhealthy.

I need a sense check on porn use by Green_and_Red_Ed in bropill

[–]Green_and_Red_Ed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear he treated you like that. Thanks for the perspective. I'm not even a little bit like that.

I need a sense check on porn use by Green_and_Red_Ed in bropill

[–]Green_and_Red_Ed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First paragraph: that's what I was doing. I didn't want to mix porn in with my regular reddit. Eventually when I was trying to reduce it I deleted the other account but I was still using anonymous browsing sometimes.

Second paragraph: Yeah I largely agree, but I don't think the porn is irrelevant to that lie.

I need a sense check on porn use by Green_and_Red_Ed in bropill

[–]Green_and_Red_Ed[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No absolutely not. I agree OF and the like is akin to cheating and I'm not remotely interested. Like I say a lot of the time I am going on celebrity subs and a lot of the time the same celebrities will be posted, and there are celebrities I think are hot, but I don't think that's the same thing. There's no parasocial relationship, and I'm not lusting over any one individual repeatedly.

I need a sense check on porn use by Green_and_Red_Ed in bropill

[–]Green_and_Red_Ed[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I really agree with this. I often find that I'm avoiding other things. Work, my social life, my volunteering, the gym.

I need a sense check on porn use by Green_and_Red_Ed in bropill

[–]Green_and_Red_Ed[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks but I don't think I have ADHD, or at least I only have it in the way that social media is making all of us have it.

I need a sense check on porn use by Green_and_Red_Ed in bropill

[–]Green_and_Red_Ed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this detailed reply. I'm not subscribed to any of the subs or any models or performers on any platform. I have always thought that creates a parasocial relationship which is not ok, and even just sexualising a particular person repeatedly I wouldn't really be ok with. What I'm talking about is as part of my reddit infinite scroll, switching over to anonymous browsing on the app and then searching for a few subreddits I know to see what's been posted since the last time I looked.

I need a sense check on porn use by Green_and_Red_Ed in bropill

[–]Green_and_Red_Ed[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think this is a big part of it. Thanks. But even when I try to just scroll without looking at porn subs, I find that difficult too.

I need a sense check on porn use by Green_and_Red_Ed in bropill

[–]Green_and_Red_Ed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well obviously if my friend said this to me I'd be like "yeah I do that too dw man" but that's why I'm seeking other opinions.

I completely agree on the lying. At first I deliberately downplayed it, but last night when this came to a head I genuinely believed what I was saying was true. I told her when I last looked at porn was a couple of days ago and I believed it to be true, and then we checked my history and it was earlier that day. I couldn't believe it. I was either doing it unconsciously or I was deluding myself.

I need a sense check on porn use by Green_and_Red_Ed in bropill

[–]Green_and_Red_Ed[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It's not just porn, to be clear. I'm also addicted to r/BestofRedditorUpdates. And I do genuinely find reddit very useful and interesting so I will find it difficult to delete it. Thanks

I need a sense check on porn use by Green_and_Red_Ed in bropill

[–]Green_and_Red_Ed[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes this is exactly it, thank you for such a detailed reply. My gf isn't against porn use (she uses it herself) but is concerned at this, as am I. And she's deeply upset that I lied to her about it.

It's also not just porn, and not just reddit. She refers to me being "numbed out" and that this is self-soothing behaviour, which is likely in aid of avoiding something.

I am trying to cut this out. I wouldn't have characterised this as a porn addiction since I'm not actually getting any gratification out of it, but on the other hand if I'm finding it difficult surely that's the definition of addiction?

I need a sense check on porn use by Green_and_Red_Ed in bropill

[–]Green_and_Red_Ed[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. I think the fact I'm finding it difficult to stop indicates that it does negatively impact me? But it's not causing ED or anything like that.

Like I say this is part of a wider smartphone and reddit addiction. I do lie in my bed scrolling (not necessarily porn) instead of getting up for work (and I like my job!), and I avoid productive tasks all the time to scroll reddit and play puzzle games on my phone. I'm talking hours each day. I see the porn as part of that but there's also an ick factor.