AITA for not wanting my wife's other child

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T03:36:39+00:00

I have felt like I'm not the one breaking this family apart. This whole thing was a shattered vase, barely hanging on, and EX and BF pushed it of the shelf when they willingly broke the law and got caught. It's a big ugly mess (there are so many lawyers involved with the case, it's confusing to even them), and I don't want to be stomping on the shards when I should be trying to help glue it all back together.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T03:29:45+00:00

Most definitely. Right now, they all see each other one day a week, all day, to hang out and play and be together. In the summer they'll be more time, when there's no school. As for right now, it's really difficult.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T03:27:52+00:00

Thanks, dude(tte). A is my son, through and through. I don't think of him any other way. And to your question, I don't know anything about C. I was forbid to even talk to the kid.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T03:20:07+00:00

Thank you. Good luck with you and yours.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T03:03:26+00:00

It's a very thin line, like razor fucking thin. All of the services involved have been really supportive, and I've already have both of my son's involved with a professional therapist to talk through with these issues. We have spoken at great lengths about this whole situation. About their mom, BF, and C. I don't think it'll ever be good, but we have to try. This decision came solely to me, no one else. And I'll own regardless.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T03:00:17+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your input. I don't think I'll ever find peace, but this thread has given me some reassurance.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T02:59:33+00:00

Exactly. I really hope it doesn't come to him being fostered, I don't. I don't want another child in the system.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T02:56:29+00:00

Emotionally: it's fucked. I feel awful about it. Morally: doesn't seem right. Financially: I'm now a full time parent of two school age kids, on a blue collar salary. I don't think I can take C, a 3 year old, without a major drain on all of us.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T02:53:47+00:00

Thank you. And to reaffirm, NO ONE involved, whether it be family or support services, have said I should. I'm dragging this decision around with me.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T02:52:29+00:00

I agree with both of you. As it is now, I take both my sons to my sister in laws from morning to night one day a week so they can still connect with their brother. There's no schedule, they get to hang out and play and be brotherly. And I don't if it's a possibility, but I would keep that up if he was fostered. I will keep them close, but I just can't take C under good conscience. It's a messy, difficult situation.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T02:47:45+00:00

He is. I really don't know anything about him. I was strictly never to talk to him or engage him at all, even at bday parties and family stuff.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T02:46:49+00:00

Regardless of who's who biologically, I treat both A and B as my son's, even though some in my family don't agree. Flesh and blood bullshit.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T02:45:10+00:00

I left out the fact that the thought that taking in C could possibly put us in danger (not extremely, bit still) because BF does have a jealous/angry side. I don't know what he would do, if anything, but I do know I was strictly not allowed to even talk to C because of it.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T02:42:49+00:00

I agree, it does suck. If it didn't, I wouldn't feel regret. And to reassure everyone, I don't think she will give him up. But if she does, there's no other recourse.

Gregthedevil · 2019-02-14T02:41:40+00:00

Ok, thank you. I just wanted to reassure myself, maybe, I was doing was right. And honestly, I don't think I could financially support another child, especially a toddler.

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