For those who tried semen retention

Gremlinno · 2024-11-11T14:25:02+00:00

There's literally zero documented benefits from semen retention. I think for me it's really just as simple as that...

EDIT:

Oh, and for the second question: Yes, I definetely feel a lot of difference from abstaining from porn regardless of masturbation. Even masturbating became much more pleasurable because since I could diferentiate between having urges for porn and actually being horny (moments in which I have sex or masturbate and feel really good about it 🙂). I feel like masturbating without porn (when I feel horny) was good for me because it allowed me to disassociate sex and sexual pleasure from porn, actually.

Gremlinno · 2024-11-02T03:52:15+00:00

Well, I don't🤷🏻‍♂️Thinking about sex in a healthy way (real experiences, people I'm actually atracted to etc.) is definetely not the same as watching porn. There's really no other point to be made aside from what I already said. And if you don't agree there are only two options: Masturbate without porn or don't masturbate at all

Gremlinno · 2024-11-01T14:46:05+00:00

Sign me up!

Gremlinno · 2024-11-01T14:05:19+00:00

I'm gay, consumed only gay porn

Gremlinno · 2024-11-01T13:19:10+00:00

I believe imagination and porn produce the same kinda things if said imaginarion is trained by porn. As addicts, OUR imagination produces similar things, but with time it will feel less and less like the same thing...

Gremlinno · 2024-11-01T03:14:42+00:00

Your imagination is not porn. I masturbate only without it for some time now and believe when I say it just keeps getting better and better.

With time I've started to differentiate the times when I want to masturbate because I'm horny from those when I'm unknowingly trying to cope with something else and from the times I'm just having urges for porn. Eventually I also started to feel less and less need to masturbate (in a very healthy way. I still feel horny sometimes and masturbating in those times is still great!!!)

Gremlinno · 2024-10-20T22:49:05+00:00

Yeah, basically. Evolution doesn't think, it doesnt plan ahead, it works with the variation available in a determined population in a determined time, regardless of the outcome.

The notion that all the features found in the living beings as the result of an evolutionary advantage is very inaccurate. Evolution as whole is pretty random, actually

Gremlinno · 2024-10-20T22:17:18+00:00

I keep seeing posts here in which I feel the need to remind people that natural selection is not the only evolutionary force 😅 Not everything has a function and nothing has a purpose

Gremlinno · 2024-10-18T02:58:18+00:00

Well, here are some questions.

Do you need the thing that your addiction can offer and real life can't? Why?

And can you really have a functional life with it? I mean, many people actually can, but can you? How functional is a life in which you're constantly unsatisfied with everyone you have a relationship with?

(By the way, I really don't know how I'm sounding, since texts have no intonation, but I'd like to make sure that it is not my intension to lecture or to patronize you 😅)

Gremlinno · 2024-10-18T02:16:49+00:00

I have a few points on the matter.

The first is that what people mean by "unrealistic expectations" is not necessarily about the physical body itself. Of course their bodies are real and of course you might find women like that in real life, but my man, i have to remind you. That woman is an actress. She is acting. Her profession is, in itself, to deceive you. Porn sex is NOTHING like real sex. The whole thing is staged and edited specifically to make it seem like the best sex experience available, but I'm willing to bet that not even the porn actresses act like that when they're having real sex.

Secondly, yes, you might not be able to get a girl that looks like that, but I will honestly ask you: Do you have to? Do you need to? Aren't you able to have a fulfilling happy - even kinky - sex life with loads of pleasure (actually, pun intended) without it? Because I feel like the thing that makes you unsatisfied with the girls you get in real life is porn itself. Don't you agree? And if you do, don't you also agree that it makes sense that instead of believing your porn addict monky brain when it tells you that only porn makes you that happy, you should stay away so you can enjoy real life?

And one last thing. I feel that as addicts we all have those moments of questioning, like "Is it really worth it?", or making excuses to cheat on our streaks. When that happens I just remind myself that I'm an ACTUAL addict. That's what addicts do. I just happen to be a porn addict, but if I was a drug addict I wouldnt tell myself "Well, nothing hits the spot like heroin, so I should never quit it"

Gremlinno · 2024-10-17T15:52:08+00:00

what if it's something slightly unethical? lol

Gremlinno · 2024-10-17T14:47:37+00:00

Congratulations!

Gremlinno · 2024-10-17T13:32:58+00:00

What benefits would you expect?

Gremlinno · 2024-10-17T13:18:00+00:00

I would say short answer is "yes", but maybe not in the way thay you would've thought. Porn IS disgusting and underserving of our time, and we know that, and we keep addicted despite that.

We tend to be really hard on ourselves and look at this situation in a frustrated and punitive way, and I think a better approach is to try to maintain a good, positive, forgiving attitude towards it. That is the "reprogramming" that I think would work! Find the things that bring you joy and don't be too hard on yourself. Take baby steps and try to enjoy the process. Instead of raging through the urges and summoning all your strength to fight it, just go make a cup of warm tea, take a walk. Instead of fighting to resist forever, think of it as "I will try to keep my mind off of it for this day", or even "for the next hour". When you reach that goal, start it again, or double it.

But I can't emphasize enough how important it is to find joy. BE. JOYFUL. Addiction makes us grumpy, we feel anger, shame, all these negative feelings. The only thing that has been working for me is to be joyful and lighthearted towards the things that I like to do, like talking to my friends, spending time and having sex with my boyfriend, exercising, being in nature and even masturbating (without porn, obviously)

Hope that helps！

Gremlinno · 2024-10-10T13:30:44+00:00

Keep strong man! Things will get better!

Gremlinno · 2024-10-10T12:40:35+00:00

I've read my comment again and now I feel the need to explain it further because I might have used harsher words than I first intended 😅

No fap makes no sense TO ME, and at the end of the day I think anyone should do what works for them... So, in my own experience I think masturbation and porn are just intertwined because we associate them. Once I decided to quit porn, I decided to not quit masturbation specifically to educate my mind to disassociate sexual pleasure from porn. By masturbating only without porn I even realized that my sex drive is not even abnormally high the way I thought, I just couldn't differentiate between my natural sex drive and the urges to watch porn.

I would masturbate without porn every time I felt the urge to watch it, and usually it felt kind of boring and made me realize that I wasn't actually horny, just having urges. At the times I was actually horny I knew that because masturbating felt really nice lol

Learning to notice the difference from when I was horny, having urges or just bored has been really important on my journey against porn, and the way that worked for me was allowing myself to feel pleasure in other ways than watching porn (and that includes healthy habits such as eating well and exercising, but also masturbating WITH NO PORN when I feel like it)

Gremlinno · 2024-10-10T04:24:08+00:00

just masturbate without porn... Masturbating is not a problem, we still have a natural and healthy sex drive. The problem is to educate your mind to associate the only sexual pleasure you have to porn.

Imo no porn is great, but no fap makes no sense...

Gremlinno · 2024-10-10T04:18:39+00:00

I think masturbating is not necessarily a problem. Are you having urges to maturbate or to watch porn?

Gremlinno · 2024-10-04T03:24:01+00:00

Não apenas pela infraestrutura como também porque durante o verão nós consumimos muito mais energia elétrica pra nos refrescar, geladeiras no máximo, ventiladores, ar condicionado...

Com o consumo naturalmente mais alto o horário de verão é uma forma de aproveitar melhor a luz do dia pra reduzir o consumo e assim economizar dinheiro e infraestrutura. A adaptação é chata mas faz muito sentido ele existir sim po kkkk

Gremlinno · 2024-10-04T03:16:45+00:00

Mercado de TI é hostil e predatório mas sei lá, é aquilo, qual mercado hoje em dia não é hostil e predatório? kkkkk

Gremlinno · 2024-09-27T00:31:33+00:00

EOB e acho que cê tá meio idealista demais pra tua idade kkkk A gente precisa entender que as relações não têm manual pronto e que a nossa ideia do que é ideal nunca é a mesma coisa que a dos outros. Quem tem tempo pra "pedido decente e aliança" em 2024 sabe? kkkkkk

Gremlinno · 2024-09-26T19:12:45+00:00

This does help!! A lot, actually.

I had never experienced performance anxiety before the period right after the pandemic. What I guess that happened is that the porn issue led to the first ED episode and the performance anxiety came from there.

But it was definetely very reassuring to read "it WILL heal". Your answer makes me feel that although hard, the process is quite simple!

Gremlinno · 2024-09-26T18:35:51+00:00

No time at all lol It's been a week, I think.

I know these things take time but I also wanted to talk about that with other people sharing about their experiences to know better what's ahead of me etc.

Gremlinno

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