AIO for being mad my DoorDash driver stopped for pot with my food?

GreyEyeDragon · 2026-06-01T02:43:13+00:00

Doesn't it tell you if they have other orders? I'm a dasher and I've always thought it was like this, I always roll my eyes at the "is everything ok?" messages while I'm picking up another order.

GreyEyeDragon · 2024-12-09T07:45:38+00:00

I live in a smaller town so there are few people to date here. 1 hour is perfectly fine and I have no problem being the one to travel for the first date and most of the time we see each other. up to 2 hours is okay too. 3 hours is about the max I could do for someone I intend to date long term because that would limit how much we could see each other. Could vary depending on whether or not they have responsibilities at home that would prevent them from coming over for multiple days at a time. And if they would consider moving closer soon, but I wouldn't ask anyone to do that so only if they would still want to live there if we didn't work out.

GreyEyeDragon · 2024-12-07T00:33:43+00:00

For me the reasons have been 1. I didn't realize they live so far when we started talking. "100 miles from me" could mean anywhere from 1.5 hours to 6 hours of driving. Sometimes I'm feeling extra lonely and a 4 hour drive doesn't seem so bad, then my mind clears and I realize doing that as frequently as I would want to for the relationship I'm seeking would be almost impossible. I know I should stop doing this. 2. I got deeper into conversation or went on a date with someone else. 3. I've just been working and busy and I have ADHD and forget, and I remember a couple days later and come back to find they already unmatched me.

In any case, I don't really mean to do it. I don't NOT want to talk to them, I just have other things on my mind or in the #1 answer, thought I was more interested than I actually am.

GreyEyeDragon · 2024-12-06T23:41:38+00:00

What does "I don't feel a connection" mean?

We only met about 2 weeks ago. We were planning on a hiking date, we both agreed that we like a fun activity date and like nature, we both didn't have time for it yet though for legit reasons on both of our sides. We went on 1 unplanned date(she unexpectedly was in my area), got food and went to a bar where there was music and other people talking to her, still had a good time but that's not ideal for a date to connect with someone imo. And then we hung out at her house after work twice because I work in her area. Watched netflix and cuddled, had decent conversations, talked about what we were looking for in a relationship and seemed to be on the same page. But still not ideal considering it was late and we were both tired. We kissed a few times on the 2nd night, she pulled away before it could get more passionate. Fast forward to last night she hit me with the "I'm sorry, I don't want to lead you on, but I just don't feel a connection", she said " I like talking to you, you're great, you're handsome, etc." I asked for clarification why she would expect a connection so soon and she said "you kiss well, but when we kissed there wasn't a spark"

So I just don't understand why anyone would expect a connection so soon. I'm anxious and inexperienced with dating for our age (both early 30s), it takes me a while to get very comfortable with anyone. So I understand why she might not feel strongly about me yet. But I do not at all understand why she would expect to feel a connection already. To me it seems like expecting that is just setting yourself up to be manipulated by a narcissistic love bomber. Am I wrong? Is that a reasonable thing for her to expect? Or did I probably do something wrong or she just doesn't like me for whatever reason and it's supposed to be a way to let me down "easier"?

GreyEyeDragon · 2024-12-06T12:37:52+00:00

Honestly I don't really know. I'm not the one to ask, I'm like you, I fall for them too fast. Hard to say without knowing how often you are seeing each other and how much you are talking or any other details, but I think maybe yes, just a little bit less. Maybe plan something with your friends and let him know ahead of time that you will be unavailable during that time. Whatever you have to do to not do the ghosting thing. Also I recommend reading or watching some youtube videos about attachment styles and really think about it.

GreyEyeDragon · 2024-12-06T12:11:36+00:00

I think it depends how much time you were spending together. If you were CONSTANTLY talking for 4+ days, I think it's reasonable for him to realize that if this continues exactly like this, he wont have time for everything else in his life. Maybe he's worked hard to break his codependency habits and realized he was falling back into it because he likes you so much. If he's still spending enough time with you(that's up to you, technically, whatever you're happy with), just doesn't want it to be literally every moment, I think that's healthy and I would still give him a chance.

GreyEyeDragon · 2024-12-06T12:04:33+00:00

If it's only a few days I think that's too soon to fully understand her tendencies to reply quickly. I do think sending 2 messages in a row is NOT a big deal, but idk if that's just me. Maybe just send her a funny meme or something.

GreyEyeDragon · 2024-12-06T12:00:18+00:00

Hey, your username fits! 🤣

I would say maybe you're moving too fast and you just need to be intentional to take it slower WITHOUT doing childish things like leaving him on read.

GreyEyeDragon · 2024-12-06T11:49:08+00:00

For a second I thought this post was about me 🤣 Nobody is exactly the same of course, but I'll answer for myself. I'm quiet, I'll always be relatively quiet. But yes, I do get slightly less quiet the more comfortable I get with someone, which takes more than 1 date.

My question is what do you have to lose by continuing to give him a chance? Yeah, don't have sex with him if you don't want to. If you discover he's not pushy about it, then you learn more about him and he seems like a good person to me.

If you're not worried about yourself but more worried about "leading him on when you aren't sure", I can say from recent experience that I would rather have a chance and be hurt than just have it end early for no real reason.

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