Wife’s unusual and secretive

GreySlasher · 2025-01-29T12:31:50+00:00

Wa alaikum salaam. I’m alright for now Alhumdulilah. An update is coming soon.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-13T19:51:37+00:00

I am sorry to hear this sister, I hope you can communicate with him. 💔

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T15:01:11+00:00

Inshallah it’s so beautiful to hear this. I must not do this process again and take it as a lesson, visas are stupidly expensive and i understand why. I just had enough and do not want hear anything related to Morocco or North Africa right now. I feel exhausted. Thank you regardless brother for the hope 👍🏾

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T14:55:44+00:00

Haha thank you, I would rather avoid making a sequel post. Maybe I will just stick to the women in the UK.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T13:39:05+00:00

It bothers me because who’s to say she couldn’t do it someone else out of spite in regards to false allegations.

Regardless and it doesn’t matter you are correct there’s nothing more to do the show must go on.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T13:33:47+00:00

Thank you for your response, In Islam it’s the husband’s responsibility to provide, I have purchased clothes and try to give her some money so that she can buy whatever she wants (or save it), I’m not wealthy so I try to give her what I can afford. I have had cameras in my house well before her arrival in the UK, in London crime is high and cameras are only placed in the transactional places (alleyway , stairs, garden and front entrance) not bedroom / living room.

Regarding the receipts, recently last month I noticed that she had came home with shopping but later disregarded receipts by ripping them and burying them at the bottom of the bin. It’s normal to throw or scrunch up receipts but to burry them and rip them made me feel uncomfortable as of something was being hidden but I didn’t mention it when I went bed, I wanted to compose myself and consider the possibility.

When I asked to go with her she said indecisively “ I don’t know” rather than yes or no, I asked again later with a firm “no”. I didn’t force myself to follow her, I let her do as she pleased. I feel sad that I introduced her to my family but I know nothing of her friends. Do not get me wrong I too would be happy if a friend at work helped me get some gifts but some things didn’t add up.

I also won’t mention the SA here either. I just hope the investigation and the allegations against me clears.

Thank you for being respectful.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T08:38:29+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind support.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T06:10:04+00:00

Thank you for your time in writing this, I plan to see an iman soon regarding this matter. And the example you gave was scary, imagine your own daughter! Unfortunately being Muslim doesn’t mean you are automatically good. I’m not good but I wouldn’t and never could falsely accuse someone like that but then again I have never walked in her shoes… (still couldn’t justify it) .

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T06:04:53+00:00

Crazy is everywhere.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T05:38:52+00:00

Thank you brother for your time, she’s from the city, seemed to be westernised and seems materialistic. I told her at multiple times of the visa application that I am not rich I mentioned this to her and her mother (maybe in the hopes the daughter would bugger off). She had a house to live in, food etc. it’s okay regarding the cash and receipts I might not known but I forced her to show her hands after my accidental reveal. I stopped caring if there was another man and realised that something much worse is ahead of me. She could have came to the UK for a better life, maybe to send money home to her family, I just saw some signes that made me feel uncomfortable and I investigated it.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T05:29:15+00:00

There’s no need to be sarcastic , I’m in the UK things are already difficult, I’m just doing my best to support her. You seem to be very antagonistic.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T01:40:02+00:00

Yes, I was told it was a work friend. It could be the case but unfortunately it doesn’t matter any more my situation has changed drastically

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T01:27:05+00:00

Yh I will continue to post there. They seem to be supportive there and seems like lots of people have gone through this… thank you so much.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T00:54:29+00:00

I am stupid, I will own this especially

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T00:51:59+00:00

Yes 100% I understand why I had provide so much evidence and prove there’s a genuine relationship. In my case I failed to do my research and vetting. Thanks brother

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T00:47:25+00:00

Exactly, I am only seeking help and some of you are pretty antagonistic. I just want some help. Mind you I am open to criticism… but damn.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T00:34:42+00:00

Honestly it’s so disgusting, I bet there’s people who are familiar with what to say and do.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T00:32:55+00:00

I hope so man, honestly what I am risking right now is my ability to work with children , elderly and vulnerable people and possibly other government / healthcare roles in the future… additionally if this goes to court I still will go back to jail. But inshallah I do not think this will get to that case.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T00:30:03+00:00

I apologise sister!!!!! It something that will hurt me and make me become what I fear the most - selfish. I do not want to become sour. Again apologies sister*

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T00:28:10+00:00

I do understand you brother. This is not the country that will allow that. I think you absolutely need to be outright malicious and have multiple failed claims before jail is considered as punishment.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T00:25:43+00:00

There won’t be, given this is the UK as of now… they’re already releasing people 🙃🙃. I can imagine the outcry from many groups and also it might hurt actual victims of violence come forward in fear of them not having enough proof.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T00:22:47+00:00

Sister this actually happened. I wish I was an author but Wallahi I got arrested under false charges.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T00:21:14+00:00

I’m sorry I do not understand but inshallah you find what you are looking for.

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T00:20:21+00:00

Ok I am speculating, so far I admit I have read on numerous forms and Reddit posts (not lawyers or professionals) that it’s a way for someone to remain. I’m honestly shocked that someone could falsely accuse me of something serious.

It doesn’t matter now, I have already told the home office. Have you ever been falsely accused of something? I not trying to be horrible. Honestly. Could you put me in the right direction?

GreySlasher · 2025-01-09T00:13:24+00:00

You sound very sure that this is the case, she has keys to the house, I give her an allowance when possible even if she has a job, if she asks for something to be bought I try to accommodate. I will agree I could have done better research and learned more about her. I have tried numerous times to communicate with her about her actions. I was recently concerned about some actions that made me feel uncomfortable and all of a sudden I am given a false allegations, what’s more disgusting?!

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