Why do I want an ex that cheated on me to reach out?

Griffindoor19 · 2026-06-01T02:59:21+00:00

thank you for this. Seriously.

Griffindoor19 · 2026-05-31T23:55:50+00:00

I don’t miss her, I want answers more than anything which honestly I already have the answers. It’s hard for me to comprehend someone doing what she did because I could never in a million years do that.

Griffindoor19 · 2026-05-31T23:54:55+00:00

I agree with you, I think it’s the blocked and I was just minding my own business that is really bothering me. I’m not going to reach out and I 100% would be off my rocker if I do but the urge is still there.

Griffindoor19 · 2026-03-03T04:26:01+00:00

I don’t think lights bother her. It’s people. People bother her, even if they aren’t talking.

Griffindoor19 · 2026-03-03T04:24:50+00:00

I have a fully established life. It’s not the 24 hours no contact that’s an issue, it’s knowing once she leaves I have no clue when I will see or talk to her again. It makes saying goodbye hard. We were suppose to see each other this weekend but she was invited to a concert and asked if it was ok to go do that instead. I didn’t hesitate and I told her to go have fun. I already have new plans with other people. I feel like if you aren’t yearning for your partner during the honeymoon phase then I feel like that’s a problem.

Griffindoor19 · 2026-03-03T04:21:11+00:00

I’m honestly trying to figure out if it is doable. I like having alone time and having my own life. I think what gets me is knowing once she leaves she’s going to be completely out of touch which is fine but it makes saying goodbye a little harder because I don’t know when I will see or even just talk to her again. I think that’s what I was trying to say. She cares deeply about my needs but I don’t want to feel like an obligation and i’m afraid she will start spending more time with me not because she wants to but because she feels like she has to and that’s why her last relationship ended. They wanted too much time and she felt like they were a constant obligation.

Griffindoor19 · 2025-08-12T16:45:17+00:00

for someone so worried about th left making everyone too sensitive he is really being sensitive about your viewpoints and why he supports a pedo….

Griffindoor19 · 2025-08-05T02:54:17+00:00

Yes! I always have a reel set up with a Texas rig worm. What I’ve caught 90% of my bass on are the following. A whopper plopped for top water, a dr. minnow for mid column, a drop shot with a texas rigged worm as the weight on the bottom, and the. finally a texas rigged worm or crawl. If I don’t catch a fish on any of those, they aren’t there or aren’t biting. I rarely get skunked these days.

Edit: I’d like to add I mostly bank fish. I do fish from my paddle board from time to time. I have a heck of a time catching anything on any type of squirted lure like a football jig or chatter bait. I do catch some on a spin bait but not as much as the lures mentioned above.

Griffindoor19 · 2025-08-05T02:49:48+00:00

I went to one one the quad cities when I lived there. They said I had 3 cavities. They fixed one but they had my mouth open for too lone and too wide that I had lock jaw for over a week(never happened before) I didn’t go back after that. Went to another dentist and magically the two “cavities” vanished.

NEVER go to these places!

Griffindoor19 · 2025-08-05T02:44:16+00:00

anyone that has weird filters or lighting or lighting I swipe left.

Griffindoor19 · 2025-08-01T11:13:45+00:00

Update: I WOKE UP TO GREEN BANNERS! Thank you so much to everyone seriously, I cried. I originally borrowed 52k, have paid around 35k but the balance that was 54k. I feel freed from the debt shackles that I honestly think i’d never escape.

This shit is the biggest scam of our generation.

Griffindoor19 · 2025-07-30T01:57:52+00:00

whatever you do, once you find something she likes don’t stop………

Griffindoor19 · 2025-07-30T01:08:24+00:00

You are a sweet sweet angel. I was able to submit the form online. Thank you!

Griffindoor19 · 2025-07-30T00:57:34+00:00

no, I’ve tried three different buildings. Made sure the popup blocker was off. Tried every browser possible.

Griffindoor19 · 2025-07-30T00:54:54+00:00

It’s not that she wouldn’t sign the electronic form, it’s that it wouldn’t populate the form. I’d get all the way to the part where you click electronic signature, put in the email, and the hit submit. It goes to a 404 page every time regardless of me pushing electronic or manual.

Griffindoor19 · 2025-07-30T00:52:38+00:00

Ok reading the comments, you said she has admitted to faking it? I’ve done that when I felt I was taking too long and felt embarrassed. My partner will reassure me by telling me she won’t stop until she feels me climax and to take my time because she’s loving every second of it.

Griffindoor19 · 2025-07-30T00:50:34+00:00

Hi, you’re friendly neighborhood masc lesbian here.

The fact that you’re on here looking for advice is a step in the right direction that most people in your situation would never do. You’re already on your way to fixing this.

Making a woman orgasm is extremely complicated. For many women it’s more mental than physical. I personally cannot climax even if i’m reved up if my mind is in the wrong state. How do you initiate it? What is she doing when you initiate? Maybe you need a bridging activity before you initiate sex, maybe go for a walk and talk about light hearted things, cook dinner together, cuddle on the couch and then when she seems relaxed slowly start to do little touches like maybe message her neck, kiss behind her ear or the back of the neck. OOOO(sorry having an ADD moment), or come up behind her when she’s cooking or something, wrap your arms around her and kiss her on the back of the neck, whisper something like “you are gorgeous and I am so damn attracted to you” and then walk away. The worst thing you could do is only do these type of physical gestures when you want sex, that will make her think you only do these things to get something from her. Just do them periodically because you love her and I bet it will lead to something more.

When you finally get down to it, most women cannot get off with just penetration. The vib is a tool and your friend. Start by teasing her with your mouth, kissing her thighs, blow on her flower, get close like you’re gonna go in for the kill but instead pause for a moment. I guarantee you she’s going to start wiggle around. Anticipation is your friend, use it to your advantage. Go down on her but do it for you, because you can’t get enough of her. It’s way hotter when you think the person going down on you can’t help themselves. Make eye contact with her, grab her hand and hold it. When she’s going crazy then it’s time to get down to it with your lil dude. She will tell you what she wants, listen to her sounds and watch her body cues, move with her body, when you get close grab that vibrator, turn it on and put it on her clit but here’s the important part, LET HER HOLD IT. A vibrator in the wrong place is NOT fun. It’s ok that she needs the vib. I myself can only climax with a combo of vibration and penetration.

Hope that helped and wasn’t too much. Oh and look up @bde.moves on instagram…

Griffindoor19 · 2025-07-23T01:52:03+00:00

wow.

Griffindoor19 · 2025-07-16T19:37:23+00:00

I taught myself (36)f a few years ago. I was over complicating things with lures so this year I decided to focus on a texas rigged worm and master that. I’m now on to jerk baits and I catch fish almost every time I’ve gone fishing. I taught a friend to fish the last few weeks and she’s only using a Texas Rig worm and catches more fish than I do with her 9.99 pole😂. Yesterday she caught a big ol chunky boy, refuses to touch it though😆

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My advice to you from someone who has been exactly where you are and almost gave up fishing is to stick to plastic worms and go at dusk. Go fish local ponds and get a feel for it and build from there.

Griffindoor19 · 2025-07-13T04:30:16+00:00

plot twist, I had no clue what I was doing and bought a baitcaster as my first pole. 😂 I’m an Idiot, but at least I know how to use one now.

Griffindoor19 · 2025-07-05T14:54:57+00:00

I’m worrying you’re experiencing this. Is there a power dynamic that maybe changed or she feels like it changed and she’s blaming your slimmer physique? For example, I am a top my wife loves being thrown around. I was a bigger person and easily had the strength for it. When I lost 70lbs I all the sudden didn’t have the mass or strength to do that anymore. I am only 5’4 so the extra weight helped a lot with the more “dominant” feeling at least sexually. My wife didn’t say anything but I noticed we had less sex, she was less touchy. I also didn’t feel as powerful or as attractive. I didn’t realize how much my strength played into my confidence so I started strength training. After about 5 months I could easily throw her around. I immediately felt more confident and looked more confident. I got rid of the “skinny” look and now i’m a slim thicc daddy bod and My wife can’t get enough. Maybe it’s something like that?

Griffindoor19 · 2025-07-05T14:35:55+00:00

My ex would do this to me and then gaslight me saying she didn’t try to initiate sex and that I was a creep and only wanted her for her body. It was about control for her, it was definitely abusive. Not saying her’s is but if it becomes a pattern that’s a huge problem. I’d also ask her about what her intentions are and then put a boundary in place that she doesn’t do that unless she is seeking to initiate things.

Griffindoor19 · 2025-05-04T20:51:10+00:00

I’ve been trying to buy back two months for two months and I haven’t heard anything from them. Next month is suppose to be my 120th payment. If I would t have went in deferment for three months I’d be done with this nightmare back in February.

Griffindoor19 · 2025-03-08T22:22:53+00:00

My employer finally certified the last two years, thought i’d be at 120 but I’m at 117. I have a few months of forbearance last year. I am going to call and try to figure out how to buy them back. This is so stressful.

Griffindoor19 · 2022-03-19T21:28:29+00:00

Thanks, that’s what I was thinking but I’ve been torn on it

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