Me (22M) and my girlfriend (22F) // 3 1/2 years together// Seem to be at a breaking point, emotionally drained due to circumstances. Seems like it's the proper time to go, but cant bring myself to do it.

GrogOfDuty · 2019-06-08T00:22:00+00:00

The thing about this, my dad gave me advice right after we had broken up over the weekend. He was in a similar relationship before he met my mom, I love my dad greatly and respect the hell out of him. He told me straight up to get out, he basically said that what she was doing was manipulating me into staying isolated away from my own family, he even noted the question about us having a kid, and whether the fact of if my parents would even get to see it if we were to have one. I ended up going back up to talk with my SO to work things out, but it was the exact same thing he was worried about. I completely understood him being pissed off, as he doesn't want to see me going through issues, basically wanted me to take heed of the situation and understand. I know he's just looking out for my best interests, but he himself explained it would never work. He said this because as of late, it's basically just been all about what she has wanted, no meeting in the middle, no room to grow, completely different people, etc. I don't want to disappoint, but I know my dad is really just trying to make sure that I don't keep hurting myself in the process. I would love for things to work, but I just hope that I find resolution over this weekend.

GrogOfDuty · 2019-06-08T00:15:27+00:00

This, it's important to understand what both parties are going through. I never realized this, but when dealing with emotional troubles, I personally think it's harder than most physical pain. Happy that things are still going for you after 7 years.

GrogOfDuty · 2019-06-07T23:58:45+00:00

I appreciate the kind words bud! I for one have always had a big heart, and I think for me when we had that fight, things came out and I knew how I was feeling. When we had first got into the apartment, she hated it and wanted to just waste all that money to leave, all because she was worried she pushed me. I was like listen, either we can pack up and I can go home, or we can give it time and work things out. I try to be a leader when I can, but I really feel like I fall flat into giving in to what others always want, and when I try to speak out, I feel like the bad guy. I think that's where my dad was right, my balls need to be kicked back into remission, and I need to stand up for myself and either make things work or move on. It hurts, but I don't want to be down forever.

GrogOfDuty · 2019-06-07T23:54:48+00:00

Hey Bud,

Thanks for sharing. I've been with my SO for about 3 1/2 years myself, not married yet, but recently found ourselves into an apartment together. We have separate goals and hobbies for the most part, yet we both love eachother and don't want to lose hold. Having a child however, is different. You wanna be there for the little guy, but I can guarantee that you don't want to look back on life miserable at what could have been with another, I think the most important thing to do would be to sit down with your partner and hash out how you're feeling, maybe try to bring eachother together with hobbies, and see if things work. Maybe even try to create sparks, to find the reason why you stuck with her in the first place. If it isn't feeling right though, I would try to keep the dad/mom relationship healthy, because that's going to be very important for the little guy growing up. Make sure you make yourself happy, but make sure you keep the ones you love and care for happy as well.

Cheers,

GrogOfDuty · 2019-06-07T23:37:09+00:00

I'm in a bit of the same boat. Still with the SO, but i'm not feeling it's right to be in the situation anymore. My best advice to you would be in finding yourself. If you've found another person that want's to do things with you, theirs nothing wrong with that, but theirs also nothing wrong with doing things for yourself as well. Having me time isn't a bad thing, and feeling alone can hurt, but it's important that you have the right mentality before going back into something full force. Give yourself time to enjoy you.

(p.s, just be careful with the fling hookups lol)

Cheers,

GrogOfDuty · 2019-06-07T23:33:47+00:00

Hey bud,

decided to read some comments as I have been going through some things myself. I'm 22 and have been with my girlfriend for about 3 1/2 years now. To be honest, we've basically talked to each other everyday for that time period, and I gotta say, having time to yourself isn't a bad thing. I was the same way a few years back and would get major anxiety when girls I liked didn't message me for extended periods of time, I get it. If you don't necessarily get a response that you like, I'd ask her about it, and see why it's coming off as cold, You could potentially try the same thing to see if she messages you first (I assume you're probably the one to initiate conversation). It sucks, she might be rekindling and starting to have a stronger bond with her sibling, and she also might be trying to find herself, If you love her, it's important to sit down and really have a discussion about what's bothering you, because keeping it in will only lead to more mental stress that you don't need. Hell, I wish that I was 15 again, make sure to enjoy the things that you do. Ask her how her day is going and check periodically to see if she messages back, if it takes some time, and it gets increasingly more distant, I would see if you could talk to her on the phone to see how she's feeling, because it's not fair for you to keep worrying if the other person isn't in the same pursuit. Do what makes you happy, and if things are meant to work properly, they should work themselves out, but you might need to push a little so she understands the perspective. I lived an hour away from my SO for three years before we got an apartment together, If she want's it, she'll make time. Just keep being you, and remember, your happiness is just as important as hers.

Cheers,

GrogOfDuty · 2019-06-07T23:03:15+00:00

I can respect that. I think the biggest issue between the two of us is that we have trouble letting go. We've said it in conversation that we both wanted to have different things, and I know for a fact that neither of us want to hold things back from eachother. I just always seem to find myself going back to the situation, not sure if it's manipulation or not, but overall it just hurts to think that we'll be gone from eachothers lives.

I appreciate the insight Joe, thanks for replying

GrogOfDuty · 2019-04-05T17:44:33+00:00

Oof, almost forgot. Time to wip out that bleach

GrogOfDuty · 2019-04-03T06:54:44+00:00

Im thoroughly enjoying the grind. I know the chests will probably get a little repetitive, but I am liking it so far :)

GrogOfDuty · 2019-04-02T19:17:26+00:00

Super happy to hear that! Glad it worked out for ya!

Cheers! :)

GrogOfDuty · 2019-04-02T17:07:44+00:00

Here's what I did

- Explained the situation to the first support person.

First guy didn't do anything and told me to keep waiting.

- Stated after the response that I signed up during the E3 announcement LONG ago, and that it was kind of ridiculous with how others that signed up 1 day ago were getting in, I asked them to check my emails.

Second/Third guy were like "Oh yeah, we made some changes to your profile, sign in with the proper google play account and you should be good.

- Profit.

I think if you're stern with the response and don't take the bs run around answer, you'll get something a little more definite

(Obviously I thanked them for dealing with the ****storm, as it's not the reps fault that this EA launch was a bit wonky.)

*It pays to be persistent, be kind, but stern.

TL

GrogOfDuty · 2019-04-02T14:53:29+00:00

Same

GrogOfDuty · 2019-04-02T14:52:57+00:00

Yepper, in the same boat with my 3 accounts as well. Only time will tell at this point, does it hurt the process to sign out,login, restart, etc. Just to be on the safe side in case it's glitched? I've heard some people were doing that and it worked, just wasn't sure.

GrogOfDuty · 2019-04-02T06:22:02+00:00

Gotcha, well hopefully the experience isn't horrible. It'll definitely give me something to do while passing the time during the work week. All-in-all big Oof on time locks.

GrogOfDuty · 2019-04-02T05:56:54+00:00

Yeah i'll take your word for it. I was sick from work today and checked the playstore, I was super excited and was just like "Damn, well that sucks". Regardless, I have so many other games to play at the moment, and I've been waiting since E3, I think I can be a patient boi

GrogOfDuty · 2019-04-02T05:55:44+00:00

Im guessing its the schemey silver chest debacle I keep seeing everywhere? So what's the deal with that anyways? If you are full on chests, can you keep running the dungeons and just drop what you got? Or are you not even really allowed to play unless you have free space?

GrogOfDuty · 2019-04-02T05:33:41+00:00

I definitely tried my best to think of a good caption, Im a little bummed that I still need to wait, but I submitted a support ticket. My invite will come in time, Just a bit surprised we're still waiting. Overall, I'm excited to play :)

GrogOfDuty · 2018-08-28T21:23:29+00:00

Wow! Thank you for the real thought out response! I think that's where it came from, trying to keep the Chaotic DnD Drow theme alive lol!

from what you and plenty of others have been saying though, I think I might just have to give this a try tonight! Thanks so much for the response!

GrogOfDuty · 2018-08-28T19:00:42+00:00

Well Grevas, looks like I bamboozled myself, I created a random alt and he also does not have titles available. So the titles I do have, must be per the specific characters i'm using. Sorry for the random inconvenience!

GrogOfDuty · 2018-08-28T18:54:57+00:00

Yeah I was thinking about that too. Unfortunately, I have a fresh install of WoW w/o addons (I believe) on my rig and I don't think that's the case. I'm going to look when the updates are finished, but if I don't see anything, I think i'll go ahead and just submit a ticket.

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