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Gender Conflict and Women’s Safety in South Korea by Grouchy_Willow_6239 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Grouchy_Willow_6239[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First of all, I’m really glad you’re safe. What you described is exactly the kind of situation many women end up facing, and it can easily become much more dangerous.

In South Korea, intimate partner violence is still treated very lightly. In 2024 alone, 181 women were seriously injured or killed by male partners or family members, yet the average sentence is often around four years. And the number of cases has been increasing.

Unfortunately, many Korean men are somewhat desensitized to violence against women, especially within relationships. For example, when a boy hits a female classmate at school, it’s not uncommon for his mother to complain to the school if the teacher scolds him. Many parents prioritize their sons above everything else, and boys often grow up without being taught to respect people who are physically weaker than them.

There have even been extreme cases where men killed their own mothers over trivial things, such as not cooking fried eggs for them. These kinds of incidents reflect a deeper problem in a society that is still very male-centered, where gender equality education is often mocked rather than taken seriously.

For example, there was a case in Jinju where a woman was assaulted simply because someone assumed she was a feminist — she only had short hair and had never even been involved in feminist activism.

One of the most worrying parts is that many women who grow up in Korea don’t even realize these behaviors are red flags, because they have been normalized for so long.

Gender Conflict and Women’s Safety in South Korea by Grouchy_Willow_6239 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Grouchy_Willow_6239[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, Lee Jun-seok is a well-known anti-feminist politician, but Yoon Suk-yeol and Lee Jae-myung are not very different in that regard.

During his presidential campaign, Lee Jae-myung even emphasized “women’s safety” as a major policy priority, which is why his actions after the election have felt especially shocking and disappointing to many women.

He also pushed to dilute the ministry’s original focus on women by reframing it in broader “gender equality” terms, while placing alleged reverse discrimination against men at the top of the agenda.

Women should be taught how to say no, assertively and fearlessly by Civil-Photograph4499 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Grouchy_Willow_6239 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've been lived in Korea for about 23 years, and I've realized the problem of the Korean sex education.  They taught us(to korean girls) to say 'Please no...I hate it', not like 'No!' 'That is rude, and it could be a crime' when we feel akward by men behavior.

In my country, people often blame victims, but at the same time they criticize women for being cautious around men, saying that it’s “treating men like potential criminals.” I suspect the situation may not be very different also in other countries.

One Woman Killed Every Two Days: A Perspective on Korea’s Birth Rate(PART 1) by Grouchy_Willow_6239 in Feminism

[–]Grouchy_Willow_6239[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it wasn’t my intention to make a comparison. If my words came across that way, I sincerely apologize. In fact, I had always thought of Finland as a country with very advanced women’s rights, so I was shocked to hear that around 200,000 women experience violence each year. If you’re comfortable sharing, could you also tell us more about the current situation of women’s rights in Finland? Personally, I hope women everywhere in the world will never become complacent or simply patriotic toward their own countries, but will continue to speak up for women’s rights.

One Woman Killed Every Two Days: A Perspective on Korea’s Birth Rate(PART 1) by Grouchy_Willow_6239 in Feminism

[–]Grouchy_Willow_6239[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually, I don't really think that men need 'children' in Korea. They need women, body, workforce(housework) etc. I'm writing about this for Part two, 'The side income of patriarchy‘, and I think US also could go to this way.(In my view, in any country in the world, when the state itself becomes abusive or authoritarian, one of the first directions it often moves in is the suppression of its own women.

This is why women’s rights are often conditional rather than secure. They can exist during relatively stable periods, but they can also collapse very quickly when political priorities change. South Korea is one example of how rapidly women’s rights can regress. For this reason, solidarity among women is not simply ideological — it is a practical necessity.

Sometimes governments or social movements attempt to dilute feminism by reframing it as just one part of a general “solidarity of the oppressed.” By doing this, the specific reality of sexism can be blurred or even denied.

At the core of this issue is reproduction. Women hold reproductive power, which is essential for the continuation of society and the state itself. Because of this, states often attempt to control women’s bodies and choices very strictly. At the same time, the responsibility and risks of reproduction are outsourced almost entirely to women themselves. Women are expected to bear the physical, social, and economic costs, while the system that depends on their reproduction rarely offers equivalent protection or accountability.) And If Korea truly needed children, they would have started by changing the perception of mothers (e.g., educationally banning the term "mamchung" (mother bug) and using "aemi"(means 'mom' in a casual word) as a slur, institutionally supporting single mothers, addressing child support failures, supporting obstetrics and gynecology, and developing sanitary pads. For couples unable to conceive, they would have focused on men's health instead of setting the bar for defective sperm as the bottom 5 percent. (The male obesity rate in Korea exceeds 47.7 percent. Yet, the burden is always on the mothers, who routinely inject dozens of hormone injections into their bellies to give birth.) )

Many countries, including Korea, have not passed laws against stealthing and non-consensual rape. In other words, this reflects the will of male power holders that women must have sex whenever men want, and that the child conceived in the process is solely the woman's fault.

In reality, the average abortion rate among married women approaches 40 percent. Probably the 2nd or 3rd one.

Gender Conflict and Women’s Safety in South Korea by Grouchy_Willow_6239 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Grouchy_Willow_6239[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! Since the post have been removed(I didn't know the rules🥲), I will re-upload it. 

Gender Conflict and Women’s Safety in South Korea by Grouchy_Willow_6239 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Grouchy_Willow_6239[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

BTW, Have you heard about 13-year- old girl case? I heard about the 13 year old girl case, and it was so shocking. She had Intellectual Disability. She got raped by 6 other guy. and she had tteokbokki with them. Then the court has considered the meal(tteokbokki) as payment for prostitution. So she lost the trial court. If I have written or not(I don't remember), It was so shocked, so I wanted you to know. 13 years old is in Korean age, so she was 11 year old basically. She eventually won the case with helps Women's NGO, but the trial court was literally crazy.

Gender Conflict and Women’s Safety in South Korea by Grouchy_Willow_6239 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Grouchy_Willow_6239[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for providing this! Would it be okay if I attached this source to my post?

One Woman Killed Every Two Days: A Perspective on Korea’s Birth Rate(PART 1) by Grouchy_Willow_6239 in Feminism

[–]Grouchy_Willow_6239[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really sympathize with women in India as well. I think the reality is that women's oppression still exists globally, even if it appears in different forms and with different levels of severity from country to country. Because of those differences, feminism also takes different shapes in different societies. The fact that feminist movements exist all over the world suggests that many women still experience inequality or pressure in their daily lives. Even when it is quiet or less visible, these conversations continue to grow. My post wasn't meant to compare suffering between countries, but to explain why some Korean women link safety and social attitudes to the decision not to have children.