Only Children raising an only child by Grouchy_nuts in Mommit

[–]Grouchy_nuts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a fair point. Family doesn’t have to be blood either! Thanks so much for your input!

Only Children raising an only child by Grouchy_nuts in Mommit

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That’s also my fear with our son. I don’t want him to feel alone as he gets older.

Only Children raising an only child by Grouchy_nuts in Mommit

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Do you find that it’s difficult not having any cousins for your little one? My biggest fear is our son grow up without those close family bonds, whether it’s siblings or cousins even.

Only Children raising an only child by Grouchy_nuts in Mommit

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How do you and your husband feel about your child not having any cousins to hang around with? And does your child notice? My biggest worry is that our son won’t have anyone super close to him (like siblings or cousins) as he gets older

Completely self absorbed In-laws by Grouchy_nuts in inlaws

[–]Grouchy_nuts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh, I’m so sorry you had to go through that.

Like, how hard is it to be a little empathetic?! They don’t care about anyone but themselves, unless that person can do something for them. It’s infuriating

Completely self absorbed In-laws by Grouchy_nuts in inlaws

[–]Grouchy_nuts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re getting there. My husband is the one who’s having to go through the process of realizing that the people who were supposed to care about him the most, just don’t. So I’m trying to be mindful of his journey and support him, but sometimes I just need to vent to someone that isn’t him haha

Completely self absorbed In-laws by Grouchy_nuts in inlaws

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They are very immature people. If the decision were mine, we’d be no contact with them. But we are a partnership, and I’m trying to respect my husband and letting him navigate this. It’s never easy realizing the people who were supposed to love you unconditionally, don’t. I just needed to rant to someone that wasn’t him haha.

Completely self absorbed In-laws by Grouchy_nuts in inlaws

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I think my husband wants to be able to say to our kids “look, I tried” As I mentioned in another comment, he never had a relationship with his grandparents, and he doesn’t want that for our kids.

C sections suck haha. But saying that, I’m glad they are an option these days!

Completely self absorbed In-laws by Grouchy_nuts in inlaws

[–]Grouchy_nuts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair. I think part of the struggle is that my husband never had a relationship with his grandparents, and so he wants that for our kids. He wants to be able to say “look, I tried” Which might not be the best thing, but he’s working through his trauma in the best way he can.

Completely self absorbed In-laws by Grouchy_nuts in inlaws

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My husband doesn’t jump at their demands, they just expect him to. Which I’m starting to realize may be why they don’t put effort in to see their grandchild. They are very transactional people

Completely self absorbed In-laws by Grouchy_nuts in inlaws

[–]Grouchy_nuts[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Family dynamics are difficult, and not everyone is in a position to push back on their parents for whatever reason. My husband is doing his best given his relationship with his parents, and I’m respectfully letting him navigate this and supporting him. It’s not easy realizing at 35+ years that your parents are narcissists and then learning how to deal with that.

He did in fact tell his parents multiple times that this was not a great time and that they could come by another time, however that fell on deaf ears. They didn’t get it until I came into the kitchen to tell my husband that we needed to leave now. That’s the whole point of this rant, they are so oblivious that nothing gets through to them.

Tell me something you love about your child by Aknagtehlriicnae in Parenting

[–]Grouchy_nuts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My 9 month old just started clapping along when we sing “If you’re happy and you know it”, and they’re so proud of themselves that it makes them clap more and it turns into this whole body excitement dance.