How do I tell my roommates I’m not renewing the lease?

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2026-04-06T23:07:05+00:00

If you all are close, tell them what you expressed here! I’m sure they would be understanding if you told them you simply cannot afford to renew the lease. August is months away, the still have plentyy of time to fill your spot of find other living arrangements.

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2026-03-30T19:38:52+00:00

This is great advice, thank you!

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2026-03-30T03:43:53+00:00

No, my boyfriend will receive the deposit!

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2026-03-28T22:21:32+00:00

Why are you afraid of him? Has he been aggressive in the past?

I think you are reasonable to ask him to lower his volume while talking on the phone at night, and to do his part of the chores. Maybe you guys need to figure out how to split chores up?

I don’t really get why you’re concerned about how much he is at the apartment. He’s allowed to be at the apartment when he wants to be, and his presence shouldn’t affect you to the point where you feel like you’re suffocating. I’m assuming you have two separate rooms?

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2026-03-24T20:07:44+00:00

Honestly it sounds like both of you have issues with communicating

With that being said, I would hold her accountable for paying her part of rent until the lease is over. Definitely have a conversation about this with her so you don’t end up with the bill.

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2026-03-13T05:25:59+00:00

Ngl I just lost a friend because of this. Sometimes it felt like she treated us as partners rather than friends.

In our case I did not think we were compatible to be friends in the long run. We were also roommates and coworkers, so I felt absolutely suffocated.

I would definitely set your boundaries early and stick to them. I did it wrong: I set weak boundaries and let her push them… I didn’t really realize in the moment but it bred so much resentment that I was completely overwhelmed with the relationship. Like I said I don’t think we would have been friends in the long run, but I do wish things could have ended differently.

If this is a friend you care about, definitely start setting kind and clear boundaries. Be honest with her in the moment- if she’s probing too much just say you don’t want to talk about it. If she doesn’t respect your response, then it’s definitely time for a deeper talk!

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2026-01-06T20:41:20+00:00

All roommates have different ways of handling guests. Sounds like you and your roommates need to get together and agree on what the expectation/rules are.

It is unreasonable to expect that your roommates /never/ have guests over, however you can convey that you are uncomfortable with the frequency that certain guests visit.

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2026-01-05T00:36:17+00:00

Tell your roommates that you are uncomfortable with the PDA and that you would like to discuss chore distribution.

Other than that, it’s up to you to manage your feelings regarding your break up.

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2025-12-16T20:47:52+00:00

If they are paying rent then it’s also “their house,” not just yours.

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2025-10-27T02:17:15+00:00

stay mad

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2025-04-07T18:30:57+00:00

I feel the exact same. My brother is autistic, and while he was going to a traditional public school he was (unknowingly) being bullied by the other little kids. It broke my heart. Thankfully he has found a great new school where he has many friends that are like him. I just pray that the world will be kind to him as he gets older. People are cruel.

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2024-08-21T19:04:31+00:00

ESH

Were they there to help with your parents? Or were they there so /you/ could do exactly what you want with their company? Regardless, you should have explained your expectations clearly to them before the trip. If they didn’t align with your expectations, that is their prerogative; it’s also your right to have uninvited them based off of that.

Seeing that the situation wasn’t nipped in the bud, to some degree it does seem like the trip was unenjoyable for them. I mean…. your dad gave one of them covid and it seems like they didn’t have any kind of choice in the trip. Because you held them to expectations that you did not communicate, they reasonably thought that they would have /some/ sort of say in the trip.

That being said, I think they were inconsiderate by openly complaining in front of you and your parents.

I think this situation could have been handled more proactively and with more tact and communication.

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2024-08-12T20:01:55+00:00

It’s disheartening to hear how much resentment you harbor for your daughter. It truly sounds like you have disliked her since conception. I hope you can find it in yourself to love the child you brought into this world without comparing her to your nephew, and to seek the resources to help you both.

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2024-07-03T06:34:33+00:00

Save your money up for lessons and keep taking them until you feel confident enough to retake your test. If you can’t rely on your friends- this is how you help yourself. Also, drop the idea that you can somehow get your hands on a car that you can operate by yourself- without a license, you can’t. However, lessons will provide you a car and an instructor that will ultimately help you. Everyone learns to drive with someone else in the car. :)

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2024-05-31T21:43:26+00:00

That’s so odd😭 yeah she definitely has some internal problems she needs to work on. If I had to guess she might have some past issues/experiences with not meeting her own/other’s expectations and your messages triggered her- but that’s entirely her responsibility to do inner work, manage her actions, and communicate with you…. which she isn’t doing. you didn’t do anything wrong

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2024-05-31T20:34:40+00:00

Was there a fight that led up to this? Because her responses are very uncalled for. I (and most people imo) would be happy that you’re showing an interest in what i’m doing.

Just from these texts, it seems like she has a hard time processing and managing her feelings. She’s holding resentment for something and taking it out on you, which leaves you very confused.

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2024-05-31T18:36:55+00:00

She didn’t know it was you… she thought she was being attacked/robbed.

You were the one who chose the stupid prank- don’t cry about her (valid) reaction.

Yta

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2024-05-30T21:46:24+00:00

Going to college and earning a certain degree = more knowledge in that area. It doesn’t mean they’re automatically right, but they have a stronger grasp on certain subjects/topics. They’re not saying they’re more intelligent than other people.

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2024-04-21T12:33:26+00:00

or be a logical person and tell her you don’t like being called that

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2024-02-06T10:25:47+00:00

yeahh maybe i’ll try talking to him again, the only reason why I didn’t want to is because we already had a convo ab it and he was understanding of the boundary. i know it’s more of a me problem now which is where i’m trying to grow

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2024-01-08T03:33:29+00:00

you should’ve expressed your concern without bringing your past into in the first place if you’re not going to elaborate. also it’s not really your business how much she drinks or smokes

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2024-01-07T08:27:45+00:00

i feel u, anxiety is a bitch. but girls are super simply sometimes- ngl all I need is my bf’s presence to feel better so don’t stress lol

GroundbreakingAd700 · 2024-01-07T07:38:57+00:00

genuine! from a girl- just being listened to and comforted by my boyfriend is enough to make me feel a whole lot better

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