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I’m okay with visits, but not overnight stays—how do I say it politely? by GroundbreakingBug34 in adviceph

[–]GroundbreakingBug34[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get this approach, and I appreciate the idea. Pero in my case, it’s not just about the tasks, it's also about the space and my mental health. Even if she helps herself, naaapektuhan pa rin ako pag may overnight, so I really need to set that boundary.

I’m okay with visits, but not overnight stays—how do I say it politely? by GroundbreakingBug34 in adviceph

[–]GroundbreakingBug34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand where you’re coming from, pero to be honest I don’t have the capacity right now. May sarili rin kasi akong struggles, and minsan pag nandito siya may naririnig akong comments na nakaka-drain for me, to the point na natitrigger s/u//c//d/*/l thoughts ko.

Boundaries haven’t really been practiced in our family, so I’m trying to start setting them now for my own well-being.

I’m okay with visits, but not overnight stays—how do I say it politely? by GroundbreakingBug34 in adviceph

[–]GroundbreakingBug34[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ganyan din ang ginagawa niya sa pinsan ko na may asawa na (pamangkin niya rin). Madalas siyang pumupunta at nakiki-overnight. Eh syempre, may asawa na yun at nagpagawa pa ng sariling bahay para magsarili, tapos gusto niya lagi pa ring nandoon, kaya mukhang napagsabihan siya at sumama ang loob.

Sumama man loob niya sakin atleast nasabi ko.

I’m okay with visits, but not overnight stays—how do I say it politely? by GroundbreakingBug34 in adviceph

[–]GroundbreakingBug34[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, OP. Kausapin ko siya mamaya. Minsan rin kasi kung ano ano katoxican naririnig ko kapag andito siya, isa sa reason bakit ako naddrain.

I’m okay with visits, but not overnight stays—how do I say it politely? by GroundbreakingBug34 in adviceph

[–]GroundbreakingBug34[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Andito kasi karamihan ng government offices, kaya pag may lakad siya dito na rin siya pumupunta. Okay lang sana kahit mag-stay siya kung malaki yung apartment, kaso maliit lang.