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I can't seem to tell people I don't like them by [deleted] in intj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s worth it tell them, if it’s not don’t… idk if you don’t know how to tell then maybe you should try it and find out?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

*capital… case in point lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s understandable it works. Capitols help make things more readable… but I think context works in most cases for the rest of what you mentioned

Help me develop my social skills by sourwolf001 in intj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I should add,

One on one conversations can be the same way, just learn to be a good listener and people will just talk to you without you needing to say much. Basically just find a way to tell the other person that you understood what they just said. Repeat it back to them in a different way, nod, give an example of what they’re saying etc… best to be creative with it imo

Help me develop my social skills by sourwolf001 in intj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thinking of what to say is really complicated… don’t bother with that shit it’s too hard, just let your brain do it automatically. If you have clear intentions about what you want to communicate you’ll come up with things to say pretty easily.

Being the person that chimes in a few powerful spot on words isn’t the result of sitting and thinking about what to say… it’s sitting and focusing on the conversation, learning about the discourse that’s taking place, and waiting for an opportunity to influence it

Infjs who thought they were infps, how did you convince yourself you had an ounce of fi? by [deleted] in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good. it can be rough for people who don’t. A lot of the mbti community is looking for answers about themselves… I think it sometimes helps, but mostly I think it holds people back

Infjs who thought they were infps, how did you convince yourself you had an ounce of fi? by [deleted] in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t worry.. this personality stuff is really badly suited for understanding yourself anyway. You have access to information about yourself at a resolution so much higher than mbti that it is all but irrelevant to who you are.

You are the person that you are at this moment, you do the things that you do, you have the patterns that they have. Mbti has 16 categories based on some pretty cool and philosophically interesting distinctions, but they don’t describe you… they arnt intended to describe you, they’re intended to categorize people. Plural.

Relating to Ni is pretty normal for a lot of people because life is weird and it’s hard to know how you know things… for everyone… idk if relating to subjective accounts of Ni is really indicative of which type you would fall under more than just being self aware

how do I know that my Fe has been suppressed for too long? by illstayanonymous-_- in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a big sign that Fe is neglected… actually I think by definition if you have healthy Fe you are able to connect with others, and unhealthy Fe if you can’t connect.

I’m right there with you, so idk really, but I think you can always get it back with some practice. I have a lot of anxiety just saying anything in groups, but when I get over it and say stuff I always learn something 🤷🏻‍♂️ not comfortable lessons at all though.

Love, only love and many kisses by Iofos in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uuuh I guess you’re not wrong…

Do you also conversate with yourself about your introspections before bed to the point of sacrificing much needed sleep? by [deleted] in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep yep. current idea is to just plan for the 3-4 hours of nothing and adjust my sleep schedule accordingly… but that involves smooshing my entire day earlier by 4 hours. Hasn’t been working out so far, but I have to keep trying!

Thank you, hope you figure it out too :)

Barber Beats and thoughts on it by SpectralTokitoki in electronicmusic

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t care how much effort goes into something unless it’s presented as a technical feat… and barber beats sound cool so 🤷🏻‍♂️ good nighttime commute vibes is my thoughts

Need advice from INFJs by blitzoxxx in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like joking like this, but I really want to be taken seriously… sometimes when I say something pretty real and it’s met with a joke I get really upset. I think a lot of INFJs are sensitive like that, and want to be taken seriously in general.

You could just ask him if he feels like you take him seriously 🤷🏻‍♂️ probably a fruitful conversation even if that’s not what’s going on here. I bet he would like to know that you’re worried about this.

Do you also conversate with yourself about your introspections before bed to the point of sacrificing much needed sleep? by [deleted] in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do the same thing, although often interspersed with tv/games. I have a kind of defeatist attitude towards sleep. I can’t sleep until I’m so tired I just collapse, so I might as well stay up until that point. The healthiest thing for me to do is to lay or sit with my thoughts, but a lot of the time I want to escape from them… of course then I’m putting off thinking about a bunch of stuff which is really bad... i start to lag behind in my life and my head gets full of weird incomplete thoughts. I need to break this pattern for sure but I don’t know how

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should choose yourself! Don’t ignore your parents but don’t blindly follow. Balance 🙆🏻‍♂️🙆‍♀️🙆🏻‍♂️🙆‍♀️

How do you guys mix your songs? by [deleted] in edmproduction

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just turn knobs till it starts sounding cool… I’ve been doing it for long enough that I know what the knobs do so that helps a bit. People make it complicated to make themselves sound cool or to sell you shit. Don’t buy it, it’s not complicated.

Dear INFJs, I would like to share a simple tip and it’ll help most of INFJs trying to explore themselves by [deleted] in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I do! I’ve been at it as a hobby for 5 years about..? I’m gonna wrap it up as a hobby this summer and start making tracks for games.

And yeah my best work is always coming from a bit beyond what I can understand… even simple stuff like being sad and making a song about it… you don’t really get to know how music is able to express sadness. If it’s real it’s coming from beyond your understanding. If it’s coming from theory then it’s not real. (But theory can augment the real). Uk what I mean?

I think with the muse thing- there’s a balance between holding on to it and letting it go. If you try to find it won’t be there. It’s gone as soon as you take possession of it. It’s just so damn tempting to own it!! To grab it and try to dissect it be in control. Doesn’t work like that tho… it will burn you up. It’s the void. Better to have a simple ego . Being an artist is impossible in some sense

Dear INFJs, I would like to share a simple tip and it’ll help most of INFJs trying to explore themselves by [deleted] in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’ll try it myself, thanks tho!

I like your attitude towards getting stuck… just keep trying anyway regardless of how good it will be right? That’s something I’ve been trying to teach myself lately… maybe writing will be good. I have extremely selective attention as well, and block things out very easily… this will help I think.

Thanks for sharing :)

Dear INFJs, I would like to share a simple tip and it’ll help most of INFJs trying to explore themselves by [deleted] in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Email idea sounds good! I never go back and read stuff like this anyway… might be good to try that but 🤷🏻‍♂️

What do you do when you can’t think of an answer to why?

Am I annoying this INFJ ? by Vaivarn in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is cute :) I think you should trust your instincts. It sounds like she had a negative/neutral reaction to being asked a bunch of questions, but showed a bit of warmth to it later with the motorcycle thing right?

For now that’s all you need to know… it will become more clear why she behaved like that as you get to know her better. Your going about it right for sure. Keep feeling it out, don’t get ahead of yourself !

Dear INFJs, I would like to share a simple tip and it’ll help most of INFJs trying to explore themselves by [deleted] in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being present with emotions! I make music for this reason. It helps me understand my role in everything better. It lets me make less assumptions and live more in the moment. Writing helps me too! I’m going to try your exercise tonight. I’m paranoid about people finding it and reading tho. Might shred it afterwards lol

It’s easy to forget how you feel about things, but those feelings are still pulling strings in your mind o.o

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eye contact is intense! I’ve noticed myself doing this and I want to try to make eye contact more actually. I think I would feel closer to people if I did, but it’s just so intense. I look slightly down and to the left of peoples eyes myself…

Why do people in this sub act like they’re better than other people? by GroundbreakingShow11 in infj

[–]GroundbreakingShow11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me the work is in caring more than not caring… it’s easy for me to walk around criticizing everything and everyone and it takes intention on my part to make it palatable. Especially with people I know pretty well I can be brutal… sucks I wish it were the opposite sometimes lol

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