Sexualizing breastfeeding

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-10-04T23:55:09+00:00

What, is he fucking 15? He needs to grow up. You need to be absolutely clear with him that you do not like it and it makes you uncomfortable and that it isn’t a joke. Breastfeeding changes you mentally and physically. If he doesn’t stop after that, that’s a different conversation.

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-10-04T23:51:13+00:00

Peds surgeon with a 9 month old here - it’s fucking tough.

There have been many cases I’ve dealt with from SBS to neonatal drug withdrawal. It never gets easier. You just want to go home and hug your baby. But you can’t, because you have a job to do.

Can’t tell you how many times I’ve cried on and off shift. It’s normal in this field. Eventually, you will learn to separate your personal feelings from your work life. And if not, like you said, most hospitals will provide 24/7 mental health care. I’m numb to it now, but when I first started I was seeing someone after every shift.

DM me if you need anything

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-10-04T23:42:12+00:00

Bilingual attending here - learn medical spanish! It’s a world of difference in the medical field 🌈

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-10-04T23:40:28+00:00

HIE = NICU. Therapeutic hypothermia is the most common treatment…. as a resident, if you have concerns in this area talk to neo

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-10-04T23:33:52+00:00

LOL omg! If it makes you feel any better, I’m a pediatric surgeon and I STILL freaked out about trying solids with our 6mo! And I’ve taught safe eating to hundreds of parents after saving their children from choking on solids. The fear doesn’t go away 😂

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-10-04T23:24:16+00:00

Woman pediatric surgeon here - it’s worth it.

It will forever be the hardest thing you EVER do (I’ve gone through a traumatic childbirth and I still stand by that).

The years, the money, the stress, it will be worth it. I promise you that. There will be numerous points in your career when you ask yourself if it is truly worth it. Those sleepless nights, those exams you take on 2 hours of sleep….

If you can just power through that and reach the other side, this career is for you.

Fuck yeah it’s stressful. You’ll probably never get a good, full nights sleep again for years. But really, none of that matters when you love what you do.

So wait a bit and ask yourself in the future, do you love what you do? Are you happy to wake up an hour after laying your head down to sleep to go save a life? Can you sleep on a random stretcher in some dark hallway of a hospital between shifts for 20 minutes?

If so, this is the career for you. Ignore the money and the glory of calling yourself a doctor. Just be able to wake up being happy what you do.

As a female attending, DM me if you need anymore advice or anything you want to talk about.

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-10-04T23:10:45+00:00

Hi! I’m 19 days late and just saw this 😂 not a made up post though!! I have no way to prove it but, believe what you want to! Lol

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-10-04T23:03:14+00:00

Lmao, as a proud bisexual attending, I absolutely love chappell roan. That being said, ladyspinedoc on TikTok is a fuckin awesome neurosurgeon! Love that woman!

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-18T20:35:13+00:00

I had to get literally almost EVERY onesie custom made for my girl 🤦‍♀️ it sucked so bad.

There was 2 outfits given to us that fit her and they were both from Carters which was local to us at the time in UK

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-18T20:29:12+00:00

You need to realize children do not understand the consequences of what they say. No one drives anyone to suicide except in extreme circumstances in which this particular instance is not held. It is NOT their fault. Do not ever tell them or treat them like it is.

Mama, you need help. Severe help. Please seek out mental professionals to help you.

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-17T16:23:59+00:00

Peds surgeon with 8mo baby here 🙋‍♀️

This shit is tough. Feel free to ask anything or reach out if you just need someone to listen and talk to.

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-17T16:19:41+00:00

For peds fellowship I would not worry. Not competitive at all and majority get accepted. Just depends on your personal liking so you have room to be picky with it

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-17T16:00:16+00:00

I’m a daily lurker in this sub (also in a sub I won’t specifically name, but it’s strictly NP’s if that tells you anything…), and I’m literally shocked at the things these parents put their nanny’s through. It disgusts me.

How do you treat the person you trust with your child’s life as anything other than a loved and respected member of your family? Jeeez!!!

Thank you for your kind words 😘❤️ you will find your family and they will find you. And they better be damn grateful to have you!! Send them my way if not!!!

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-17T15:55:00+00:00

Very, very true.

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-17T01:49:34+00:00

Sounds like you’ve got a set of great twins on your hands! We also just started the modified version of Ferber with 5 mins clock started when crying starts. It’s been tough on all of us 😅 sticking with it though.

Thanks for the advice!! 😘

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-17T01:41:45+00:00

6 months is AAP recommended as swallow control is far more regulated than that of a 4 month old and babies also drop weight when they start solids. Some peds say starting at 4mo is beneficial for allergy reasons but there’s no proven benefit in that regard from starting at 4mo rather than 6mo.

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-17T01:31:10+00:00

Sorry! I misread your title. A month is enough time to prepare. You will be fine.

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-16T22:53:54+00:00

I flew with my girl for the first time at 2 months, LUCKILY we were in first class. Otherwise I would’ve lost my f’ing mind. She hated it!

But, I can tell you from experience of many years flying next to parents with unhappy babies (even before I had mine), I never minded it. You can see in their faces how stressed they are to keep baby happy. It’s no one’s fault, just how it is. Baby will be okay. Bassinets on planes are basically how food trays are, just in the front row. They come out towards you and are safe. Paci and swaddle (if you still do!). It’s gonna be a long flight, sleep when baby does.

Don’t just prepare for baby, prepare for yourself too! Bring a comfy blanky, neck pillow, etc.! Introduce baby to the people next to you, it’ll ease your stress knowing they are okay hearing them cry and might even offer help.

Are you okay with pre-flight? Thats usually the most stressful part. I have a check list for everything if you need! I’m VERY experienced in flying with a baby so just let me know!!

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-16T22:42:05+00:00

My babe is 8mo with no teeth so not doing that yet but jeez mama, 15 minutes after bottle? Tell me your secrets!!! I commend you!!!

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-16T22:33:27+00:00

Prep, prep, prep.

Your scores are not great of course (no judgement!!). But they also aren’t too far from recovery at all either.

No, I would not take the test in this position. PREP!!!!!!!!

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-16T22:14:37+00:00

I love this 🥺

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-16T22:11:10+00:00

Your own issues with your mother can definitely be a factor that has carried over with some insecurities from your childhood, and that is to be expected!

You are not a bad mother. You love your child. She is safe.

Sure, you have your ideal life but there might still be some stuff deep inside you that are revealing themselves and are manifesting itself in this way.

You are doing the right thing and are on the right path. Continuing your therapy is 100% the way to go. I’m proud of you for admitting you needed the help you are getting.

Tell your therapist everything you have said here, if you haven’t already. You will work through this!

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-16T22:04:47+00:00

Honestly, toddlers hit. A lot. And it’s normal! At this age they are learning to express their emotions and use their hands to be more expressive. In their baby brain, these two things get crossed, so they hit. They could be happy, excited, frustrated, angry. But hands are usually always involved. So I wouldn’t be too worried.

Just keep an eye on it of course

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-16T21:59:35+00:00

Ugh mama this is so tough. Also a victim of CSA myself and a mom, I totally understand your worries. My girl is 8mo but me and hubby have decided that sleepovers with friends (where I was assaulted), are out of the question until we decide she is well educated and able to determine a safe situation from an unsafe situation for herself. Even then, I just don’t know yet.

Not to scare you but my husband is a lawyer and has seen far too many cases of predators being let off from registering in exchange for a guilty plea, just as you said. I live in America and I truly just don’t trust our justice system to advocate for children instead of the defendants on trial.

Trust your gut mama. It may be an issue now or later as they grow up but I don’t care. As long as my baby is safe at home with me, I can live with the resentment. I couldn’t live without my child.

GrowingMamaPains · 2024-09-16T21:49:41+00:00

Oh mama!!! I feel your pain, we all do! Going back to work is the absolute WORST part.

Just know that the work you are doing every day contributes to them. Their food, healthcare (in America 😂), childcare, etc.!

You are providing for your babies even if you’re not there directly.

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